A friend of mine is married to an ISTJ man. Their relationship started began when she was a young, divorced mother of two. She told me that her husband was a "rescuer" and felt a duty and an obligation to provide for her shortly after they met. His first marriage was also a "rescue" situation in that his first wife was trying to escape from her abusive parents.
After some contemplation, I can see this trait in my ISTJ mom. She displays this only to her loved ones and not to the world at large.
Can you identify with this? Are there instances in your life that you have taken on the role of rescuer? You don't have to list specific instances, but I'm curious how you reacted in that situation. Did you accept that duty willingly? Do you seek out situations in which you could be the hero? What happens if you can't rescue your loved one? How does that affect your self-esteem?
(No need to answer all of these. These questions are merely jumping off points for a discussion. :wink
After some contemplation, I can see this trait in my ISTJ mom. She displays this only to her loved ones and not to the world at large.
Can you identify with this? Are there instances in your life that you have taken on the role of rescuer? You don't have to list specific instances, but I'm curious how you reacted in that situation. Did you accept that duty willingly? Do you seek out situations in which you could be the hero? What happens if you can't rescue your loved one? How does that affect your self-esteem?
(No need to answer all of these. These questions are merely jumping off points for a discussion. :wink