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Unashamedly ripping off MereHuman's parallel thread in the INTJ Forum-In retrospect, are there patterns of behavior or traits that emerge to you now that clealry indicate your lovely INFJ-ness?
 

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Characteristics of the INFJ Child: Some Behaviors to Look For
• INFJ children are intensely thoughtful, private young ones
• Cuddly, happy, cheerful babies…at home; away from home they can be quiet/serious
• INFJ children spend much of their time (all their lives!) inside their heads…very rich fantasy, imagination ability
• the INFJ child can be extremely tuned in to the emotional reality of their family….don’t argue/fight in front of them
• Most INFJ kids are naturally polite, obedient, gentle, patient, considerate kids
• INFJ children are so into their heads they may lag behind mastering some outside physical, sports related activity…they will get it however if interested…just don’t rush them
• INFJ children are naturally tuned into music, fantasy, literature and like to sit and engage in these things early on
• In school INFJ children usually exhibit a love of learning, reading, stories, myths, fairy tales and are very creative
• the INFJ child will easily excel in writing, music, painting, other fine artsy expressions
• the INFJ can be very stubborn when their mind is made up
• the INFJ may hang back from group activities of all kinds unless they know a few of the participants well…don’t push your INFJ into new group things too quickly
• the INFJ will need to spend a lot of time alone…you guessed it….in their heads
• the INFJ will show a marked tendency toward perfectionism
• as they become adolescent their will exhibit more future concerns, future thinking
• the INFJ penchant for future and perfectionist thinking can trouble them greatly as they consider operating in the outside world

source: Parenting Skill-the INFJ Child and Parenting Skill with Myers Briggs!


Portrait of an INJ Child (Introverted iNtuitive Judging)

INJ Traits
They have vivid imaginations
They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
They enjoy art and music
They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
They are perfectionists
They're serious and intense
They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

They're usually very intelligent
They can grasp the big picture easily
They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
They're very resourceful
They are extremely creative and imaginative
They easily come up with good ideas
They're usually well-liked by their peers
They will completely master a subject that interests them
Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses
They have short attention spans
They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
They frequently don't hear people
Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
They ignore details
They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
They can be controlling and bossy
Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

INJ Learning Style
INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject.
INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.

Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.

INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.

INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.

Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.

Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly.

INJ Special Needs
INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired.
INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.

Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.

Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting.

Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.

The "Missing" Letter
Adult personality types have four letters, while for children aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. INJ kids will grow up to be either INTJ "Scientists" or INFJ "Protectors". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Thinking or Feeling to complement their Intuition preference. You will see the child practicing both Thinking and Feeling as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.

source: Portrait of an INJ Child
 

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I've read these articles before and I adore them!! :) Don't get me wrong. But how about personal experiences??

I'd share some of mine, but I'm not dead-set on my type yet.... I'm pretty sure I use Ni>Ne though....
 

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I've read these articles before and I adore them!! :) Don't get me wrong. But how about personal experiences??

I'd share some of mine, but I'm not dead-set on my type yet.... I'm pretty sure I use Ni>Ne though....
I thought you were an ENTP. What made you question this?
 

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I thought you were an ENTP. What made you question this?
I thought I was, too :/

For quite some time, I've been taking the Myers Briggs or function analysis test... and I rarely score anything close to ENTP. I think I just really, really wanted to be one.
But the truth of the matter is, Ne is not my strong suit (which it should be as a dominant function, right?); but, upon reexamining Ni, I see the descriptions totally strike a chord with me. I'm not sure which judging function it serves, but I'll figure that out all in due time :)

Another important thing to note is: When I first took the test in jr. high, I scored INFJ. I also originally came to personalitycafe as an INFJ (A lurker) but then got into the whole iNFP/INFJ thing. Then I thought I was an ENFP. Then I learned about cognitive functions and realized I use Fe/Ti > Te/Fi. So, obviously I'm an ENTP, right?.... maybe not.

Annnnnd that's my story.

 

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I thought I was, too :/

For quite some time, I've been taking the Myers Briggs or function analysis test... and I rarely score anything close to ENTP. I think I just really, really wanted to be one.
But the truth of the matter is, Ne is not my strong suit (which it should be as a dominant function, right?); but, upon reexamining Ni, I see the descriptions totally strike a chord with me. I'm not sure which judging function it serves, but I'll figure that out all in due time :)

Another important thing to note is: When I first took the test in jr. high, I scored INFJ. I also originally came to personalitycafe as an INFJ (A lurker) but then got into the whole iNFP/INFJ thing. Then I thought I was an ENFP. Then I learned about cognitive functions and realized I use Fe/Ti > Te/Fi. So, obviously I'm an ENTP, right?.... maybe not.

Annnnnd that's my story.

Don't we all want to be ENTPs? :p

So are you an introvert or extrovert?

I know your enneagram is type 8, which is highly rare for INFJs. I hope you are one though. I love your signature and I find it hard to imagine a T would choose it :p
 

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Don't we all want to be ENTPs? :p
Lol, right! They're pretty cool.
I know INFJ's are known for their masks, and I think one of mine might have an ENTP nature to it :) I certainly identify with "looking inward to foresee how you want to become" description of Ni

So are you an introvert or extrovert?
I usually score 50/50-ish on all aspects of Myers Briggs except iNtuition/Sensing, which is like 80/20 in favor of N.
I often score very high on extroversion in my great moods-I adore people, and I am extremely outgoing & confident.... But, seeing as I spend every free moment by myself recharging and pondering and writing really bad poetry? And also considering how much people secretly drain me? And how I live in my head?
Probably an introvert.
I like to say "Ambivert" though! Best of both worlds.

