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I was watching this video, and while this seems to be a running gag, I found it strangely relatable how this character, Kuroko, keeps unintentionally scaring people when they realize he was in the same room as them. (I haven't watched the show and don't know the character beyond this so I can't say what his type would be...)



Of course, I don't like to scare people (...usually... not unintentionally anyway), but I've lost count how many times I've scared someone like my Mom by just wandering into the same room and she didn't even realize I was there.... I know I'm quiet but wow... I'm sorry.
I guess I have often felt like a ghost (or to "lack presence") so it fits...
 

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Happens to me all the time. Family, friends, random people, ...
I definitely don’t do that on purpose and I’m by now really annoyed when it happens.

It’s frustrating and I think it’s often more other people not being tuned into their surroundings than me being ‘too quiet’. Sometimes I make sure to make a sound or be extra noisy and people still get startled. It really turns me off wanting to socialise.
Also saw it happen when other apparently quiet people startled someone and I couldn’t figure out how that person didn’t see those people or know they were there. I knew they were there. It’s ridiculous at some point.

I’m not sure about the not having any presence thing. There might be something to that as well but still, it’s strange. With some people it just always happens (and those are usually the ones I don’t get along with) and with others I never have that issue.
 

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Happens to me all the time. Family, friends, random people, ...
I definitely don’t do that on purpose and I’m by now really annoyed when it happens.

It’s frustrating and I think it’s often more other people not being tuned into their surroundings than me being ‘too quiet’. Sometimes I make sure to make a sound or be extra noisy and people still get startled. It really turns me off wanting to socialise.
Also saw it happen when other apparently quiet people startled someone and I couldn’t figure out how that person didn’t see those people or know they were there. I knew they were there. It’s ridiculous at some point.

I’m not sure about the not having any presence thing. There might be something to that as well but still, it’s strange. With some people it just always happens (and those are usually the ones I don’t get along with) and with others I never have that issue.
Ah, thank you for your response. It feels bad to say I'm glad I'm not the only one, but I am sorry that is the case for you too.

But yes, it's certainly a pretty annoying feeling and often surprising on the other end too. Not really a big fan of these surprise jumpscares and shocks like that.
Perhaps it is as you say that they're not being tuned into their surroundings.

I guess I might be a little too light on my feet when I walk and don't realize that I'm really not making much sound (though it feels like I'm being more noisy in my head).
Pretty sure I got called a "ninja" once. It seems very random when this happens. o_O
 

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I mean that's cool, you guys can perform heists. I wonder what it's like to unintentionally scare people. Maybe you can crack a joke after you do it? If you scared them, then at least they weren't intentionally ignoring you.
 

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That's funny, this happens to me sometimes! Usually it's crossing my dark hallway to get from the office to the bedroom. Husband opens the door to the hall from the living room and "BAH!!" (like he saw a ghost) And I always say "You didn't hear me open the door??" Or at a store I'll find the person I'm with in some aisle and stand there, they turn around "OH!!"
 

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Apparently, I was told I walk really quietly, and I don't put a whole lot of weight behind each step.
As a result, at my old job I would very often unintentionally scare customers when I asked if they needed help.
 
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That was the epitome of my days at the beginning of the previous decade. I scared everyone by mistake until I was given the title of ninja. They didn’t mean it in a positive way, if you can believe that.

I couldn’t help it. I was far too shy to make my presence known.
I eventually worked in a few habits to help me become more detectable. You gotta be loud, or intentionally make noise. It takes some getting used to.
 
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For those who answered yes, do you guys also pick a stealth class in games? My presence is small, but it's not like I can sneak up on people, so I just player healer/tank.
 

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That clip was funny, but hurt at the same time. I could walk into a room making eye contact with my audience and I have still received the same result of "ah, when did you get here / when did you do x, y, z" while having done x, y and z right in front of them with eye contact when they finally register that I am close to them. I'm noticed when it's convenient and my mother has also referred to me as ninja because of this unintended skill I have. Sometimes I wonder if it is maybe a threat perception. The ones who seem to not notice me have mostly be extroverted in nature. I'm not loud nor a threat so I'm instinctively overlooked I suppose. This use to make me sad when I was younger, but as I have gotten older I have begun to relish playfully poking fun at others social obliviousness with me.
 

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For those who answered yes, do you guys also pick a stealth class in games? My presence is small, but it's not like I can sneak up on people, so I just player healer/tank.
I remember playing stealth a bit in Skyrim. I haven't played too many stealth-based games though, really.

In something like TF2 I would fail miserably as Spy, and did much better as Sniper, Engineer or Medic.
 
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I often choose the stealth classes, but whenever options are available I usually choose whatever is more challenging and rewarding.

Driller, Scout, and Engineer for Deep Rock Galactic
Wizards, Sorcerers, Druids, and Paladins in RPGs, some times rogues and thieves.
Support and demolitions in FPSs
 
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