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My friend was going thru my songs on my mp3 player today and i was so uncomfortable. A lot of my songs are philosophical/dark, and almost all of them are very reflective of my most secret beliefs/views. You can literally piece me together by listening to my songs. I felt like i was being exposed in the most personal way.:sad:
 

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I love sharing my music with people. I feel the same way in that a lot of my songs reflect who I am, and that's what I love about them. I feel like showing people what I listen to is the best way of showing them who I really am. A few of the friends I've made on here was through sharing my music.
 

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I know what you mean, but a lot of my music isn't that personal. Some of it is, though. The reason I don't like it when people listen to my mp3 player (and I never have let anyone, haha) is because I don't want to be judged for my music taste. I have some weird stuff on there.

It's also the same reason I don't like to be asked what kind of music I'm into, the other being that I'm into such a wide variety of music and it's so subjective that it really depends a lot. I can't really narrow it down.
 

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My mp3 player has so much music on it that I've just amassed from lots of different places, so I guess it's not as personal when someone looks through it. But from the sounds of it you have a really personal attachment to the stuff on there, so I can see why that would feel really awkward or uncomfortable... almost like they're reading a page out of your journal or something.

This might be a bad comparison, but I get really over-invested in movies or shows sometimes and feel kind of... awkward watching them with other people when they're things that have resonated deeply for me. It's like they're sitting there watching it passively, not even realizing how deeply the piece affected me and it's just a strange feeling sometimes.
 

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Yeah I do kind of hate it but mostly because I sometimes have embarassing songs that I use for workouts and I don't want people to think it's the kind of music I like for some reason :tongue:. I don't think anybody's cared enough about me to actually analyze what the songs I listen to mean.. Even then, they don't all reflect what I think about or feel but the songs I love the most, do.

Thinking about it, it does kind of feel like a tiny invasion of privacy.
 

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This might be a bad comparison, but I get really over-invested in movies or shows sometimes and feel kind of... awkward watching them with other people when they're things that have resonated deeply for me. It's like they're sitting there watching it passively, not even realizing how deeply the piece affected me and it's just a strange feeling sometimes.
OR when they actually go out of their way to criticize it and belittle you for sharing that with them.
 

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OR when they actually go out of their way to criticize it and belittle you for sharing that with them.
=/ Psh, that's not cool. The one thing that sets me off like nothing else is when people trivialize the things I find really important. I could be wrong but from my experiences that seems common in INFPs? I mean, it would understandably piss any person off, but I feel like maybe it hurts a lot more when you take everything in and strongly internalize it the way we tend to.
 

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Guys, that sucks! Damn, it hurts me to see you all feeling that way. Nobody should feel ashamed of what they listen to! Gaaaaah!!! Maybe I just don't relate.:unsure: I don't want to deny the way you all feel. I'm just concerned. I want you all to be proud of what you listen to! "THIS IS WHO I AM! IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, YOU CAN GTFO!" Come on, people! Say it with me!
 

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Guys, that sucks! Damn, it hurts me to see you all feeling that way. Nobody should feel ashamed of what they listen to! Gaaaaah!!! Maybe I just don't relate.:unsure: I don't want to deny the way you all feel. I'm just concerned. I want you all to be proud of what you listen to! "THIS IS WHO I AM! IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, YOU CAN GTFO!" Come on, people! Say it with me!
i guess this is why i am "95%" feeling and you are "58%". im envious ...
 

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Depends, but most likely yes. I'm always afraid when my favorite songs comes on because when someone disapproves it's like a mark against me. I have gone to downloading a lot of what my friends like and claiming their tastes as my own, and in this way I protect myself from their judgment, either that or I look to my German music for the sort of songs I really like -afterall, I can just say 'oh this song is german, you won't understand it' *skip*
 

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Depends, but most likely yes. I'm always afraid when my favorite songs comes on because when someone disapproves it's like a mark against me. I have gone to downloading a lot of what my friends like and claiming their tastes as my own, and in this way I protect myself from their judgment, either that or I look to my German music for the sort of songs I really like -afterall, I can just say 'oh this song is german, you won't understand it' *skip*
Yeah, it's nice when there's a song in German or some other language I study/speak and no one can understand it but me, so I can't really be judged for it :proud:.
 

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I have reservations against sharing my music with others. Mainly because everyone I know listen to few songs from many artists, while I listen to many songs from few artists; for me music isn't just about the music, it's also about the artist. I like to have some kind of "relationship" to the artists.

Also, I have many songs on my MP3 that I've recorded myself. I don't want everyone listening to those...
 

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Yeah, it's nice when there's a song in German or some other language I study/speak and no one can understand it but me, so I can't really be judged for it :proud:.
I can judge you as the weird person who listens to music in languages other than the Queen's own English. Is the Queen not good enough for you?

I actually like people looking at my music library. It is diverse enough that bands or songs I might really connect with aren't readily apparent, and also because I am a total show off at heart so I love it when people recognise (or are baffled by!) my 'superb' taste. Music is something I kind of really love, and so any chance I have to rattle on about it, or find someone who likes some of the same kind of things is one I will often happily take.

Usually though, people won't let me anywhere near their stereos once they have let me choose the music once or twice. Can't imagine why.
 

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i think it's quite fun. the usual responses are that i have many strange but strangely awesome bands, i also get "you have all the Britney Spears records?!!? why?!!? and AQUA!"

my iPod has the darkest and lightest music on the planet, i think. much variety, so generally there is something for everyone on there, and i mean that seriously. indian, gypsy, classical, folk, pop, avant-garde, punk, torture music, porno soundtracks, polka and russian/scandinavian folk, electro, hip-hop....etc etc etc

lotsa tuneage
 

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My friend was going thru my songs on my mp3 player today and i was so uncomfortable. A lot of my songs are philosophical/dark, and almost all of them are very reflective of my most secret beliefs/views. You can literally piece me together by listening to my songs. I felt like i was being exposed in the most personal way.:sad:
Full know what you mean! Musics very personal to me, I don't mind giving people recommendations, but when they're going though it I feel pretty vulnerable. Then there's always the few songs/bands you hope they don't notice :p
 
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My friend was going thru my songs on my mp3 player today and i was so uncomfortable. A lot of my songs are philosophical/dark, and almost all of them are very reflective of my most secret beliefs/views. You can literally piece me together by listening to my songs. I felt like i was being exposed in the most personal way.:sad:
Pretty much. I feel the same. I hate lending my mp4 to people, everyone.
It's my mp4, and I feel like they were sucking my soul or something. well.
It's like you couldn't be yourself.
I feel pretty the same with the songs, if you listen to the songs you're listening to my whole life. Im' so attached to songs emotionally, and intelectually, man...sometimes I listen to music from a few years ago to know what was I thinking about, like a kind of analysis. For example...Tori Amos. When I was 14, I liked Tori Amos, Marilyn Manson, and it all showed my mind state of the year, which was too dark for people but liberating for me.

You're not alone, my songs are too pretty philosophical and dark.
i can't love them different.
:)

And the worse part is not only that, but that everytime someone will dissaprove. When my favourite songs will pop, or I show my feelings, they'll look at me with a bad face and call me anything. Know what I mean, hey? And most people don't know the artists I listen to :D
 
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