Do you view the world & yourself through the eyes of others?

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jasonm

Discussion Starter · Aug 2, 2010

I – like most of you I believe – have a strong sensitivity to the opinions and feelings others hold, but I'm especially sensitive to the ones I feel they hold about me.

As a result, I strive, occasionally to my disadvantage, to maintain a positive image in the eyes of others - often viewing myself through their eyes. Though I’ve learned to recognize when I do this and thus have some degree of control over it, I still can't help this tendency. Most often it works as something positive. However, sometimes it is also a source of great irritation; there are times when I just want to see the world through my eyes not theirs. But, alas, I must also see through the eyes of others'.

Do any of you also find you do this often?
If so, how do you feel about it?
Have you learned to recognize it?
Have you learned anything from it?

I’m curious to see if this is common among INFPs.

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Ectoplasm

· #13 · Aug 2, 2010

I try and see myself through the eyes of others, its informative but I can't say it does wonders for my self-esteem. But empathy is not guaranteed to be accurate and my perceptions may just be a bit flawed.

I also try and see the world through the eyes of other people but this often tends to translate less into "why do {enter religion/people} think or see things the way they do" and more into "don't worry about it, you can't do anything for the world. Come out and get drunk with us instead."

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