I just got into a really stupid argument with my family and would like to hear your opinion as to what transpired. The only reason I am writing this is because I am upset that my family thinks I am "self-righteous" and overheard my step-dad telling my sister I am "selfish like that".
The argument started when my sister(A) brang up that my other sister (B) ate her candy bar after she specifically said not too. Sister B said it was an accident. My family kept throwing my other sister under the bus (something they always do) and always stand up for sister B. I then brought up when sister B drank an ENTIRE GALLON of something I bought with MY money, after asking her not to drink it all. I said it was ok to have some, so I thought it wouldn't be a problem. But she drank all of it. Not a big deal, but keep reading.
My argument wasn't "don't touch my stuff"(though I used it as an example), it was the principle of the thing I was trying to explain to them. If someone buys something with their money and asks you not to eat/drink it all then the people of the house should respect that. That also applied to the situation with sister A and sister B. But no, my family thinks I am being difficult and that my goal was to try to hurt everyones feelings. It was also apparent to me that they enjoy talking shit behind my back; my own family. Wonderful, right? I overheard my father telling sister B that I am "selfish like that", trying to be all hush hush about it. A number of other things were said about me, but I only caught that one line. I then came out (expressing some anger after hearing what they said) and tried explaining to everyone that they are missing the entire point and I am not trying to bash my sister, just get my point across. But my sister B told me to shut up and that this entire conversation was stupid. I just looked at her.
I kept TELLING them that it was the PRINCIPLE of the thing, their argument was "the food is for everyone". Yeah, it is, but if I buy something with my money that I set aside for myself because I don't like to eat the same things my family does and someone consumes ALL of it, I see that as being disrespectful to the other person. Mind you, this isn't the first time it has happened to me. It's ridiculous. My mother then tried saying it was her money (it wasn't, it was my hard earned money) and that I was being self-righteous. She tried bringing up strawmen arguments about how she gives me money (in reference to a ticket she paid a while back, but for the record she doesn't. I currently am paying for college with MY fucking money and on my own. Same goes for gas, phone, ect...)
All in all, they all thought I was being a selfish prick and saying "don't touch my stuff ever" when I was just trying to get them to see where I was coming from (and sister A as well) but as usual, it ended in them taking the side of sister B.
My sister B got her feelings hurt and ran upstairs and locked the door and my family thinks I'm a complete asshole. I would like another INTJ mind to see where I am coming from and point out any flaws I may have made and to tell me their perspective on the whole thing.
The argument started when my sister(A) brang up that my other sister (B) ate her candy bar after she specifically said not too. Sister B said it was an accident. My family kept throwing my other sister under the bus (something they always do) and always stand up for sister B. I then brought up when sister B drank an ENTIRE GALLON of something I bought with MY money, after asking her not to drink it all. I said it was ok to have some, so I thought it wouldn't be a problem. But she drank all of it. Not a big deal, but keep reading.
My argument wasn't "don't touch my stuff"(though I used it as an example), it was the principle of the thing I was trying to explain to them. If someone buys something with their money and asks you not to eat/drink it all then the people of the house should respect that. That also applied to the situation with sister A and sister B. But no, my family thinks I am being difficult and that my goal was to try to hurt everyones feelings. It was also apparent to me that they enjoy talking shit behind my back; my own family. Wonderful, right? I overheard my father telling sister B that I am "selfish like that", trying to be all hush hush about it. A number of other things were said about me, but I only caught that one line. I then came out (expressing some anger after hearing what they said) and tried explaining to everyone that they are missing the entire point and I am not trying to bash my sister, just get my point across. But my sister B told me to shut up and that this entire conversation was stupid. I just looked at her.
I kept TELLING them that it was the PRINCIPLE of the thing, their argument was "the food is for everyone". Yeah, it is, but if I buy something with my money that I set aside for myself because I don't like to eat the same things my family does and someone consumes ALL of it, I see that as being disrespectful to the other person. Mind you, this isn't the first time it has happened to me. It's ridiculous. My mother then tried saying it was her money (it wasn't, it was my hard earned money) and that I was being self-righteous. She tried bringing up strawmen arguments about how she gives me money (in reference to a ticket she paid a while back, but for the record she doesn't. I currently am paying for college with MY fucking money and on my own. Same goes for gas, phone, ect...)
All in all, they all thought I was being a selfish prick and saying "don't touch my stuff ever" when I was just trying to get them to see where I was coming from (and sister A as well) but as usual, it ended in them taking the side of sister B.
My sister B got her feelings hurt and ran upstairs and locked the door and my family thinks I'm a complete asshole. I would like another INTJ mind to see where I am coming from and point out any flaws I may have made and to tell me their perspective on the whole thing.