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So when your partner does something that makes you upset, do you tell him what made you mad upfront and clearly explain why it hurt you and what your expectations are at that point? Or... Do you sit on it. steam over it for a little wile. Then when you confront him get even more pissed off because he didn't catch your very subtle hints hat something was wrong, and then become even more angry when he becomes defensive, because he didn't know anything was wrong?

My SO has been pissed with me for over a week because of something that I said in a txt...

Long story short...(and for added drama... I'm a male INFP and she is an ENTJ...(fireworks.. all the time...:tongue:)) I didn't know she was upset for over 2 hours after I said it... and even then she didn't say she was angry over it, just that she was thinking about what I had said that morning. When I asked what it was that she was thinking over, she gave me a "WHATEVER!!" and moved on with her conversation. When we talked at lunch that day I asked her what was wrong about what I said. which she replied with a "Really??? your going to play stupid like you don't get it?!?" I honestly didn't know she was upset until I received the "WHATEVER" , and didn't know the full magnitude of how upset she was until later that night. her anger started to layer with thinking that I knew she was angry from the beginning, and became more angry when I denied that I knew... after finally learning how what I said upset her, I sincerely apologized, and owned what I said and how it was wrong.
In the days following... she remains angry, and distant, and nothing I say or do seems to be right. When I ask what is wrong, I get a "I can't believe you have to ask me!!" I get told that I'm doing nothing to fix our relationship and that I act like I don't care... Note: before this... Things were going great between us...

I finally find out tonight, after seven days, that she is still upset because we never settled the argument over when I realized she was mad at me.... So we have this argument about who said what when and who's version of the events is accurate, and at what moment I new something was wrong.... Seriously??

I even fear this might be a relationship ender between us... :sad:

Please.... if something pisses you off... SAY SOMETHING... and get it over with...

sorry, my questions turned into a little bit of a vent...:crazy: Thanks for listening:wink:.
 
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