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**maybe not hate, but dislike; I was a bit hasty with the title**

I've noticed that, sometimes, the more I like someone, the more likely I am to think they're a Feeler, and that I tend to see people who seem to me to be callous as Thinkers (I often misjudge Thinkers, but I'm trying to get rid of this habit). I might even type them as INFPs if I really do like them (I'm usually pretty good at spotting other INFPs, but my judgement can produce a plurality of them).



Do you mistype people who you like or dislike? Do you tend to have a bigger problem with doing either one?
 
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No, I type everyone accurately. I don't see why you would prefer feelers to thinkers, to me its only about the individual.

The only people I have problem typing are (sometimes) INFJ's and ENFJ's. But after a little bit of thought I usually figure it out.
 

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Hmm. If there's such a thing as typing somebody 'correctly', it would imply that the MBTI theory/theoretical framework is absolute and universal. I doubt it.

What tends to happen is that someone with a positive or negative bias towards a specific MBTI type--a perception based on behavioural stereotypes--assumes that somebody who demonstrates similar behaviours is 'definitely' that particular MBTI type--like how a few isolated instances of circuitous and illogical thinking makes someone a 'Feeler'.

I don't know about typing anybody accurately, but I have different examples of people I like and dislike falling under the same MBTI 'type' categories.
 

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The only way I have found to type accurately is to know how a person is in many different situations and relationships. Like a puzzle. That's why I find the socionics intertype relations to be so useful. If I'm fairly certain of persons A and B and I know how person C interacts with both of them, I have a better chance of knowing what type person C is.

I also find it's easier to look for the tertiary function, since that's the one that people tend to overdo and overestimate, so it can be the most obvious, weirdly (assuming they're older; doesn't work so well with younger people who haven't developed it). My ESFP brother-in-law rides that Te hard. My INTP mother's Si is out of control. Etc, etc.

To answer the OP's question, I have made some serious typing blunders when I'm having extreme difficulties with a person and don't want to be having them. For instance, my older sister and I were very close for years. When our friendship started to fall apart, I didn't understand it. I thought of her as INTJ, because I just assumed we were kindreds. But then I couldn't figure out why she never wanted to engage in Ni with me. Turns out she must be ISTJ, which is the look-alike type of an INTJ. What a revelation that was! I mistype when I want something to be true, and it's not.

I have a serious allergy to Fe and Te, and I tend to overreact internally to people using those functions hardcore....which I'm sure screws up my MBTI aim.
 

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I have sort of an inverse issue. The typing bias I recognize in myself is that I tend to have warmer feelings towards the types of my close loved ones. I tend to see those types in a more positive light. I also tend to base my ideas of types off certain people I know that have exemplified that type to me. I don't tend to type people quickly in the MBTI framework, nor do I believe in "true type" (i.e., one objectively real type for each person), but I think my views on the types are very colored by particular individuals.

I do experience this issue a little more with Enneagram, actually, though. I feel like I see everyone as a 9, 7, or 2. Not really sure why, lol.
 
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No, my feelings towards them do not obscure their type (as far as I am aware anyway). I have loved and hated and nothing'd others while still trying to see them as objectively as possible to determine type. I think I try to see them accurately despite how I want to see them. You might say that I do not inherently hold any great bias or strongly positive/negative associations with any of the functions or stacks.

But I seem to come too far in with people I'm very close with, so that I begin doubting their (and my own) type. Forest through the trees bit. For every idea or assumption I hold about a type, I will look to those closest to me and identify many exceptions. This is just going to come up, with a lot of exposure. You see not only more qualitative sides to personality and psychology, but quantitative observations and interactions.

So then I have to step back, and more, and further to once again identify the trends of the exceptions of the trends of the exception of the original trend. "Is it a squished mosquito, a fossilized fleck of squirrel dung or bellybutton lint in the shape of Christopher Walkin? My god, it's a texture. Some kind of bark texture, but to what? Possibly a fir. Seems very Douglas Fir-ish. Don't those grow in NA and BC? heh.
 
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I'm uncertain how one can know if one has typed another person correctly or incorrectly other than by deciding what one thinks the other's type is and asking that person what her/his type is. If the other is unfamiliar with MBTI, then what is the standard one compares against in deciding correct or incorrect typing of the other by the one?

Is this more of a self-questioning, "Am I being type prejudiced in thinking another person is a given type?"
 
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I don't see why you would prefer feelers to thinkers, to me its only about the individual.
It might be the case that I like Feelers a bit more because my mom (XSFJ) and two siblings (both INFPs like me) are Feelers. My dad took the test and the results indicated that he was XXTJ. I've quite a rocky relationship with him, and he can be rather cruel to my mom at times (they are divorced).

So I supposed I am biased. Like I said, I'm trying to work on losing it. :/
 
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I don't even bother with typing people I dislike... If I figure out the type of a person who I happen to dislike, the typing came first, and the souring feelings later. :tongue:

I'm still wonky when it comes to typing other INFPs. They always end up telling me before I recognize it myself. They're also the only ones besides INFJs that even know what I'm talking about ...
 
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**maybe not hate, but dislike; I was a bit hasty with the title**

I've noticed that, sometimes, the more I like someone, the more likely I am to think they're a Feeler, and that I tend to see people who seem to me to be callous as Thinkers (I often misjudge Thinkers, but I'm trying to get rid of this habit). I might even type them as INFPs if I really do like them (I'm usually pretty good at spotting other INFPs, but my judgement can produce a plurality of them).



Do you mistype people who you like or dislike? Do you tend to have a bigger problem with doing either one?
Hopefully not but I don’t share my typings with people so much. If I mistyped whilst being aware of self bias, which I’m normally careful about, then I’d only be fooling myself. It’s kind of childish to twist a type on someone, don’t you think.
 
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