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'Existential anxiety' sounds like it can be anything. I suppose that's the point of it. On surface, I don't relate to it.

'Fear of Failure,' on the other hand, that's a big one for me. Lord knows I don't respond in the 3 way though.


- Really though, the 6's fear, according to EI, is "of being without support and guidance." That's a resounding Yes from me.
 

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Yes but then 6s tend to have all the fears. You probably relate to the 8 fear because you have a heavy wing which people never seem to consider smfh.
 

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Ugh, resoundingly yes. It's taken years of sticking with the Enneagram to finally come to terms with it and fully see it in action, but these days I am very much aware of fearing wrongness and badness. A few years ago, had someone told me they thought I feared those things, I probably would have denied it or immediately jumped to a conclusion that it didn't really fit.

On the surface it's really easy to read the core fears and take them to be frequent subjects of your thoughts, rather than seeing them rear their heads within the context of your everyday issues. There have been a couple times in my life when I literally pored over whether or not I was a truly bad person because of something I did or said. But 99.9% of the time, it's more of a contextualized permutation of that emotion. I tend to worry if something I did or said is going to be taken out of context and harm my place; I feel a push to make my work deliverables better than they are, because they reflect an inadequacy I let slip; I bumble something doing it the first time, and practice is incessantly until nobody can see it happen that way ever again; I feel like I'm severely uneducated in an area and can't speak to it with credibility, so I obsessively learn it - that kind of thing. I really don't want anything I say or do to reflect or confirm "badness" in any permutation - inadequacy, inconsistency, laziness, illogicality, incredibility, inappropriateness, lack of duty or concern, lack of carefulness, not doing enough, not listening to what other people voice, and the like.

To a degree, and it's not mentioned in the description of fears - also, fear of losing control makes my stomach absolutely churn.
 

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Type 1: fear of being corrupt, bad, imperfect.
Type 2: fear of abandonment, not being loved and appreciated.
Type 3: fear of failure.
Type 4: fear of being ordinary.
Type 5: fear of the outside world of not being competent, failing to cope.
Type 6: Existential anxiety
Type 7: Fear of deprivation.
Type 8: Gear of being weak, vulnerable and at the mercy of others.
Type 9: Fear of conflict.
I got these ones:

Type 1 – The fear of being evil or corrupt.
Type 2 – The fear of being unloved or unwanted by others.
Type 3 – The fear of being unaccomplished and worthless.
Type 4 – The fear of lacking a unique, significant identity.
Type 5 – The fear of being helpless and inadequate.
Type 6 – The fear of being without support or guidance.
Type 7 – The fear of deprivation and pain.
Type 8 – The fear of being harmed or controlled by others.
Type 9 – The fear of loss and separation from others.


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Oh, and Yes, I do fear being helpless and inadequate. I always want to keep a level head no matter what.
 
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The 4 fear is kinda weird for me. Idk? Maybe bc no matter how special you try to make yourself, no one thinks you're special, loll. As long as you value yourself, how other people see you won't matter.

The 5 fear is a bit stronger for me, but I also see it in combination with the 4:

I fear going the rest of my life not recognized for being competent in one thing that I enjoy and find special. Fame and fortune and shite doesn't matter, so much as ppl seeing the results of my handiwork and thinking "wow that's some quality shite."

Since I have to take my work personally, I guess, loll.
 
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Yeah, I don't think "Fear of being ordinary" is the best way to sum up the 4's core fear. Of course I want to be seen as someone special, but that's not the main point of my identity.

If we want to keep it short and simple, I think that it would be more accurate to say "fear of being inauthentic."

This is the way it's worded on the Enneagram Institute website, and I agree with it a lot more:
Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance

Based solely on OP's post, I voted no in the poll, and I would say that I resonate most with the existential anxiety (6).
 
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I'm a 9w8 and I can't really relate to any of those. I never had a core fear (that I know of). To me, being a 9 is not really about avoiding conflict, but balancing one's "anger" (I like to call it instinct) with the environment.
 

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'Existential anxiety' sounds like it can be anything. I suppose that's the point of it. On surface, I don't relate to it.

'Fear of Failure,' on the other hand, that's a big one for me. Lord knows I don't respond in the 3 way though.


- Really though, the 6's fear, according to EI, is "of being without support and guidance." That's a resounding Yes from me.
I want to add to my post!

I really really relate to the 5's core fear of being overwhelmed, of "failing to cope" as listed in the OP. I'm slowly making progress with easing up on this, but it's a tough challenge for me.
 

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I much prefer the "fear of lacking a unique, significant identity" for 4s

I don't go around saying "Look how special I am!" or anything like that. Rather, I strive to remain true to myself and to not lose my identity or change for others
 

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I don’t really experience my core fear on a visceral level like some others here. With some exceptions, I’ve mostly been placed in environments where I was treated as special, or ended up being seen as very special. So I guess that’s helped me develop my own sense of validation of my identity, to some extent. I know I’m special, even if I’m in a room full of (potentially very unique and talented) people. I will probably end up questioning this some day, but most of the time it’s the fears of my (dis)integration points and wings that I experience more intensely.
 

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>>Type 8: Fear of being weak, vulnerable and at the mercy of others.

Absolutely. It’s the only one I completely relate to honestly, though I never really thought of it as a “fear,” at least in the actual physical fear-response sort of way. More like, something I dislike or something to be avoided. Probably because I don’t belive it will happen. In my head I know it can, but in my gut I feel like I could always best it/take it/chew off my leg in any given scenario. I mostly recognise it as a “fear” when I think of it in terms lf situations where it becomes a necessary evil, such as in romantic relationships. A business partner I can guard against and crush if needed, but a lover? A certain amount of vulnerability is required in that. That’s when I can’t deny that it is indeed fear.

I dont relate my potential tritype fears at all.

>>Type 4: fear of being ordinary.
I don’t fear ordinary. I know I’m a freak, it’s my level lf acceptance of such that I struggle with.


>>Type 5: fear of the outside world, of not being competent, failing to cope.
F the outside world.

>>Type 7: Fear of deprivation.
I do like to experience things, but if I miss out, it’s not a big deal. My brother is core 7 however, and I can certainly see this struggle in him.
 

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My all pervasive 5 fear was hiding in plain sight behind my conscious 1&2 fears. They're like a couple of little devils whispering mean things in your ear, while the main 5 fear is this subconscious paralysis that you can't understand let alone fight. For someone who is incredibly good at understanding its so annoying.
 
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