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I assume this is very common among INFPs.

Do you keep objects that may be useless to you now, just because you associate them with some past memories of yours? Maybe because they remind you of people who may have passed away or that you do not see very often nowadays. Or maybe because they just remind you of yourself, years ago. What about objects that are long gone, but that you wish you still had as a reminder of something? If so, any examples you want to share with the forum?

I really tend to associate a lot of things to inanimate objects. To the point of refusing to throw to the garbage a lot of stuff that to others is "completely useless". One of the things most important to me, in this sense, is a small mechanic toy with the shape of a worm that my grandfather gave me when I was around 5 years old. My grandfather passed away a long time ago, so I really like to keep this as a reminder, of both him and my childhood. I also keep a watch that my grandmother gave to me around the same age. It was a huge ass watch, which was essentially a toy shaped like a plane. You could open up the cockpit, and you would see the time. It was very uncomfortable to watch, and one of the few times I did actually wear it, I got in trouble at school because the alarm was turned on, it started to sound in the middle of a class, and I had no idea how to turn it off :crazy:It doesn't work nowadays, but I still like to keep it because my grandmother lives very far away and I only see her once every few years (and, again, as a reminder of my childhood).

As for objects long gone, I remember I also had a toy shaped like an hedgehog. It was very well done, I gave it a nickname of its own and I remember it was by far one of my favorite toys. I have no idea where it ended up, and now when I think about it I get really nostalgic. I really wish I still had it.

Another object that I still keep and that I will probably never use, is a cap that the last friends I used to go out with gave me as a present for a birthday of mine. I never use caps, so it's unlikely that I'll ever wear it, but I still keep it in plain sight in my room as a reminder of both them and some moments I spent with them, even though I ended up drifting away from them because I didn't feel any sort of connection when I was around them.
 

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I do!

Actually I have drawers full of useless stuff, safely kept just because I feel I can't let them go, after how useful they were back in the days. As a teenager I had constant fights with my mother (who is a throw-everything type) because I used to dwell among mountains of useless mementos. I could even "hear" those things pleading to be allowed to stay :crazy:

Aren't we complete lovable freaks?
 

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I do!

Actually I have drawers full of useless stuff, safely kept just because I feel I can't let them go, after how useful they were back in the days. As a teenager I had constant fights with my mother (who is a throw-everything type) because I used to dwell among mountains of useless mementos. I could even "hear" those things pleading to be allowed to stay :crazy:

Aren't we complete lovable freaks?
LOL That is such an infp trait! I always thought I was so weird that way, but couldn't help myself. I give all objects a personality - even if it's sub-conscious. And I know it's crazy. I even for like a half second feel sentimental when throwing away my contacts. :blushed:
 

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LOL That is such an infp trait! I always thought I was so weird that way, but couldn't help myself. I give all objects a personality - even if it's sub-conscious. And I know it's crazy. I even for like a half second feel sentimental when throwing away my contacts. :blushed:
xD I do that too! i tend to apologize to things if i bump into them or accidentally break them. i also get a bit overprotective over my stuff when other people are using it. i wouldn't call them useless, but i still have all of my stuffed animals. :proud:
 
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This is funny... There was a thread just like this on INTJ a while back. Wish I could find it. But yes, It is common for us to form that sort of attachment. To inanimate objects as well as animals. One INTJ said it was because they wouldn't betray her like people...

But yes, I can be quite the packrat. I have all kinds of broken electronics, standalone pieces, and legacy technology lying around that I don't have the heart to get rid of, like my old cathode ray-tube computer monitor. All it ever did was let me use it. I don't have the hear to just throw the poor thing away. Now, I'm getting worked up just typing this and wanting to plug it up, it's been neglected since I got my new monitor o_O
 

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This is funny... There was a thread just like this on INTJ a while back. Wish I could find it. But yes, It is common for us to form that sort of attachment. To inanimate objects as well as animals. One INTJ said it was because they wouldn't betray her like people...

But yes, I can be quite the packrat. I have all kinds of broken electronics, standalone pieces, and legacy technology lying around that I don't have the heart to get rid of, like my old cathode ray-tube computer monitor. All it ever did was let me use it. I don't have the hear to just throw the poor thing away. Now, I'm getting worked up just typing this and wanting to plug it up, it's been neglected since I got my new monitor o_O

This is really funny. My dad is an INTJ and we have about 8 useless computers because he'll "fix them" one day. Lol we also have 7 cars. He can't seem to get rid of things because he says he find them a waste of money or pointless. and "there's always use for it later. keep it."

recently, i have been able to get away from my habit of keeping things because they mean something to me. I used to do this. And almost everything has a personality to me. But, pfft, I think I'm just crazy. But, when I am in a cleaning mood, my INTP turns on and I go "well, i do love this, but i haven't used it in a couple years." and when i do keep something, it's either "it means a lot to me" or "i spent a ton of money on that." lol.

