what's my purpose?
This post means a lot to me because I am ENFP, my boyfriend of 4 years is ISFP, and we have struggled with this problem for our entire lives. He has the same opinion as the guy you mentioned, and so did I, up until a few days ago..
I would like to believe that I have finally come out of my clouded judgement and realized that my job does not identify me at all. We were all questioned while growing up, "what do you want to be when you grow up?" instead of "who do you want to be?" and because of that, I was searching for the ultimate career that would supposedly solve all my problems. My job meant so much to me that it was making me depressed...as an ENFP, I have a lot of interests and can feel passionate about a lot of things so was worried I would never find ONE job that I would be satisfied enough to stay in for the rest of my life. I probably gave my boyfriend some pressure too.
Now, I can finally see that I was not living my life, and that I was living around a socially constructed concept that isn't even true...I can finally see now what my purpose is, and it is to just enjoy as much of it as possible, and help others enjoy theirs as well. Isn't the desire for happiness what drives us, ultimately? We buy cars and nice clothes, but essentially we are buying happiness..we buy emotions.
I've always loved blogging and in January 2017, I started a new one during this whole identity crisis to help others find happiness in their daily lives. It gave me more purpose, more joy in my life. At first, I thought I wanted to become a blogger because isn't it a dream to have your passion be your job?? But realized also a few days ago that I did NOT want my passion to ever become my only income generator. I lost all will to write after I started thinking about it as such. All I want in my life, all I've ever wanted was to connect with other people around the world. I see all of us as one and we are all essentially made of the same particles. We are only different from each other because we think we are.
So far, I probably have no readers, and I don't like to share it with people I know, but if anyone is interested in connecting with me, just another soul in this world, then I'd love to hear from you. I think the world could use your positivity and we can work together from across the globe to spread it.
I hope I made sense!
As for my current job, I truly enjoy the work. I get to meet new people everyday, I get to travel occasionally, my coworkers are great, and I get paid a good salary. It didn't feel fulfilling enough before but now that I'm detached from the title "hotel sales manager", and I can see the individual parts of my job, it really is quite ideal for my personality.