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So, I have been reading a lot about ENFP's and basically, we are alive! ;)

We are bubbly, cute, funny, active, always jumping around, etc...But sometimes it can be exausthing..
I have a lot of friends who are introverted...and, although they like me, if you ask them what they don't like, they will say something like:

People telling me to smile or asking "are you ok?"
People that seem to not care about things I care about.
Extremely outgoing people
hugging, etc.."

My boyfriend is an INTP and we are very different, of course. He loves me, but sometimes I'm scared that he may get pissed off by my energy or precisely by asking many times: "are you ok?" C'mon, you're supposed to smile!!
Besides, people thinks us to be childish and don't take us seriosuly...
So, I wanted to hear from you... Do you like being ENFP?


 

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90% of the time, I love it :D

The other 10% though, I dunno. I can get pretty lonely sometimes even though I have a large circle of friends and lots of acquaintances because it's so rare to find other Ne doms around. We're not exactly well hidden either, we're usually ridiculously easy to spot(ENTP's too). It can be a little weird being different from most other guys too.

Would I want to change from being an ENFP though? Nope :p We have great imaginations and amazing people skills, we have to be one of the 'best' types xD
 

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Idk, I'm not a "normal" ENFP. I deal with depression, I get lonesome, I bury my head in books. I like the bubbly outgoing can talk to anyone aspect. But I could do without the messiness and the procrastination. And if I could make it through a whole semester without having to FORCE myself to go to class (and sometimes fail at forcing and barely make it there enough to pass the attendance requirement). I don't like the being late all the time aspect. And I don't like wanting EVERYONE to like me and worrying if they don't.
Would I choose to be a different person? No. But do I wish it was a bit easier? Yes.
 

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I've had people think I'm weird even if I'm being nice to them because they're not so used to genuine openness. I tell myself that I'm going to stick with a schedule and form some habits and that's insanely difficult and I end up not doing it.

I don't have my life figured out yet because I'm indecisive.

At the same time, I accept the person I am. I know that I have a lot of faith in people and life in general and no matter what happens, I'll make it through. :)
 

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90% of the time, I love it :D

The other 10% though, I dunno. I can get pretty lonely sometimes even though I have a large circle of friends and lots of acquaintances because it's so rare to find other Ne doms around. We're not exactly well hidden either, we're usually ridiculously easy to spot(ENTP's too). It can be a little weird being different from most other guys too.

Would I want to change from being an ENFP though? Nope :p We have great imaginations and amazing people skills, we have to be one of the 'best' types xD
This.

I would say that we are possibly the most high maintenance type out there, which is my biggest gripe. we need to be one of the most self-discovering people out there, because we need it to help us survive ourselves- i mean, we need socialising, we need connection, we need intellectual stimulation, we need moral standards, we need adventure, we need creativity, we need flexibility, we need this, we need that.. and we need to develop the ability to get all those things we need- some types don't generally have this problem.

Things are never simple for us, and we don't want them to be; in fact from my perspective i don't know how so many people lead such simple lives- i'm having a growing suspicion from looking at people around me, that these people are secretly miserable, but don't know any other way to be. i think i'd find it boring, and i think secretly they do too. despite all my faults, etc. and the occasional low points, i know my life will always be interesting.

but my favourite thing about myself is that i hold this imperturbable belief in the idea that "no matter what happens to me, i will figure it out. by the grace of God and Ne-creative solutions, i will figure anything out, even if it takes a lot of time". it gives me a faith to cling onto in life that everything will always end up ok, almost in the same way that religious faith is for some people.
 

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Yes, i do love being an ENFP. I don't like all of my habits or behaviours, although the good out weighs the bad. I like confusion as crazy as that sounds, i don't like routine, i like everything upside down. I like struggling, saving myself from outsiders who don't have a clue why i say the things i do, why i love the things i love, why i dislike the status quo. When i don't have enough Ne around me, i starve for mutual understanding. I often say " Well if X had been here they would have understood."

I laugh at myself all the time. I blurt out things without thinking. I call people out and this can offend or shock some people, i don't realize what i say sometimes and ask myself " Did i just say that ". I hate BS, i can smell people from a mile if they are lying, insincere, or fake. I love the curiosity of ENFP, and how far we will go to get questions answered.

I get bored so darn easy, people bore me, projects bore me, i always need to be moving mentally or i go crazy. Fi can be a little snot, cold and harsh, at the same time it seems as though its protecting me, keeping me safe and hidden, i like that.

I know i'm naive about some things in life, i'm not bothered by that either. I can't help and protect everyone from the big bad world, again, i'm not bothered by that either. I entertain so many bizzare ideas in my head, and when i let them out, either the dogs bark, or the birds sing ha ! Some days i'm taunted internally, then and only then do i wish i was more of a rational, it passes quickly. The internal process is so intense at times, it can take up to a week to sort out which is draining mentally. I don't know any other way to be thou, and if i had to choose between that process or using Fe to express myself, i would choose the internal battle any day.
 

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This.

I would say that we are possibly the most high maintenance type out there, which is my biggest gripe. we need to be one of the most self-discovering people out there, because we need it to help us survive ourselves- i mean, we need socialising, we need connection, we need intellectual stimulation, we need moral standards, we need adventure, we need creativity, we need flexibility, we need this, we need that.. and we need to develop the ability to get all those things we need- some types don't generally have this problem.

Things are never simple for us, and we don't want them to be; in fact from my perspective i don't know how so many people lead such simple lives- i'm having a growing suspicion from looking at people around me, that these people are secretly miserable, but don't know any other way to be. i think i'd find it boring, and i think secretly they do too. despite all my faults, etc. and the occasional low points, i know my life will always be interesting.

but my favourite thing about myself is that i hold this imperturbable belief in the idea that "no matter what happens to me, i will figure it out. by the grace of God and Ne-creative solutions, i will figure anything out, even if it takes a lot of time". it gives me a faith to cling onto in life that everything will always end up ok, almost in the same way that religious faith is for some people.
Absolutely, and I'd never have it any other way. I only actually feel like I'm using my gifts to their full extent when I'm having to fight to get something I want, or using them to grow in someway. Maybe the first thing is more 7w8, but whatever >.<. But yeah, I think we're lucky in the respect that because we have such a desire for self improvement and growth, we can keep improving while other people I know seem to have peaked at 17/18. It's sad, in a way because I remember looking up to them in highschool and now they're pretty miserable from what I've learned talking to them at parties.

I'd say keeping my life exciting and fun as I grow older is one of my main goals, and I'm pretty sure I'll be able to work out a way to achieve that, even if it 's just spending more time in my own head :p

I'm the same way in believing that no matter what, my life will be AWESOME. It can come across as slightly arrogant self belief when I tell people that, but I completely believe it just because I completely hate the idea of giving up... unless I get bored of something >.<
 

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Well, you guys have many reasons to love yourselves.
I mean, really. :)

You guys exude an insane amount of positive energy and passion. You are not afraid to be amazed or be amazing, shining that light of a thousand colors onto this world which would be otherwise pretty dull (kudos to you guys for making the world brighter). So don't get upset if other people tell you that you're childishbecause, they are the ones who lost that gift of childlike open-mindedness, curiosity, and imagination.

Don't get discouraged and keep up the good work. :p
 

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I do but I struggle with not finding myself a joke when the rest of the world does. I have to work hard on looking at my good qualities because from a conventional sense I'm a bit of a loser.

ENFPs are crazy cute though. And we make others happy, which to me is kinda a big deal.
 
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