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I won't ever be happy with a life where I have to spend 8 whole hours doing something I don't want to do in a place I don't want to be every single day. I want to spend those 8 hours doing something that makes me happy too. So I guess my answer is yes. At the moment I'm spending more than half my day every day staring at invoices and being yelled at by my boss for trying to do my job properly and it's soulcrushing. Adulting sucks.
 

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I personally tend to throw myself into work and would be miserable if I didn't find some overall pleasure in it. I also think it's highly possible for anyone to love what they do if you can figure out what feeds you and what drains you. Personally, I get bored easily and like to work autonomously. So I've gravitated towards positions and industries that are complex and varied and environments that provide independence (e.g. project manager, business architect, multi-national company, entrepreneur). It took me awhile to figure this out, and there have been many false starts.

I wish everyone could find something they love to do and someplace where they feel valued. But I understand that for others that feeling may come from a big paycheck or being able to leave the job at the office. To each his own!
 

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I would have chosen an entirely different path if I could be happy being single my whole life. If I didn't need to be a provider & own a house I could have had a fairly stress-free life just following my passion. And maybe added a few years to my life. But that would have severely limited my social options I found out. I've done both. If I had a do-over I think I'd rather fly solo doing what I enjoy. The culture worships success & I've fallen into that mindset too often. I resect self-reliance but I don't envy the rich. Oh, a relative retired from crunching numbers. Paid well but he hated it. He took a manual labor job for 1/4 the money & loves it. And he lost 30 pounds.
 

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INFP here. I need a higher motive to work, like feeing like I am making a difference. If I love what I’m doing, I’ll work myself sick. If I don’t love what I do, I’d rather do nothing. And definition of love, I don’t mean there won’t be aspects of my job I don’t care to do, but if it’s helping someone or a cause I’m passionate about, I’ll do it anyway because it means something to me and them. Which is why I mainly do care taking jobs.

Edit: I tend to never be able to save money because I choose loving what I do over making money. However, if I had more than myself to provide for I’d probably choose a higher paid job so I could support them, though then I’d be working for love of who I’m supporting so in the end I’m still doing something I love.
 

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To be happy in life, I would say yes. To be content I don't think it is required as much for most.
Personally I can't stand a job I don't like for very long before just quitting for just about any change.
 

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I am placing nearly all my self-worth, respect, confidence on how I am able to perform on the work.How can I show myself to others as a good professional.In order to be professional, I gotta love my job.
 

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If I ever find a job that I genuinely love then that would be pretty ideal, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to do that. However, as long as my job is interesting enough and I make enough money to do whatever I want to do outside of work, I guess I'll be happy enough with that.
 

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I couldn't "love" fulfilling a sole role (any role), for the remainder of my existence.

Life is comprised of many things--work included--but it's not work alone.
There are other components: personal study, time in relations, spiritual contemplation, etc.
I certainly don't see it as a necessary evil, persay... but I don't expect it to be a "personal heaven" every day, either. That hope, at least IMO, is way too idealistic and will end up leaving a disappointing aftertaste. Why would I expect all my happiness to eminate from one source? That would be outright absurdity.
I prefer work that is enjoyable/fulfilling, but also practical. :)
 

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Love is a strong word but if someone isn’t mostly satisfied about the place they spend at least half of their waking hours, life won’t bring them any contentment either. I have 3 criterias: Good working conditions, personal fulfillment and a decent income. A job has to fulfill at least two of them to be worthwhile, otherwise I get horribly depressed.

I changed careers precisely for that reason, my first one had a good income but none of the others. Kept soldiering on because I didn’t want anyone to think that I’ve failed or that I’m a quitter but it made me absolutely miserable. I would be too angry or tired to even enjoy anything when I came home. So to me it really isn’t worth to do anything “just for the money”. Doesn’t have to be my dream job or anything but at least it shouldn’t be something I hate.
 
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