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I hope it's age irrelevant :S
I'm 15/16 and that nagging is coming and going. It would suck if it intensifies and comes more often as I grow older :laughing:
 

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I guess I wonder, past a certain age of you don't have the typical best or close friend, does it start to nag at you? Despite how asocial or introverted on may be?

Does age (20s, 30s, 40s...) make it worse or is age irrelevant?

I wouldn't know, although I was a social reject, I'm not anymore.
It took a lot of time for me to restructure my mind but it payed off real quick.
 

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I think it depends on the person.
Some people feels the need to have friends; others do not.

I passed good part of my childhood without a single friend and I was just fine.
I had my first friend when I was 9.
Then from age 11 to age 13 I had no friends and I was pretty much isolated from the rest of the world. I was just fine.
Since the age of 14 I started having some friends again, now I think I have 6 or 7 friends.
It is ok. I don't need more.

The fact is, I am not good at mantaining friendships.
 

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I think it depends on the person.
Some people feels the need to have friends; others do not.

I passed good part of my childhood without a single friend and I was just fine.
I had my first friend when I was 9.
Then from age 11 to age 13 I had no friends and I was pretty much isolated from the rest of the world. I was just fine.
Since the age of 14 I started having some friends again, now I think I have 6 or 7 friends.
It is ok. I don't need more.

The fact is, I am not good at mantaining friendships.

Who's there for you when you fall ?
 

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Who's there for you when you fall ?
Good question.

Just to offer another perspective of a [partially] similar situation to @clelius 's I found that the inner child self became (well remained?) stunted compared to the adult-parent ego self, learning from a very early age to become excessively self reliant and more mature than peers; creating untold socialising problems in the process, with many people finding immaturity or less rigid self contained quietness much easier to relate to than a persistent parental adult self with rules, self responsibilities and serious introspective tendencies.

Making parent-child-adult ego states more literal, each can be perceived differently: the inner parent-caregiver is more commonly associated with teaching or instructing, life responsibilities, parent-child relations, authority, defining rules or giving advice and the wise elder people seek approval in. The child self: emotional immaturity, testing behaviour boundaries, attention seeking, helpless defenselessness, reliant on others for sustenance and many life needs, acting out tantrums or controlling behaviours and dependency over full autonomy. The adult self: informed discussion, equality in relation to others, not seeking to manipulate or play mind games with others, self responsibility, autonomy, greater accountability, emotional maturity and self reliance with adult expectations.
 
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