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are you always present to everyone? no? disconnected emotionally from others usually?

for me it varies in such extremes, that at times i have to avoid eye contact with everyone, cause i would burn them with my intensity. and at other times, i dont even notice there are other people too!
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Not always, usually I am though. The disconnection happen usually from various random thoughts hitting me that tend to run me over at times.
are you always present to everyone? no? disconnected emotionally from others usually?
I am emotionally present only for a few friends and family. Often times I simply 'check out' when I'm overdrawn emotionally. When I am engaged emotionally, it often overwhelms people. Intense? Very.
are you always present to everyone? no? disconnected emotionally from others usually?

for me it varies in such extremes, that at times i have to avoid eye contact with everyone, cause i would burn them with my intensity. and at other times, i dont even notice there are other people too!
I'm rarely (if ever) present with anyone, except my intimate partner.
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I am not present to everything around me sometimes...maybe mostly. Even though I am out of it most of times, I easily know how people are feeling. ( I still never know why.)
are you always present to everyone? no? disconnected emotionally from others usually?
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I'm pretty much emotionally detached from almost everyone. It's too much effort and I usually feel very out of tune with everything around me most days, I don't even feel like I'm here within my body at times.
Ugh. I avoid eye contact too much. I tend to get lost in people's eyes, losing myself in the process.
If I'm present enough.

But, if I'm comfortable enough with someone in order to actually look them in the eyes, then it's fine. Though there is still a risk of losing myself there as well.
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Whether I'm emotionally present or not mostly depends on my mood. If I am happy and feeling good about myself I will be emotionally present. If I'm distracted by troubling thoughts then it's obviously hard for me to be present/feel connected to those around me. I try to avoid people during those times unless I'm really struggling.
I have a very large and necessary personal space. I am emotionally connected with some: Because of the connection, I am open to friendship. I am emotionally intense, and given to tears and rapid burnout in emotionally charged situations. I withdraw, work through it, reform. During the withdrawal I retreat to the White Room, an emotionally empty state and no one is allowed there.
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I am very open towards others, should they seek open-ness. I probably do have a tendency to seem disconnected if I don't know you very well, with the whole introvert thing i revolve around :crazy:

Whether i seem disconnected or not, i do know how everyone around me is feeling, even if they don't know how I'm feeling. I suppose it is what gives INFJs our unreadable quality.
Possibly not so often; 1-1 yes but not with everyone, for example in my retail volunteering I am only present very briefly unless working on a floor with a +1 (even then the person has to be at least average in EQ to encourage less fluff chat) or engaging certain types of customers (being very prone to limited eye contact, engaging them more fully still while remaining productive seeking not to burn out empathically), however if I actually desire your company then I am very present (well at least with the wise elder self if I feel unable to talk on my level of life experience).
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