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Do you think there is a correlation between type and divorce?

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Do you think there is a correlation between type and divorce? I could see there being one... with certain types being at least slightly more likely. But yet, it would also depend on the type they are married to as well.
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Of course everything depends on individuals and their maturity, but just thinking about concepts trends and generalizations, here are some thoughts. Naturally you should take my following speculations with a big grain of salt, and feel free to contradict them.

It seems to me that commitment and communication are the most important things in making in long term relationships work - so I find it no wonder that SJ-SJ and NF-NF relationships appear to be the most satisfied as those things seem to be very characteristic of them each respectively.

Looking at that table I would think that the best relationships would be the ones where both parties share a high level of satisfaction, or at the least have a similar rate of satisfaction so that one person doesn't feel unhappy while the other is oblivious to the problem. If both are relatively at the same place I would immagine they'd either both be consciously trying to make it better, or both equally interested in ending it - which would make things less messy either way.

SJ (71) - SP (63) difference of 8
SJ (62) - NT (52) difference of 10
SJ (58) - NF (46) difference of 12
SP (54) - NF (51) difference of 3
SP (73) - NT (54) difference of 19
NT (65) - NF (64) difference of 1

SJs - 71, 62, 58 & SPs - 73, 63, 54 - Appear to have slightly higher relationship satisfaction
NTs - 65, 54, 52 & NFs - 64, 51, 46 - Appear to have slightly lower relationship satisfaction
(I wonder if this could have something to do with being stuck in our heads a lot?)

SJ - SJ (79) - higher than with any other type
NF - NF (73) - higher than with any other type
NT - NT (59) - less than with NFs
SP - SP (59) - less than with SJs or NFs

This goes with my inclination to say that SPs would be likely to like someone who is different. It feels to me like they enjoy new and different experiences and appreciate someone bringing variety. I think they are also likely to just accept people for whatever they are.

I think NTs seem likely to be a little less interested in romance, and a bit more interested in being independant, perhaps valuing independance more than companionship or security.

It seems to me like SJs and NFs seem to have more 'boundary' problems, needing others to be on the same page with them and being more relationship oriented, in a sense, rather than independant. SJs seem to expect others to be responcible in a practical way, but this doesn't lead exactly to independance: they still seem to take responcibility for others and expect others to have a sense of duty to them as well. NFs get emotionally invested in people, feeling responcible for tending other's feelings and expecting others to look after theirs. In both these types it seems they expect and want others to be concerned with and driven by what they are. It seems to me that these types tend to take it just a little more 'personal', or find it more frustrating when others clash with them. They seem to have a bit more conviction that how they are should be shared by others. Others should be more responcible, others should be more tactfull/empathetic. Even when they understand that others are different and accept that, they still seem to wish they were the same.

In contrast, SPs and NTs strike me as being much more independant in their approach to others, expecting others to be separate from themselves. They may want others to enjoy the same things with them, but if they aren't interested they seem more willing to just part ways. They don't seem to be bothered as much by people not being like them, taking an atitude of that's just the way they are, and move on. They seem less likely to try to make it work when it isn't.

I think this comes down to the idea of cooperative vs. utilitarian.

I also wonder if the apparent 'opposites attract' thing between ESTX and INFX types is that they are rather stereotypically 'male' and 'female' and may just assume at first that that's what all males or females are like and that they are just supposed to deal with it, rather than looking for someone who is more like themselves.
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