When I was a child, i would go shopping with my mom and she'd tell me to grab a t-shirt. I'd grab two and think "this one wants me more." or "this one is saying 'pick me!'" .....i don't know if this is an INFP thing lol.
 

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When I was a child, i would go shopping with my mom and she'd tell me to grab a t-shirt. I'd grab two and think "this one wants me more." or "this one is saying 'pick me!'" .....i don't know if this is an INFP thing lol.
I don't know if it's an INFP thing either, but I could relate as a child to that sort of situation too :crazy:
 

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I used to do this and I still do to a certain extent. It means I can be prone to phobias as well.

But I am a Context Operator (PNIT) and my success or failure depends on the context I operate in. Such things actually rule my life. It is solely the N component. This is why N can be unreliable.

In the wrong context, I diminish to NPIT which is the smaller Niche Maker. Or if I am Out of Context I fall to PINT and I become subject to unwanted advances from strangers.
 

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This is really funny. My dad is an INTJ and we have about 8 useless computers because he'll "fix them" one day. Lol we also have 7 cars. He can't seem to get rid of things because he says he find them a waste of money or pointless. and "there's always use for it later. keep it."


This is a legacy of the past > 20 years ago when people were not so well off and had to fix things when they broke instead of throwing them away.

I still like to have a spare of everything in case of breakdown. I keep a few old computers because of the information on the hard disc, but mostly I just keep the hard discs and a box full of bits which might not be any use any more.
 

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I have a pendant with two tiny roses inside, it was a gift from my boyfriend, I thought I had lost it one day and I almost cried.

My grandmother always gives me things and I treasure them. They feel like tiny vessels from the past that have some sort of hidden message I cant quite reach. For my graduation in july, she gave me a necklace that her father gave to her when she turned 15, and it was already an antiquity then. It is so beautiful and full of secrets.
 
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This is a legacy of the past > 20 years ago when people were not so well off and had to fix things when they broke instead of throwing them away.

I still like to have a spare of everything in case of breakdown. I keep a few old computers because of the information on the hard disc, but mostly I just keep the hard discs and a box full of bits which might not be any use any more.
i don't think so. he does get around to it eventually. and fixes everything. but, even so, we don't need 8 computers or 7 cars. only 4 of us drive. and we each have our own computer. which makes 13 computers. if we needed to keep the hard drive, we'd just take it out. i just think he has a problem with connecting with inanimate objects, because his office is extremely messy (he's a J, so he knows where he puts everything...i guess).
 

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I used to talk and have meetings with action men and other figurines on my bed most nights as a kid. I found the campfire type setting rather comforting.

It's all highly embarassing, I've only told one person in real life :blushed:
 

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Yes I do. and I feel guilty when I don't feed my Petz (Sily Wily). I feel like if I do not feed, protect and love my PC Petz, I am creating bad karma for my next life.
 

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Ohmyjeezus! I have so much stuff that serves literally no purpose. And anytime I do get rid of something afterwards I cry.. -_-,

But I'm also OCD so yep, I have an excuse.
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xD I do that too! i tend to apologize to things if i bump into them or accidentally break them. i also get a bit overprotective over my stuff when other people are using it. i wouldn't call them useless, but i still have all of my stuffed animals. :proud:
OMG I'm so glad I'm not the only one who apologizes to objects I bump into! I've gotten so many odd stares for that.
I used to be a huge packrat as a kid, and every time my parents tried to make me clean my room, they'd get frustrated because I'd be at it for hours and hours, pouring over every single thing and immersing myself in the memories they all brought back. I love opening a box or drawer that I haven't explored for months or even a year or two and getting lost in the nostalgia.
And stuffed animals create the biggest emotional connection for me though. I remember crying hysterically after catching my brother abusing one of my stuffies one time. :crying:

Yes I do. and I feel guilty when I don't feed my Petz (Sily Wily). I feel like if I do not feed, protect and love my PC Petz, I am creating bad karma for my next life.
My pet just hatched, and the first thing I did was freak out that I wouldn't have enough points to feed him consistently, haha.
 

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I do. I dislike items given to me by people who aren't in my good books and love gifts given by loved ones. The closer I feel to the person the item came from, the more attached I am to it. It is 'irrational', but I guess it's just Fi at work.
 

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Yes. Everything I encounter seems to have feelings. I treat everything well for this reason. I make sure to dust everything, puff my pillows (gently), and place things in such a way that it feels valued and seen.

I tuck in my teddy bear when I go out so he isn't chilled, and stack my books like this because I think it makes them more comfortable than if they have to stand all day. Maybe people would read more if the worlds books weren't so exhausted and abused.

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I used to have a tamagotchi toy as a kid and when it died I cried.

I do have some objects that I have a surprisingly strong emotional bond to. I don't keep old or broken things tho. It's easy for me to throw or give away things I no longer need even though they might have an emotional significance.
 
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