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As an so/sp, I've noted that the give-and-take is more balanced with another so/sp, a sp/so, or sx/sp, e54/6 or otherwise. sp/sx 5s don't comparatively require much breathing room, while so/sx and sx/so 5s are far less prone to overrely on facts than so/sps.

Emphasis placed on discovering interesting social networks while maintaining complete autonomy. Subtly applying influence with others, strangers, friends of friends to achieve results. Selective, internally active, probing nature, warm but dry, disconnected, intensely ambivalent regarding daily affairs. Sometimes gripped with anxiety when overwhelmed with possibilities, like being completely functional and aware of everything while encased like han solo.

Feel more at ease when I'm able to lightly touch bases with several people at once, though won't overturn an engagement if I think it'd disturb the wider rhythm. Particular, ridiculously heavy focus on first impressions conducted via unconscious channels creates this mental pouring down the freeway with with parking breaks on scenario because one on ones don't serve my primary intellectual interests at all.

I've only known one so/sp e5 infp network; most I've kept in touch with are derived of e54 intps. So comfortable, but often it's best just to let it go, as there're always similar opportunities with an alarming 6 something billion humans worldwide.
 

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I haven't discovered much about the enneagram, but I'm a 5w6 sx/sp infp, cancerian, with a sag moon and dragon.
Other interests in the meaning of my name, the lines on my palm,
and my dream interpretations/visions.

I just truly posted though to tell you I was caught unawares and unarmed by your 'voice', how you've put together the sentences and made the paragraphs has intrigued me and your lack of pausers. That was a good moment.
Thank you.

I mean it as in that was a cool and unexpected experience.
 

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I'm a 5w6 so/sp and I related alot to the OP.

Compared to other 5's, I see myself as somewhat more extraverted, am more concerned about my image, and am more interest in joining groups where I feel I can fit in.
 

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I don't know if it's an enneagram trait or infp or cancerian, sx/sp, but I prefer one-on-one interaction.
I'm private, though I don't mind if many people know my private information, it is almost as if they aren't truly existing until I bring them in or I focus that they become more an individual. It's just that I have no connection with the majority.

I share to share exclusively with a one-on-one relation, everyone else I interact with very lightly, mostly just to gain information about what people are like, but I stay disconnected to them.
 
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I'm a 5w6 sx/so and I share a lot of SadLuckDame's characteristics. I'm very reserved and private, and I dislike most group interactions, but I yearn for a special somebody that totally gets me and understands me. I'm all about one-on-one interactions, but it seems that the average person would rather hang out in groups than with one other person. Also I feel that my wings and my MBTI type set me up for constant inner drama. I'm introverted, I'm not a people person or a social buttlerfly, and I don't trust people BUT I still want a special friend who I can totally trust. Ugh.. Why am I so confusing?
 

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I'm a 5w6 sx/so and I share a lot of SadLuckDame's characteristics. I'm very reserved and private, and I dislike most group interactions, but I yearn for a special somebody that totally gets me and understands me. I'm all about one-on-one interactions, but it seems that the average person would rather hang out in groups than with one other person. Also I feel that my wings and my MBTI type set me up for constant inner drama. I'm introverted, I'm not a people person or a social buttlerfly, and I don't trust people BUT I still want a special friend who I can totally trust. Ugh.. Why am I so confusing?
I can sort of relate, though I do trust people, as a 5w4 sx/so there is this constant 'want' to have not only this really awesome person that I can trust completely but to have a close, intimate group of friends whom you can have a beer with and discuss the world or politics, or anything else with meaning. There is alot of internal drama, also when I'm not able to make these connections it reinforces some notion of being flawed (I take it due to the w4). It does kind of suck that I'm not able to make those kind of awesome instant connections with people that I long for, It seems that either I, being too intense or maybe too engaging (though I try to be friendly to everyone) seem to intimidate people or come off as odd. OR that they just aren't interested in being around me. I wonder if this is an sx/so 5 thing, as it's very counter to the type. As for extraversion, I can be extraverted, but don't have many people to really hang out with so it leaves alot of energy.
 

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I am a 5w4 too, with sx-sp-so stacking, and I can relate to a lot of this. Friendship-wise, I also most enjoy having a special friend I can be very open with.

There is alot of internal drama, also when I'm not able to make these connections it reinforces some notion of being flawed (I take it due to the w4).
It's funny to read this because I feel that too. I've been told it's irrational to think that way, and when I look at things objectively, I suppose it is irrational but it's how I immediately feel it subjectively. Perhaps having sx first makes everything feel more personal.

It does kind of suck that I'm not able to make those kind of awesome instant connections with people that I long for, It seems that either I, being too intense or maybe too engaging (though I try to be friendly to everyone) seem to intimidate people or come off as odd. OR that they just aren't interested in being around me. I wonder if this is an sx/so 5 thing, as it's very counter to the type.
I can also relate to the impression that other people often seem to find me odd. It may very well be to do with being a 5, which I think often comes across as odd/eccentric anyway, and having sx first, mixing an intensity with the strangeness.
 

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5w4 8w9 4w5 sp/sx INTP.

I guess it gives me a withdrawn intensity of sorts. I think that is the best way to describe it; something always bubbling beneath the surface about to burst if you take just one more step. I am very cautious and analytical at first, trying to understand the situation to the best of my abilities, and then I forget about all of that and just react at the last second.

I can be very easygoing and amenable. Oh yea we can do that, yea that's fine let's go there, yea whatever you want, I don't really care but if it's something I feel strongly about there is no stopping me or changing my mind. I become explosive and intense. I scare myself sometimes including those around me.

I don't want other people to know me too well. I guess it's the self preservation mixed with the 8 gut fix. If I am known too well then I can be controlled and manipulated easier and to a greater extent. Also it would be harder for me to stay in my 'observer' role. I have friends but we hang out when I want to.
 

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Not much that I can attach to instinctual variant with certainty. Besides my obvious disdain for group settings.
 
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