Same for point 1! I'm naturally quite 'stand-off-ish' so people stay away from me. Some people comment that when when they first saw me, it felt like I had this invisible wall around me. LOL. But I don't mind it at all - in fact, the more people stay away and give me my space, the better! There is only so much interaction I can take in a day.1. No, usually people stay away from me.
2. That is a harder question... I haven't defined that for myself yet. Lack of data perhaps.
Don't know about 'drawing people' LOL I seem to have the effect of a human-repellent. Which suits me fine.I have close friends but I'm very selective about these. It's a time-tested close circle.I think the ISTP personality naturally draws people to us. Let's face it...we kick ass.
Generally speaking, I don't mind people getting close to me. In fact I welcome it. Close friends are of very high value to me.
Problems of 'clingyness' arise when people expect me to always spend time with them at every beck and call. I value personal space, and others need to understand that. When I back off from relationships 9/10 it's because I need space, not because I find a person to be flawed.
On the other hand, some people are just too clingy. These would be the one's who ask or even try and manipulate me into talking about my feelings. Which is very offputting. When I trust you, and i'm ready, you'll get to see them. But push me and that could end our relationship/friendship.
But you are INFJ, and you guys rock my world! An INFJ friend of mine came to learn 'the boundries' very quickly, and as such we get along just fine. Give an ISTP personal space and respect his/her privacy of feelings and you usually can't go far wrong.
Hope that helps. :wink:
Okay, yeah I can see how that was exaggerated. For the most part ISTP's can repel others quite frequently.Don't know about 'drawing people' LOL I seem to have the effect of a human-repellent. Which suits me fine.I have close friends but I'm very selective about these. It's a time-tested close circle.
Completely agree with your para 2 - I absolutely detest people who try hard to get into my head. I react by shutting them out tightly. I find it offensive and invasive.
Yes they do; that's one of the reasons why I keep a safe distance away from them.Do people tend to cling to you? what is your definition of being too clingy?
I would have to agree with you, ISTP tend to be constant observers and from what Ive seen and from what others have told me we can apear unaproachable or pensive. Yet when we put on the social face people are drawn to us, however this takes a lot of energy out of me personally, and I would imagine so for others.Havent let anyone close enough to even consider clingy for so long... So dont know how to define it. In general, people leave me alone unless i put on the social face.