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Rough childhood for my mother, her family structure crumbled around her and throughout her life she has seen little outside of a paycheck-to-paycheck existence. Her husband, my dad, died at 40...just over ten years ago. So, basically, the roller coaster that is life has taken its psychological toll on her...but she's not broken by any means. She's a decent mother who's so sacrificing and loving--but she's quite fragile. End of optional context.
She uses alcohol and cigarette smoking as a means to cope.
On a scale of 1-5, 1 being a beer and ten minutes of cigarette puffing and 5 being chain-smoker passed out amid bottles of booze..she's like a 2.3. Not cause for insane panick...but I'm starting to worry about her longterm physical and mental health. I don't want her to face cancer fifteen/twenty years down the road...or sooner. I don't want her to have to rely on "drugs" to suppress thoughts/feelings.
What can I do as a son to get her to quit both habits? Sit down and have a long talk? Does she alone have the power to? I'm interested to hear your advice PerC and am an open receptacle for any related things you feel like sharing. Thanks for reading.
She's an ISFJ if that matters.
She uses alcohol and cigarette smoking as a means to cope.
On a scale of 1-5, 1 being a beer and ten minutes of cigarette puffing and 5 being chain-smoker passed out amid bottles of booze..she's like a 2.3. Not cause for insane panick...but I'm starting to worry about her longterm physical and mental health. I don't want her to face cancer fifteen/twenty years down the road...or sooner. I don't want her to have to rely on "drugs" to suppress thoughts/feelings.
What can I do as a son to get her to quit both habits? Sit down and have a long talk? Does she alone have the power to? I'm interested to hear your advice PerC and am an open receptacle for any related things you feel like sharing. Thanks for reading.
She's an ISFJ if that matters.