Where did I say that?No, that might be why people give you a hard time about telling other people what about your body that you like. Because narcissism is a thing.
I was responding to those two particular paragraphs. You like yourself and that's a good thing, but some people may wrongly interpret your appreciating yourself as gloating and that's why some people may want to "bring you down a notch or two". I think you'd be surprised what the average person considers to be too much self-love and where the point that admiring yourself means narcissism.Where did I say that?
People are having a conversation about how much they hate their bodies and you think I cut in with what I think of my body? Mostly people assume I'm not comfortable talking about my body because I haven't shared my thoughts. The entire point is that it's not okay just be happy with your body. If I felt I could just express that, why would I even post this thread?
Your conflation and over stating the case is obvious, and I know, especially to you.I made a post about this year(s) ago on this [site]. If you do not openly hate yourself with low/non-existent self-esteem, that is considered offensive and unnatural. There will be women that attack you for no reason at all because you're tired of hearing that mentally ill "I hate my body, society forces me to hate my body" spam everyday. I would say surround yourself by women that do not whine about this day in and day out and blame the world while simultaneously doing 0 self-improvement work or better their self-esteem and confidence as women outside of all the extra shit. This is incredibly immature, and most girls should be striving to grow out of that teengirl mindset by 20-30s. It's completely fucking weird to say things like, "I hate my body" and we are conditioned to think that's some normal thing to be hearing from women. Like no, that sounds fuckign weird and isn't cute to say. You sound ill. What are doing to work on confidence legitimately that doesn't involved some weird political movement? Not one of these impersonal women march whatever has made me feel any kind of way about myself on a personal level. Usually nothing gets fixed in these women, and there fucking 35 years old still in the same teengirl mindset when it comes to body issues.
Low self-esteem and perpetually abnormal thought patterns in women is considered humility and feminine, and most women have bought into it and think they are functioning at peak health efficiency than they are. That's the biggest garbage I've heard. It also probably comes from some ego-driven male type shit that tends to think mentally unhealthy or mentally ill women with self-hatred are a natural and normal state of a woman and women should strive for it. Part of it is male ignorance regarding what mentally ill actually look like and how these mental disorders manifest in women in comparison to men. She looks "all that" but sometimes the chick has a severe mental disorder and is unstable. Then there highly weird group of women that hate themselves and bodies and cannot communicate anything in adult form to a human man, and that's considered "shy, feminine and cute" like that's normal. Men are most responsive to women that exhibit a fuckton of insecurities and retarded anxieties and social phobias in regard to herself because it's so normalized, when she should be working on overcoming these things just like socially retarded men.
I think there's another aspect to this situation, that people don't seem comfortable with addressing.
There have been few times in history wherein, not only premarital sex, but casual sex has been normalized the way it is now, and accommodated to the degree it has, as well. How people encounter sex influences how people see potential partners. We live in world in which people make billions of swipes on Tinder every day. There is also the possiblity that many women, including very attractive women, are actually dissatisfied with their bodies, because this hook up culture that we have, forces women to compete on levels of attractiveness at a level that women might not feel compelled to, if women were merely competing for the attention of ONE man to keep has a life long partner. When women seek partners, they don't seek the average guy who's into them, but the top tier men, and top tier men only want top tier women when it comes to attractiveness, so there's a lot of both insecurity (hating their own bodies) among women who are not the top 5-10% in attractiveness, and a lot of sour grapes towards the women who are.
The other thing I didn't mention either, was that women enjoying their own attractiveness isn't something that society discourages among women in real life, but it seems to be carrying over to film and the media. I always laugh when watching reviews of Marvel comics and they mention the "marvel approved body type", which is a woman with a boyish figure, no boobs, no butt, nothing. Now, there's nothing wrong rail thin women with more boyish figures, and I know some men love women like this, but there's a general culture of fearing curves, fearing the kinds of women that would traditionally be considered highly sexually desirable. But, the women who lead the campaign against such portrayals of women are feminists, and are probably women who believe in this idea of young women playing the field, not having babies, not seeking a life long partner, but feeling like "if the boys can sow their oats in their youth, why can't the girls?"
But this game of playing the field is way more unkind to women than it is to men, because men will determine based on beauty and youth, whereas women will determine based on personality and wealth, hence a man can keep going even into old age if he has enough money and charm, but a woman loses out relatively early as there's always someone younger and prettier than her.
I personally believe that women should love their bodies and love how they look, because there will always be a man who will love their body as well. But, I'm a big proponent of monogamy. I have one man who thinks I'm beautiful. If other men think I'm beautiful is something I don't care about, because I'm not looking to attract any other man, but the one I have. Of course I want to look good for him. I'm not ONLY happy with the way I look because of him, but I do feel like, if he's happy with my body and my looks, then, so am I. I don't feel compelled to join in with these women who hate their bodies, because, for one thing, I'm not in competition with any other woman, so I don't have to outdo any other woman when it comes to looks, and because I'm content.
Where did I say all women were like this? It is not just women that trash other women either, lul. Yes women do this, but men do it a fuck ton too. They gossip like women, it just doesn't "look like that". It's framed as man shit talk. People naturally shit talk other people and it is a very common thing, maybe not directly to their face, but they do. I do it myself.All men are not like that. There are more mature men out there (than the mean).
All women are not like that. There are more mature women out there (than the mean).