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I find it incredibly difficult to say something mean to someone directly - to tell them off even if they deserve it.
For example, the other night when I was really drunk at a gathering of family friends, I started typing everyone. I told this ENTP guy that he was an asshole and that it fits because a lot of ENTPs are assholes (sorry all those nice ENTPs out there). Anyway, afterwards I felt incredibly regretful because I insulted him to his face (and not in the playful, teasing way that friends tease each other) even though I was reassured by everyone that 1. he is an asshole 2. he wasn't offended 3. I was really drunk.
I don't think a lot of people have the same qualms that I have about it. I wonder if it's because because it's an INFP thing. If it is, I think this ties in neatly with the whole idea that us INFPs get taken advantage of because we don't say anything. Although you could argue that being upfront is not necessarily being mean ... unfortunately, in some cases, I can't help but think that it is.
For example, the other night when I was really drunk at a gathering of family friends, I started typing everyone. I told this ENTP guy that he was an asshole and that it fits because a lot of ENTPs are assholes (sorry all those nice ENTPs out there). Anyway, afterwards I felt incredibly regretful because I insulted him to his face (and not in the playful, teasing way that friends tease each other) even though I was reassured by everyone that 1. he is an asshole 2. he wasn't offended 3. I was really drunk.
I don't think a lot of people have the same qualms that I have about it. I wonder if it's because because it's an INFP thing. If it is, I think this ties in neatly with the whole idea that us INFPs get taken advantage of because we don't say anything. Although you could argue that being upfront is not necessarily being mean ... unfortunately, in some cases, I can't help but think that it is.