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Do you view the world & yourself through the eyes of others?

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I – like most of you I believe – have a strong sensitivity to the opinions and feelings others hold, but I'm especially sensitive to the ones I feel they hold about me.

As a result, I strive, occasionally to my disadvantage, to maintain a positive image in the eyes of others - often viewing myself through their eyes. Though I’ve learned to recognize when I do this and thus have some degree of control over it, I still can't help this tendency. Most often it works as something positive. However, sometimes it is also a source of great irritation; there are times when I just want to see the world through my eyes not theirs. But, alas, I must also see through the eyes of others'.

Do any of you also find you do this often?
If so, how do you feel about it?
Have you learned to recognize it?
Have you learned anything from it?

I’m curious to see if this is common among INFPs.

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You know, I kind of tried this for a while. I just tried to see myself externally, not from any one person's viewpoint, because I was always surprised at how a lot of people seem completely unaware of their baaaad behavioral habits and I thought I could learn a thing or two about my own. I have no idea if it did any good because I forgot about it before long. Honestly, it was exhausting being dug that deep in my head for so long. :| I def feel for you if that's where you are. General self-awareness and empathy are alright for me tho; that's been far more informative.
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