i guess i explained it wrong in here, saying biological differences could be neurosexist so i wanted to change my phrase. i believe that social stigmas has more role in these over all after i think about it again, i think cultural stigmas creating those kind of differences between men and women more than real biological differences. and people's actions grow from those stigmas, we raise our children with those stigmas so of course it's more common to see some differences between women and men but i'm questioning, is it really biological or more kind of historical developments? and stigmas? evolution builds with environment too, so it's really a complex subject, a bit philosophical now. the main question must be, does the environmet creates us, or do we creating the environment? which came first the chicken or the egg?oh thank you X)
yeah, i found it really interesting too, and sometimes everything feels very robotic as well. when i started to search and think about it more. the same think happened with enneagram and MBTI too, it fascinates me to see how much the things we live through our childhood affect us.. whatever we do, we are only able to change very specific things about ourselves, the main emptiness or concerns never changes somehow, even though we know how to deal with those and act, somehow the feeling always stays the same? i mean this happened to me at least, i felt the same things that i felt in my childhood every time.. and sexuality, it builds somehow from genes right? but our sexuality becomes fluid with the environment as well. it's a really interesting subject and i really want to learn about it more too.
and i don't really know about guys being less fluid but it makes some sense somehow. gay guys that i met says that they felt %100 gay and straight ones always says i'm %100 straight, and women that i ask always less sure about it, interestingly, i know bisexual guys as well but lesser than bisexual women, i don't really know if it's generally like this? but if it is, it could makes sense too. women generally have more complex emotions than guys do, don't get me wrong i don't mean more emotinal or deep or having something more developed, i mean having more tendency to crop it into pieces, if it makes sense? and this complexity could lead people to question themselves more? i don't really know.. it could be biological because of ''mother tounge'' stuff (language ability somehow evolved from mother-child relationship, and language is a way to make things more complex), or could be because of social stigmas as well... and even women body shape is less sharp, i know it doesn't makes sense at all, but women or maybe be we should say femininity has more flexible vibe generally, it could explain why feminine people seem more fluid as well too. maybe i should say femininity and masculanity at the beginning because it will make more sense, i don't really think we could say accurate stuff with genders. i met many feminine guys(straight) and many masculine women(straight).. and it would be interesting to talk about why we call some behaviours ''masculine'' and some of them ''feminine'', it is somehow connected with our minds, hormones and many other things.. i don't really know many things about all of this and it won't be right for me to talk about it more, i have thoughts but i should search about it first, there are lots of spectrums and i don't really want to offend anyone. it's really fun to talk about these though.
take care angelfish, it was nice to meet you X)
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Also, women are seen as less threatening in their sexuality. So if a mostly gay man wants to have friends, it's hard to find hetero male friends, so generally he wants to have female friends and it's a lot easier to just be "totally gay" around them if he prefers relationships with men anyway. And likewise with mostly straight men; it's easier to have a circle of hetero male friends if you closet any gay feelings you may have.so i would say, in most cultures, men doesn't hug each other too much or tend to not show their emotions, so because of these stigmas i guess women has more freedom to explore intimate connections than men, so that's why women could be more fluid.
I disagree with that statement- I have many close guy friends and one of my best friend is a guy - he lived with me for a while and we hung out with each other a lot, he even slept over at my house in my room many times - on the floor while I’m in my bed - we have no romantic feelings towards one another .Superficial friendships yeah but getting closer and “ inseparable “ like girl-girl friendships leads to someone developing feelings.
Based solely on the amount of men who told me "I thought you were really hot until I got to know you" (which is an embarrassingly high amount), I don't think everyone has that problem.Professionally, over the internet, and through perhaps shared activities that initially started out as activities (e.g. sports), yes.
But, as in people you hang out with in person on a regular basis for leisure, people who have been a part of your social circuit since your days at elementary/high school, people you've met at parties, and so on, no. I don't find that these connections are built on the same intentions that drove the aforementioned friendships. There's normally something sexual that played a part in driving it to become a friendship. It's not to say you can't be friends, it's to say that you know that these friendships are a bit different than the friendships created out of professional curtsy, online computer games games, forums, and sports.
Professionally, over the internet, and through perhaps shared activities that initially started out as activities (e.g. sports), yes. But, as in people you hang out with in person on a regular basis for leisure, people who have been a part of your social circuit since your days at elementary/high school, people you've met at parties, and so on, no. I don't find that these connections are built on the same intentions that drove the aforementioned friendships. There's normally something sexual that played a part in driving it to become a friendship. It's not to say you can't be friends, it's to say that you know that these friendships are a bit different than the friendships created out of professional curtsy, online computer games games, forums, and sports.