Thank you for posting this. I am not sure how exact the descriptions are of me, especially when it calls the ENFJ "confident." The positives of this type is something that I am still working on living up to.
However, thank you so much for posting it because the "stress" page was very insightful. I have been very stressed lately and when reading this page, I suddenly understood the different reasons why I get stressed. It was scary to see how accurate it was. Even the part of how stress affects the ENFJ is very me. I have recently been wanting to understand ways to reduce stress in a very personalized way, therefore the suggestions on how to do just that is what I desperately needed to read.
"Stress
An ENFJ will often experience stress when…
• Feeling that their values are challenged or violated
• Encountering situations where they feel demeaned, put down, or misinterpreted
• Working with difficult and uncooperative people
• Focusing solely on others and neglecting their own needs
• Feeling responsible for causing a problem or conflict
• Confronted with unexpected changes
• Receiving excessive criticism
• Required to complete a task within a limited timeline
When they are affected by stress, an ENFJ will often…
• Feel negative or cynical and become inflexible
• Doubt their abilities or intelligence
• Become unfriendly, inconsiderate, or aggressive towards others or themselves
• Minimize their contact with family or friends
• Rely solely on logic to form critical and judgmental opinions of others or themselves
• With significant stress, focus on the faults of others and become excessively critical
An ENFJ can reduce stress by…
• Addressing their personal needs
• Spending time resting and reflecting
• Participating in activities and interacting with friends
• Delegating some of their tasks
• Refocusing on their spiritual values
• Gaining insight into a situation by discussing their thoughts with others"
The procrastination part also described how I was in school very well. I now understand a little bit of why I may have procrastinated when doing my school work. Yet I do agree that I tend to play before work a lot of the time and only when I realize the deadline is approaching, do I start to think of the "relationship" issues surrounding the work and procrastinate even more because of the worry/uneasiness.
"Procrastination
ENFJs are often motivated to complete their work on time and may not experience significant procrastination. They tend to limit their procrastination to a specific situation that likely involves a relationship component. These situations may result from a fear of rejection, concern over meeting someone’s expectations, or a conflict with a friend. Procrastination may also result from disagreeing with an instructor or a discriminatory and unwelcoming classroom environment. The most effective way for ENFJs to overcome procrastination is to address the underlying relational issue. They may find it helpful to gain insight into the situation by discussing their concerns and feelings with an outside source."