I know your enneagram is type 8, which is highly rare for INFJs. I hope you are one though. I love your signature and I find it hard to imagine a T would choose it :p
I know @Delilah is an 8w7 INFJ :) She's a boss.

Yes, my signature is pretty feeler-trying-to-be-a-thinker-but-totally-failing-at-it ;)
When I "identified" as ENTP, a ridiculous number of people would say "Wow, you're Fe is very developed for your age"... Heh, now I know why ^_^


How long have you known you were an INFJ (if you don't mind my asking) just out of curiosity?
Did you always just "know"?
 

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I often score very high on extroversion in my great moods-I adore people, and I am extremely outgoing & confident.... But, seeing as I spend every free moment by myself recharging and pondering and writing really bad poetry? And also considering how much people secretly drain me? And how I live in my head?
Probably an introvert.
I like to say "Ambivert" though! Best of both worlds.
this seems to be true for quite a few INFJs on here. I would just go by the functions. The whole dichotomy thing is annoying.

I know @Delilah is an 8w7 INFJ :) She's a boss.
A boss indeed. I said highly rare, not impossible :p @Btmangan is another.

Yes, my signature is pretty feeler-trying-to-be-a-thinker-but-totally-failing-at-it ;)
Lol yeah
When I "identified" as ENTP, a ridiculous number of people would say "Wow, you're Fe is very developed for your age"... Heh, now I know why ^_^
You're sig does scream Fe lol

How long have you known you were an INFJ (if you don't mind my asking) just out of curiosity?
Did you always just "know"?
I've known for a few months. Before that, other than a very brief encounter with MBTI in the 6th grade, I didn't know I was anything lol. But once I was reintroduced to it, it was pretty clear to me from almost the beginning that I was an INFJ. I toyed with INFP and ISFJ for like five minutes apiece before finding the INFJ description. It was at that moment that my life changed forever :p
 

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this seems to be true for quite a few INFJs on here. I would just go by the functions. The whole dichotomy thing is annoying.

A boss indeed. I said highly rare, not impossible :p @Btmangan is another.
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I've known for a few months. Before that, other than a very brief encounter with MBTI in the 6th grade, I didn't know I was anything lol. But once I was reintroduced to it, it was pretty clear to me from almost the beginning that I was an INFJ. I toyed with INFP and ISFJ for like five minutes apiece before finding the INFJ description. It was at that moment that my life changed forever :p
I will have to hunt down these 8 INFJ's and demand answers!

Yes, it is pretty life-changing :) I've joined a couple INFJ groups on FB, and the similarities are quite astonishing (if you're in to that kind of thing-social networking sites, I mean)

btw when you changed your name mid-conversation it totally freaked me outfor a second 0_o
 

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I will have to hunt down these 8 INFJ's and demand answers!

Yes, it is pretty life-changing :) I've joined a couple INFJ groups on FB, and the similarities are quite astonishing (if you're in to that kind of thing-social networking sites, I mean)

btw when you changed your name mid-conversation it totally freaked me outfor a second 0_o
LOL I didn't do it. Blame @TreeBob :p

That awkward moment when your username gets changed mid conversation :p
 

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@Fern I love your sig, always have, was waiting for you to disappear off here before stealing it and acting all original :p lol.
It seems more a balance between T and F to me though, its clever and mathematical, not JUST F.

Okay no offense but I don't get the ENTP love. I find that ENTPs are generally obnoxious and annoying, but apparently if you're an INFJ you should love them. Maybe i've just met annoying ones? o_O

Anyway, don't let me continue to interrupt this nice little convo I see evolving ;)
 

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@Fern I love your sig, always have, was waiting for you to disappear off here before stealing it and acting all original :p lol.
It seems more a balance between T and F to me though, its clever and mathematical, not JUST F.

Okay no offense but I don't get the ENTP love. I find that ENTPs are generally obnoxious and annoying, but apparently if you're an INFJ you should love them. Maybe i've just met annoying ones? o_O

Anyway, don't let me continue to interrupt this nice little convo I see evolving ;)
Lol, Can't get rid of me that easy!

I've only known one ENTP in "real life" (fictional and celebrity Visionaries tend to annoy me-'cept Craig ferguson.*blushes*) and he actually had remarkable depth underneath all that charm and confidence and flirtation.
ENTP's, at their best, are witty and lots of fun, helping me show the fun-loving person I really am beneath my stoic facade (while I, on the other hand, made him feel comfortable enough to be serious. A serious entp? Yup.)
At their worst?... They annoy me and many of those around them; and I truly wish they'd get their life together instead of basking in the arrogance they have yet to deserve (oooooh, I went there!)
There's a wide spectrum of them - like with any type, I spose.
 

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Wait did you want the name-change, then??

That would be a pretty excellent prank >:D. Oh, if I were an admin; the mischief I could cause...
No I did. I was just kiddin. I was just hoping he wouldn't change it while I was talking to someone lol. That would be a great prank. When I'm supreme overlord dictator of PerC...
 

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*note to self* never make fern and clueless admins.
 
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*note to self* never make fern and clueless admins.
Aww man. I was looking forward to that. Maybe Happy will see things differently. *calls 1-800-SUK-EGGS* Happy? HAPPY? Damnit Happy pick up the phone!!!!

He didn't answer...
 

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Aww man. I was looking forward to that. Maybe Happy will see things differently. *calls 1-800-SUK-EGGS* Happy? HAPPY? Damnit Happy pick up the phone!!!!

He didn't answer...
I'm afraid I killed Happy.
 
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