I have an ENTP friend I am interested in who goes to the same college as me and works with me as well. We've been hanging out a lot, and I am curious to know whether or not he sees me as a friend or if he is interested in me. The problem is that when we began to hang out with each other, he knew I was seeing someone, but does not know that I am not seeing that person anymore. I have no good enough reason to tell him I am not seeing anyone anymore unless he asks, or if I want him to know I am single-- which in my mind is a dead give away. We keep hanging out but I can't help but wonder if maybe he just made up his mind about thinking of me as a friend-- shutting out the possibility of seeing me as an interest because I was seeing someone at the time-- or if he really isn't interested in me in that way and just wants to be around someone who gets him. I am only curious to know so I can stop wondering about this and get on with my day!
A little about this ENTP-- He is incredibly intelligent, and has been able to talk to me and teach me about numerous things including politics, economics, and design. He talks a lot, and loudly, and is so passionate about the things the he says that it comes off as aggressive, impatient, and intimidating to me sometimes. Haha. He's the funky snowboarder/wakeboarder/biker type of cali guy who wears ray bans and flip-flops in a palm tree button up with a cigarette in his mouth. He's got a presence.
About my INFJ self-- I'm quite an extraverted introvert, who is engaged and fully enthused and interested with the things this ENTP brings to the table. He basically brings the talkative side out of me, and I love hearing his train of thought in reason and logic especially since I feel like my Ti has blossomed like crazy over the past couple years. I have an artistic background and I'm boyish, but I make sure to compensate for my lack of girliness by doing my make up super nice, for example. Haha. I don't give a fuck about anything but I do at the same time.
I met this ENTP officially at work, where he slowly became more friendly with me over time. He gradually went from not looking at me in the eye when saying hi back to me at work, to eventually being much more open and fully engaged in talking about all sorts of relevant, interesting and incredibly important topics e.g. world views, global political problems, *philosophy, and all that great stuff. After getting used to working with each other, he became more friendly towards me, joking with me at work and eventually reaching out to kick it with me at least once a week. I'd go over to his place, smoke some weed with him and just philosophize the shit out of the books we've been reading in our classes and talk about the popular debates that each of us were learning about. It was SO rejuvenating, and I wish everyone could hold intelligible conversations as such. I wonder if there is a possibility that he is holding back because he still thinks I am seeing someone, or because he just sees me as a friend?
Few things that confuse me:
Sometimes I notice him staring at me in the corner of my eye, but maybe he is just zoning out? He woke me at 2 in the morning (after having hung out with him earlier that day) asking if he could borrow my computer charger for a project he was working on, called back, said he found one, but then wanted to swing by to smoke a cigarette with me. Does that mean anything or am I just being an INFJ? We don't text each other often and he isn't very good at it either. Apparently he kept asking why I wasn't at work the other day to my co-worker, "crying like a kindergartner"-- which is an exaggeration I'm sure, but still. Haha. I am very good at hiding my emotions, and have learned to copy his mannerisms so he doesn't know I am interested in him. (Do ENTPs hide their emotions ever?) I'll even act like a guy so I don't get nervous, or that he doesn't know. Sometimes I get this "tug-in-my-chest-feeling" from him when we conclude a debate or conversation and our eyes meet, or I see him stare off smiling just subtly. I am afraid to take off my "intellectual hat" because its seems like he appreciates that about me, and because I don't want to be the dumbass if I find out he really just sees me as a friend. Lastly he butt-dialed me and when I called back he said "sorry to get your hopes up"! He probably knows doesn't he! Ftw.
He treats me like a friend, not an interest, butI'm just confused since we hang out often and connect so well to eachother. I wonder if his perception of my relationship stat (thinking I'm not single) has anything to do with that, and if he knew I was single, if anything would change. I wish I could just tell him I'm single, but it's awkward to talk about. I wish I had known him before seeing the other dude I was seeing!
I am very sorry this was so, so long and I commend those of you who have read thus far.
Thoughts anybody? I'm new to personality cafe and it's the shit.
A little about this ENTP-- He is incredibly intelligent, and has been able to talk to me and teach me about numerous things including politics, economics, and design. He talks a lot, and loudly, and is so passionate about the things the he says that it comes off as aggressive, impatient, and intimidating to me sometimes. Haha. He's the funky snowboarder/wakeboarder/biker type of cali guy who wears ray bans and flip-flops in a palm tree button up with a cigarette in his mouth. He's got a presence.
About my INFJ self-- I'm quite an extraverted introvert, who is engaged and fully enthused and interested with the things this ENTP brings to the table. He basically brings the talkative side out of me, and I love hearing his train of thought in reason and logic especially since I feel like my Ti has blossomed like crazy over the past couple years. I have an artistic background and I'm boyish, but I make sure to compensate for my lack of girliness by doing my make up super nice, for example. Haha. I don't give a fuck about anything but I do at the same time.
I met this ENTP officially at work, where he slowly became more friendly with me over time. He gradually went from not looking at me in the eye when saying hi back to me at work, to eventually being much more open and fully engaged in talking about all sorts of relevant, interesting and incredibly important topics e.g. world views, global political problems, *philosophy, and all that great stuff. After getting used to working with each other, he became more friendly towards me, joking with me at work and eventually reaching out to kick it with me at least once a week. I'd go over to his place, smoke some weed with him and just philosophize the shit out of the books we've been reading in our classes and talk about the popular debates that each of us were learning about. It was SO rejuvenating, and I wish everyone could hold intelligible conversations as such. I wonder if there is a possibility that he is holding back because he still thinks I am seeing someone, or because he just sees me as a friend?
Few things that confuse me:
Sometimes I notice him staring at me in the corner of my eye, but maybe he is just zoning out? He woke me at 2 in the morning (after having hung out with him earlier that day) asking if he could borrow my computer charger for a project he was working on, called back, said he found one, but then wanted to swing by to smoke a cigarette with me. Does that mean anything or am I just being an INFJ? We don't text each other often and he isn't very good at it either. Apparently he kept asking why I wasn't at work the other day to my co-worker, "crying like a kindergartner"-- which is an exaggeration I'm sure, but still. Haha. I am very good at hiding my emotions, and have learned to copy his mannerisms so he doesn't know I am interested in him. (Do ENTPs hide their emotions ever?) I'll even act like a guy so I don't get nervous, or that he doesn't know. Sometimes I get this "tug-in-my-chest-feeling" from him when we conclude a debate or conversation and our eyes meet, or I see him stare off smiling just subtly. I am afraid to take off my "intellectual hat" because its seems like he appreciates that about me, and because I don't want to be the dumbass if I find out he really just sees me as a friend. Lastly he butt-dialed me and when I called back he said "sorry to get your hopes up"! He probably knows doesn't he! Ftw.
He treats me like a friend, not an interest, butI'm just confused since we hang out often and connect so well to eachother. I wonder if his perception of my relationship stat (thinking I'm not single) has anything to do with that, and if he knew I was single, if anything would change. I wish I could just tell him I'm single, but it's awkward to talk about. I wish I had known him before seeing the other dude I was seeing!
I am very sorry this was so, so long and I commend those of you who have read thus far.
Thoughts anybody? I'm new to personality cafe and it's the shit.