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I recently found out that my former boyfriend is addicted to porn. I never pictured a ISTP indulging in that, I thought you guys would be more interested in the "doing" not watching. Have any other ISTPs struggled with this? Maybe not you directly, but a friend of yours that is a ISTP. I don't I'm just in shock about everything, he was living a double life and I am just searching for answers...
 

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Every guy watches porn, if you think, or ever thought otherwise you're delusional.

Also, if sex was as great as one imagines when masturbating people would certainly be more interesting in doing rather than watching. :tongue:

Now, on another note, porn gives you the freedom of view and perspective, while 'while doing it' you're stuck in first person, which I personally consider rather lame. Not that I could do anything about it though. Bottom line, point of view view = shitty view.

EDIT: What's a porn addiction defined as, though?
 

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Have any other ISTPs struggled with this? Maybe not you directly, but a friend of yours that is a ISTP.
Never struggled, no, and I don't know about other ISTPs, asking about someone's internet porn habits is a bit of a faux pas. :wink:

Porn is boring. He's doing whatever it says in the script, she makes the appropriate moaning noises. Yawn. Sure I'll pick up a men's magazine one every now and then but that's it... the articles are so good! :tongue:

Btw Jess you're an xSTP yourself, so:

I thought you guys would be more interested in the "doing" not watching.
applies to ESTPs as well, surely.
 
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Personally I don't like watching porn, I'd much rather have sex. Whenever I have seen it, it just makes me long for the person I am with, or to have a person to be with. I dont like torturing myself! I don't know... Define habits well I posted a thread in the advise column thing... Basically he has major sexual problems. He stole his best friends wife's panties. And his bestfriend contacted me and told me, my boyfriend refused to contact me, so I was forced to break up with him on voice mail... I tried to get ahold of him for a week, that was a fair amount of time... So I dont know, through his roomie I learned the reason his laptop broke was because it was so flooded with viruses because of his massive porn collection. And his roomie told me, that it wasn't even normal porn. Ugh... this thing just makes me ill
 

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He stole his best friends wife's panties.
I'm 90% "that's disgusting" and 10% "you da man!" on that. :tongue:

But seriously. :mellow:

through his roomie I learned the reason his laptop broke was because it was so flooded with viruses because of his massive porn collection. And his roomie told me, that it wasn't even normal porn. Ugh... this thing just makes me ill
Even if he was only downloading some regular t&a he'd have had no problems... to say it's not "normal porn" opens up a whole new can of worms. :shocked:

Remember that a guy of any type could watch porn that's not "normal".
 

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I'm 90% "that's disgusting" and 10% "you da man!" on that. :tongue:

But seriously. :mellow:



Even if he was only downloading some regular t&a he'd have had no problems... to say it's not "normal porn" opens up a whole new can of worms. :shocked:

Remember that a guy of any type could watch porn that's not "normal".
I understand I am def. not saying every ISTP is like that... I was just wondering if it was common or uncommon.
 

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Well, I still don't see how sexual fetishes, as weird as they may be in some cases, relate to porn, let alone porn addiction.

If he's an underwear burglar at heart and that's his thing, it's tough to live such a fantasy with someone else (at least I don't see any logical way of how that could possibly work out), which of course doesn't justify stealing panties from a person you (don't) know.

Still, bottom line remains, every guy whether or not in a relationship will have his fair share of porn. You can either get upset about it and he'll do it in private, or you can just grow out of a possible inferior complex or possibly be supportive, as long as he's into it that is. The doing rather than watching is a tricky question, which I'd always answer dependent on mood. Though, I've come to the conclusion that I'm more sex resistant than the average guy so you probably shouldn't take what I say as applicable on the vast majority :mellow:
 

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I understand I am def. not saying every ISTP is like that... I was just wondering if it was common or uncommon.
We'll never really know how common or uncommon it is, because people who feel the need to watch that sort of stuff are likely to keep it hidden, as your bf did.

If I had to guess, however, I'd say most guys AREN'T into that sort of stuff. Most guys aren't the raving sex / porn addicts they're sometimes made out to be (and being 21yo, I know what plenty of women think about guys my age :frustrating: ).
 

