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What is domestic abuse?
As Child abuse prevention, child abuse education, Code Amber Alert by child states, "Domestic violence is a pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors, including physical, sexual, and psychological attacks, as well as economic coercion, that adults or adolescents use against their intimate partners. The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that 95% of reported assaults on spouses or ex-spouses are committed by men against women."

It is important to know if you are being abused. For so many people it seems like a normal thing that their family should threaten them, criticize them, insult them continually. Exposure to ill-treatment of this sort from an early age creates an impression on the child that his/her parents aren't supportive or are harsh/immature/insensitive. It never crosses their minds that they are actually victims of abuse. Lack of this awareness and thus lack of the acceptance of it make them grow up thinking they've had a pretty much normal childhood(albeit a bit on the tougher side) and they thus strive to be tough minded people (often with a notion that the world is a place that requires you to just fight for yourself). From what I have seen, domestic abuse (as expected) makes for the growth of unhealthy individuals. Even the most sensitive child often has a wall around him/her making it difficult for certain kinds of personal relationships to exist.

"What types of abuse are there?
Physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual, economic abuse as seen in this wheel of violence:

Physical abuse is easier to identify and thus more commonly known. However the problem with any kind of abuse is that the child is usually attached to the abusive parental figure in some way and does not know how to deal with it. And because they are usually innocent and trustful, they forgive or overlook repetitive occurrences just because the parent apologizes or is nice to them sometimes. Or sometimes they just are happy that their parent isn't reacting to anything and are more than happy to forget their abuse.

What to do if your parent or parents are abusive?
You should find someone trustworthy and sensible to confide in. They might help you sort it out.
What to Do When Faced With Abusive Parents
This is also an informative article that tells you how to contact social services and under what circumstances.
I know there are quite a few teen PerC members and I'd suggest strongly that you recognize it if you are victims of domestic abuse. As has been repeatedly said, it is not just physical or sexual abuse but also includes "psychological abuse, and abuse to property and pets (Ganley, 1989)."
Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Adolescents: An Overview
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