Hmm... I feel like I do not really even consider trust when I analyze my relationships--just something that is not even on my radar. I am more concerned with the quality of the relationship as I define it: "Do I feel accepted?", "Does this person make me feel good?", "Does this person really understand what I mean when I say... [whatever I might be trying to express at any given moment]?", "Is this person interesting?", "Is this person funny?" are questions whose answers have a much greater impact on the relationship itself. When it is revealed that someone who I have become attached to (for better or worse) has lied to me (or is a liar, in general), it unfortunately does not have an impact on my desire to spend time with them. However, it might, depending on the nature and severity of the lie, cause a dip in the quality of the relationship, cause me to question the "perpetrator" more, make me more weary of being open, make me think less of them, so on and so forth. If someone's lying and I care enough about them, I'd like to know why they think they cannot tell me the truth, what past experiences have made them decide they have no other choice, but this only applies to relationships I value. So to answer the original question: neither. I do relate to often feeling taken advantage of--or did relate, not so much anymore. However, this might have more to do with disintegration to unhealthy two and the perceptions that come with that than actually being taken advantage of. If I am being honest (easily done in retrospect), I am probably taking advantage of others as much as they do me. I mean, it would be easy for me to deny that because I am using them for emotional support, mental stimulation, adequate mirroring, i.e., things that can hardly be quantified, but that does not mean that I am not, in fact, using them as means to an end. I'm getting off topic like always, so I will stop here.