Pretty much this.Sex is bliss but it has to be the connection - an understanding and a secret synchronising with the other person that's not even seen by anyone else. That - is unsurpassed.
A lot of this rings true for me. Although, I'd say that while each act of sex is not a symbol of love or about a deep connection in itself, that it can just be about the physical pleasure, I require it to still be in the context of a loving, committed relationship. That context will allow me to feel a security & rightness that can un-inhibit; and the foundation you have with the person (in terms connection, communication, commitment) can be a much better springboard for mutually satisfying, creative, passionate sex. I'm just not detached, so the casual thing is a no-go from an emotional perspective, not even including my moral stance.I think about sex a lot in relationships, because it's important, and it's something I enjoy. If I don't enjoy it, it does kind of put a damper on things. But good sex has a lot to do with good communication and a level of comfort that you really can only find in a close relationship with somebody. Whether that individual is just your friend or a romantic partner might be flexible, but there still need to be a level of intimacy there (for me personally) in order for it to be enjoyable.
I've only ever really had one one night stand with someone I genuinely didn't have a romantic interest in. He was attractive, and good at it, but I really just wanted to get it over with because it was just an overall uncomfortable feeling for me to be sharing myself with someone in that way whom I didn't care deeply for. I don't know how else to explain it.
It's not that I consider sex an act of love - I don't necessarily think that it is. I think two people can love each other very much and never have sex. I think people can have sex all the time and not love each other at all. I think two people who love each other are able to have sex with one another without feeling like it's driven by love, too - Sometimes you just want to fuck.
I have no qualms with anyone who is okay with pursuing relationship-less sex. It doesn't bother me when other people do it, as long as they aren't endangering themselves or anyone else. It's just something that I found personally uncomfortable and probably wouldn't do again, because I prefer to do it with someone who I share a relationship with.
the problem is that in today's society, sex comes before a relationship, so like with anything that has a series of steps that precede each other, wanting the second step too much ahead of the first is probably not the best way to end up getting there.For me it would have to be the relationship itself just being in one would feel incredible.
INFP girls are typically more receptive than assertive in courtship (by far). as a guy, if you want an INFP girl, you have to be the man. that doesn't mean to act like a *******, INFP women actually often prefer more metrosexual guys, but you have to be assertive and forthcoming without taking it too far. pursuing INFP women is like a tightrope, even more so than with most women- not forthcoming enough and she'll lose interest, too much and she'll get scared off or lose interest.
On every level.