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I've never really met another female INTJ in real life. I was trying to Youtube some, but it seems like everyone acts so differently. Do you guys identify with these ladies at all? The one with the black hair reminds me so much of a relative of mine that it's creepy.


 

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I somewhat can relate to them, in terms of when they were speaking about emotions. Although, I wouldn't say that I feel particularly intense emotions, unless there's some significant stress that causes it. Overall, I think I'm more serious and reserved than these women. They seem very relaxed and, from what I've seen, have pretty good social skills, these are both things that I don't display.

However, if I was sat in a room with a bunch of people (a mixture of INTJs and non-INTJs) these aren't the first people that I'd guess were INTJs.
 
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not a whole lot. it seems to me more like they just blether on about the stereotypes without getting into anything substantive enough about what's under teh stereotypes.

there were a few things here and there that felt recognizable, but it wasn't their content (which i found pretty forgettable, personally). it was more the patterns and the occasional other indicators of their thought directions. that 'agh, you made me think something and now i forget it' was one. the way the brunette went straight to 'how does the villain phenomenon happen at all' was another. the point about how movie villains aren't people at all; they're constructs.

the world-domination talk i just thought was silly. the 'strange relationship with emotions' thing annoyed me. sounded to me more like pandering to the definition of us as being that way than anything useful to anybody.

to be fair i find any person sitting on youtube and trying to describe how they process too precious-sounding to be meaningful anyway. it doesn't mean that they're not meaningful. just that the medium itself is one that i have an aversion to. i think it skews credibility by definition.
 

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Blonde/ginger chick is annoying. She asks the other chick a question then doesn't let her finish her answer. Got three minutes into this before I decided it was a waste of my time. Kind of doesn't make sense anyway, would you as an INTJ go onto YouTube to talk about yourself for 20 minutes at a time? I wouldn't.
 

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Hmm, I don't know about those two ladies...but I've only ever known 1 INTJ female in my life, and she is a solid this girl right here:


I'm not kidding...it's actually creepy how much this person reminds me of my intj childhood friend I grew up with. Which takes a lot for me to say, because I can never just find someone who even remotely reminds me of her. Even their mannerisms and smiles are similar lol. She seriously stood out among the rest, though. I feel like she needs a kind of tribute. There was no one like her anywhere, and so much more to her than what you could see from simply a surface view. She often did not smile, which is not to say that she was always down in the dumps, just that she mostly wore an expressionless face. But if you got to know her a decent amount, you could tell somewhat how she was feeling based on her eyes I'd say. I considered her my only friend for much of my childhood and teen years. School was very cliquey so nearly everyone sat in relatively large cliques together at lunch. But we only had each other at a two person table in the cafeteria. Except when my intp friend would occasionally venture away from his nerd table to visit us from time to time. My favorite topic with her though, was how much we/she hated everyone else and school in general. And things in general. She really liked to talk about how stupid something was. She did it best.

People actually used to call us the, "Alien twin sisters." I can only imagine because we rarely ever talked, and I guess from also slightly looking like each other from the back? We pretty much did everything together when possible. During school that is. Out of school we found it harder to meet up, since we both lived different lives. Not in the sense of values, actually we have similar values because we're both Christians, but in other ways. She barely had any access to technology because of financial struggles, and her house was very tiny compared to what I'm used to at least. They depended a lot upon her mother's daycare at their house, so it was usually too busy over there. We also preferred being alone, but we did have the occasional slumber party and other birthday visits. Actually yeah, they were 90% birthday parties, because it became a routine, "Thingy that is a me-holiday so it's easier to plan because we now have more of a reason to actually ask the other to hang out with us, since we fail at arranging random hang outs on a whim." And when we did hang out, it was sometimes awkward in the beginning, and we'd kinda just...stand around. Which drove her dad insane. Like when he once said, "Why aren't you guys doing what girls do! Talk! Giggle! Excited...SOMETHING!" Lol but obviously we'd eventually warm up and it was all fun from there. You see another side to them. They can be just as silly as any other type when they feel like it. Just in a different way.