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I recently found out that my former boyfriend is addicted to porn. I never pictured a ISTP indulging in that, I thought you guys would be more interested in the "doing" not watching. Have any other ISTPs struggled with this? Maybe not you directly, but a friend of yours that is a ISTP. I don't I'm just in shock about everything, he was living a double life and I am just searching for answers...
Why is it everyone thinks ISTPs men are somehow different than other men? Men are men. Any type can become addicted to porn. Do a little bit of research on porn addiction.
Be glad that he is no longer your boyfriend.
 

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Ask his "friend" who delivers such eloquent messages to you if he's ever watched porn (do it while he's not with his wife), he's a liar if he says no. He's in the service too but he lives with his wife. Your boyfriend didn't have a chick beside him.

PC's break down all the time when they have too much porn on them. It's common, I have friends that do repairs who told me that long ago. In fact I know one guy friend who purchases extra hard drives to keep his porn collection. Just so ya know.
 

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Here is an article I read. From TIME Magazine January 2004
TIME Magazine: The Porn Factor -- January 19, 2004 Health
This begs the question what peoples porn preferences are. 'Professional' porn is about the worst choice one can make, not only is it fake, but it tries to tell a story. In this day and age I'd assume that most people rather go right down to business and save themselves the story crap.

Of course there's still sites that treat women like absolute trash in the process, but I'd almost think that's a fetish thing already rather than the 'norm' of porn.

Personally anyway, my choice of porn 99% of the time goes with amateur of one sort or another, as it's the only bearable type for any sane person.
 

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This begs the question what peoples porn preferences are. 'Professional' porn is about the worst choice one can make, not only is it fake, but it tries to tell a story. In this day and age I'd assume that most people rather go right down to business and save themselves the story crap.

Of course there's still sites that treat women like absolute trash in the process, but I'd almost think that's a fetish thing already rather than the 'norm' of porn.

Personally anyway, my choice of porn 99% of the time goes with amateur of one sort or another, as it's the only bearable type for any sane person.
Are you aware that porn is the number one top money maker on the internet? Regardless if it's professional or amateur.
 

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Are you aware that porn is the number one top money maker on the internet? Regardless if it's professional or amateur.
I am, and I facepalm everytime I hear it. Never ceases to amaze me to a degree.

Wasn't sex.com just recently sold for a truckload also?

EDIT: 13 million dollar.
 

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I'd watch a story with porn in it, if it was well made and acted.

Otherwise I find a 3 seconds animated gif about a bodypart doing in-out-in-out with another bodypart equally interesting with any porn film I've glimpsed. Boooooooriiiiiiing....
 

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PC's break down all the time when they have too much porn on them. It's common, I have friends that do repairs who told me that long ago. In fact I know one guy friend who purchases extra hard drives to keep his porn collection. Just so ya know.
I seriously doubt that there is a direct correlation between porn and computer failure. A hard drive doesn't know or care that the images stored on it are porn. But it is conceivable that a hard drive that is full will have to work harder retrieving files.
 

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I am, and I facepalm everytime I hear it. Never ceases to amaze me to a degree.

Wasn't sex.com just recently sold for a truckload also?

EDIT: 13 million dollar.
Just don't ever try to retrieve your email from Hotmail and accidentally type in HotMALE.
 

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^I was just going to post something similar, AEIOU.

It's a common misconception that computers "break" because of "too much porn". Actually, viruses are attached to all kinds of files - porn being a common carrier, but music downloads, illegal software downloads, etc all often carry worms and trojans and other viruses. I spent three weeks cleaning my hard drive of a nasty little virus that I picked up while searching for more information on the MBTI. No porn involved whatsoever.
 

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^I was just going to post something similar, AEIOU.

It's a common misconception that computers "break" because of "too much porn". Actually, viruses are attached to all kinds of files - porn being a common carrier, but music downloads, illegal software downloads, etc all often carry worms and trojans and other viruses. I spent three weeks cleaning my hard drive of a nasty little virus that I picked up while searching for more information on the MBTI. No porn involved whatsoever.
That makes another good reason to own a MAC. Less malware.
 
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