you are spot on there! very hard work when you are more or less on opposite ends of the scale as to how you think & feel & react!ENFJs seem to be draw to IxTPs and vice versa. The reason that these relations might not work is that at times people might get overly focused on each other's negative points instead of trying to understand each other. Being around your 'shadow' personality can also stress the inferior function too much.
These are types of relationships that offer the maximum personal growth to each partner, but that are also the most stressful to maintain (require more input of time and energy).
I agree that it is a lot of work - but I feel like it is sooo rewarding. I really enjoy the work that goes into relationships, learning about someone and growing. It's exciting and creates an environment where change is accepted and encouraged. I know in my past relationships I felt stuck and unable to grow and it really frustrated me. My friend once said that "a relationship is like a job. Love is like getting a paycheck" and I really agree with that. Although, it's important to like your job. :wink:ENFJs seem to be draw to IxTPs and vice versa. The reason that these relations might not work is that at times people might get overly focused on each other's negative points instead of trying to understand each other. Being around your 'shadow' personality can also stress the inferior function too much.
These are types of relationships that offer the maximum personal growth to each partner, but that are also the most stressful to maintain (require more input of time and energy).
Yes, yes and yes!I don't know why y'all but I really think it can work. Honestly I think the ENFJ is one of the most flexible of the Juding types because we have feeling that makes us want to see things from other's perspectives and genuinely understand people, then our intuition takes over and we can easily empathize with them. ENFJ's and ISTP's often have fun doing stupid things together. ENFJ's often mock the quietness of the ISTP, so that the ISTP often feels at home. The ENFJ also uses their intuition to realize that many of the things the ISTP says that may seem rude or irritating are just silly and blows them off. Though when we're extra tired we kind of blow, but then again so does everyone so it's just a matter of knowing when the ENFJ (as many say is one of the most introverted of the extraverted personalities) needs their space. Lord knows as an ENFJ, when I want my space I get catty when ppl invade, so does the ISTP who many say can be as inflexible as many judgers. In the end it evens out. ENFJ is a more flexible judger, and the ISTP a more inflexible perceiver. The ENFJ is a more introverted extravert, and I haven't actually read this but I have certainly found that the ISTP can be very out going and even loud and obnoxious. Also both personalities have the same functions reversed. And both enjoy learning, especially I've noticed that ENFJ's are at the top 2 most likely to enjoy school. In fact surprisingly my favorite subject was always science, and I always found math to be easy. So I think they even out more than other opposite personality combos.
Can definitely be very rewarding. I forget all my troubles when I'm around ISTPs, and that's priceless. ^^ ESTPs are also nice. ;p