We even had our own segment for this stupid morning news...thingy for school. But we were forced to. So everyone sort of knew us from that, which is where I believe the nickname started. It was the, "Words of Wisdom" segment. We both hated it. I looked back at our intro recently, and the cringey things we purposefully added in there to make it as terrible as it could possibly be, just kills me. But she didn't even try to hide her lack of enthusiasm for it, which made it all the more hilariously bad. I mean she sincerely did not care. I really wish I could find a clip of the actual thing. So yeah, picture a deadpan stare with a monotone voice reciting the words, "When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed. Maya Angelou." Every time. And then I added the most annoying Mexican song I could possibly find for the end, not the El Jarabe Tapatio but something lesser known and therefore less tolerable. It's funnier than I used to remember it.

There's a lot more to say than this, obviously. Mostly random, nostalgic things I don't want to get into because nostalgia is nostalgia. But she is by far one of the most unique, intelligent kind of person I've ever had the pleasure of growing up with and getting to...almost know? I've known her for most of my life, but I still feel like there were so many things I didn't actually...know about her. I think INxJs are the type of people you can be close to for years, and yet there may always remain an air of mystery around them that you still can't seem to put your finger on exactly...

It's really unfortunate that it's not easy to find an intj female irl. People are missing out.
 

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Hmm, I don't know about those two ladies...but I've only ever known 1 INTJ female in my life, and she is a solid this girl right here:
THIS!
I saw her a while ago and I "fell in love" with her, kind of. She seemed so familiar to me. I think I remind her a lot in real life, especially when I was younger.
The ginger-ish girl, I also saw her videos while back... I do not identify with her at all, if I ever met her I'd label her as an ISTJ, a strong sensor for sure. I find her irritating, tbh.
 

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I relate the most to that bored blinking the black-haired one was giving throughout the video.

'Emotions and logic not touching' was true a long time ago. Nowadays, I analyze both to make sure my decisions make sense. As for sharing how I feel... only when it makes sense. There are a lot of ifs involved in that process.

These two weren't that organized, so it was hard to focus on whatever they were saying. They're cute though. I don't have a problem with the red-haired one.
 
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Hmm, I don't know about those two ladies...but I've only ever known 1 INTJ female in my life, and she is a solid this girl right here:

Is this a typical thing for INTJs not to watch the person they are speaking to?

I have it. I look everywhere but only stop at the person I'm talking to at times. Otherwise I can't think logically. This girl seems to have it to.

I don't have any problems looking people in the eyes when they are speaking. But looking them in the eyes and talking at the same time is something I simply can't do.
 

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Hmm, I don't know about those two ladies...but I've only ever known 1 INTJ female in my life, and she is a solid this girl right here:

Yes, she reminds me of a younger me. The first two women I couldn't watch for more than about 30 seconds. It was the eyebrows and the matching glasses and the scary fake smiles. They creeped me out.
 

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I don't have any problems looking people in the eyes when they are speaking. But looking them in the eyes and talking at the same time is something I simply can't do.
I do that exact thing as well. It's weird.
 

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Is this a typical thing for INTJs not to watch the person they are speaking to?

I have it. I look everywhere but only stop at the person I'm talking to at times. Otherwise I can't think logically. This girl seems to have it to.

I don't have any problems looking people in the eyes when they are speaking. But looking them in the eyes and talking at the same time is something I simply can't do.
I don't have that, but I was conditioned to stare intently at people when they speak and when I speak to them. The natural unease I feel shows through my hands or leaning back to force a dominant-comfortable vibe when the other person is obviously confrontational. My eyes do shift a lot when I'm thinking, usually up to roll around or a squint.
 

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I've never really met another female INTJ in real life. I was trying to Youtube some, but it seems like everyone acts so differently. Do you guys identify with these ladies at all? The one with the black hair reminds me so much of a relative of mine that it's creepy.


I can (look) at this video-image [without playing - mostly the distracting humanoid on the left/iPhone emoji background]; and already say, I probably do not relate. &, that is only the fun-part about reckless bias/error(s) often unique to INTJ specimen(s). I would click play, but my ears are occupied.

