I don't think any black and white answer would hit the mark.Would that adaptability be who "yourself" is anyway, or do you feel it's disingenuous, that there is a "you" that people don't see?
I am a 9w1 myself, and I relate to what @Antipode is saying. To add on, I would say that personalities are multifaceted. Typically, people have a variety of different interests, and very rarely to they find someone whom they can share every one of their interests with. For example, I am a huge music fanatic and love all types of music. When I am with my father, we listen to classic rock, and when I am with my sister, we listen to pop music. This doesn't mean that I am being any less myself when I am with these two individuals -- I am just choosing to show the side of me that would best appeal to them at that moment. I love MBTI stuff and psychology, but I am also interested in foreign languages, programming, and a variety of other things. If I find someone who is only interested in one of those, I will discuss those things with them and will leave out discussions on things that they are interested in. This is because, as a type 9, I highly value my sense of comfort and so I do not want to make anyone else feel uncomfortable as a result.Would that adaptability be who "yourself" is anyway, or do you feel it's disingenuous, that there is a "you" that people don't see?
As bold as it sounds, I really don't think that makes as big of a difference as the language you speak to each other. You're talking about a aspect of "communication," again, the content - the content of what you communicate about yourself. A type 9 INFJ and a type 1 INFJ will communicate different content of what they see about themselves. But I guarantee that the type 1 INFJ in this example will feel more "like" the INFJ 9 than, say, an ESTJ type 1, even though both 1's may talk about principles, etc.@Figure - surely though we communicate with others through a different channel where the motivations do have an effect on the way we interact with others, attachments types for example have a different sense of boundaries than withdrawn types, the differences between the way a type 9 and a type 1 communicates aspects of themselves is different. there is validity towards enneagram types in communication just coming from a deeper place. one doesn't disqualify the other necessarily.
In a way you are right but in another you are wrong.As far as I am concerned, sometimes criticism annoyed me but after I had let my anger go I re-examined the issue and found new dimensions to it which I'd overlooked before.I'm a 5w4 ISTP.
When I'm around:
Ones - I shut up and let them do their thing. Many times they have thought about it harder than I have. Plus I think it's a waste of time to argue. Sometimes I find their crankiness/meticulousness cute
The OP / thread title is way too broadly defined to answer with the concept of self-monitoring alone. Besides that, I am not sure whether I agree with what you are saying here though.@Astrophe posted a funky little test here that measures what I think the OP is getting at.
Some people here have mentioned that they interact differently with MBTI types, but not necessarily enneatypes. I'm this way as well, and to be honest have not found enneagram type to have much of an impact on my relationships with others - at least not in terms of how readily you understand each other. To me, the enneagram offers a lot more about the actual content of one's thoughts and their inner motivations than it does their communication style and means of cognition. People of the same enneagram type can speak radically different languages despite being similarly-motivated - - - and people of different enneatypes can speak the same language despite having different inner fears. People can have the same inner motivations, but communicate and go about them in opposite ways. All of these cases are better understood via Jung.
If you're going to "mirror" others, it's better to do it via cognitive functions or another theory more directly related to how you communicate, and what kinds of information others may subconsciously expect from you. The enneagram is better for understanding someone's internal strugglings, and in developing compassion when they behave in ways you don't understand.