I contend, however, (other intuitive) women are almost indistinguishable (with distinctions via deeper analysis), from thinking/intuitive women.

 
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Is this a typical thing for INTJs not to watch the person they are speaking to?

I have it. I look everywhere but only stop at the person I'm talking to at times. Otherwise I can't think logically. This girl seems to have it to.

I don't have any problems looking people in the eyes when they are speaking. But looking them in the eyes and talking at the same time is something I simply can't do.
I always thought I had a problem with eye contact, then I found a study somewhere once that the average amount of time spent making eye contact while talking is only about 30%. I forget the number for listening to someone else, but it was much higher. So I think the INTJ way is actually normal. haha.
 

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I actually don't relate hardly at all to the "vibe" that these two are putting out. I don't know, it's hard to describe with words, but to me it just seems like they've taken an MBTI test on the internet and have put on the type like an ill fitted t-shirt. It's just hanging there on their bodies loosely and awkwardly with no real definition or structure. It's as if someone told them how to be, and now they are behaving that way. I have a few friends like that, and they come off as very odd caricatures of the types that they believe they are.

I do relate a lot more to the other girl what was posted on here. I was a lot like her when I was a young teenager.
 

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I used to watch this channel (I mean.. no new content for awhile). A female INTJ on here once told me her eyes are scary. lol.

 

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I always thought I had a problem with eye contact, then I found a study somewhere once that the average amount of time spent making eye contact while talking is only about 30%. I forget the number for listening to someone else, but it was much higher. So I think the INTJ way is actually normal. haha.
I've had many people telling me that I don't look people in the eye when speaking. So it's not just my impression.

The girl in the video seems similar.

And no, it doesn't have anything to do with insecurity. I'm very self-confident. I just can't focus when looking people in the eye.
 

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A female INTJ on here once told me her eyes are scary. lol.
I watched almost a minute of that video. Whichever "female" "INTJ" said that was either deliberately lying, or mistaken. There's nothing wrong with the woman's eyes. However, she appears to have nothing to say, so that's her problem.

About the black-and-white videos. I watched I think all of them, mostly because the girl, Annette or something, seemed to be someone I could understand. It doesn't hurt that she's easy on the eyes, but her nasty accent cancels that out, so forget about that.

It's extremely disturbing that the tard school flunky who made these "interviews" chose to deliberately shoot them like pornography, including off-camera verbal interaction with his actors, and obfuscatory photography.

Yeah, I'm not a "lady," exactly, but I do identify with the young woman in the above B&W videos -- she has a little more Te on the ball than I did at that age, but pretty similar.

About the original video, yeah, to the extent I could sit through some of it, I agree with someone above who said it's just probably some kids screwing around. I wouldn't believe a word either of them said if it came with a cash prize.
 

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I watched almost a minute of that video. Whichever "female" "INTJ" said that was either deliberately lying, or mistaken. There's nothing wrong with the woman's eyes.
It might have been me saying that.

Her eyes are scary because she keeps them open wider than most people, especially when she is emphasizing something. When you can see all of the iris, it is disturbing, because people usually only do that when startled or frightened, extremely excited or intense. But she isn't any of those things, so it creates cognitive dissonance, and makes my gut say something is wrong with her.

Actors use this trick all the time, when they want their character to seem unstable. Do an image search for "Crazy Eyes" and you'll see what I mean.

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It might have been me saying that.
Whoops. Well, you should have seen what I initially said about...you, I guess, before deciding to be diplomatic and nice.

I'd suggest that she's definitely doing some kind of performer's trick, trying to play to the camera, rather than that she's pants-shittingly insane.

It also explains her ghoulish makeup.

I like the performance of the B&W INTJ, plus her eye makeup is more subtle. She doesn't actually appear to be acting at all, so I believe her.

HOWEVER since an aside has been opened, do people really say "I-N-T-J," each letter separately? Or is that a British/Commonwealth thing? I prefer "int" + "j," but really just because it's easier, like pronouncing "SCUBA" or "chmod" or other oddities.
 
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