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I think my middle child is an ENFJ...I don't let him know this, of course. I don't want to slap labels on my kids; I'm just wanting to parent each of my kids according to their individual needs, so I've been observing them in an attempt to identify their dominant functions. I'm fairly certain my middle child uses Fe based on many of his actions and the way he seems to think. Also, he exhibits many of the traits listed in the ENFJ child article posted on this forum; lastly, he is very, very much like my Sister when she was a kid, and she's an ENFJ.
Anyway, I was wondering if any of you had a delayed emotional reaction to certain things as a child? For instance, my son will come to me crying saying "you said we would go to the park, but we didn't"...this could be several days later, so I remind him "honey, we couldn't go because it was raining, remember?" and he continues "but you said we would go to the park, and you didn't take us". This is so frustrating sometimes, but of course, I am patient and loving with him. I remember how difficult a time my sister had growing up with my Parents...they didn't understand her at all. I hope to avoid that as much as possible. I do ask my Sister for tips as well, but I just wondered what other ENFJ's had to say.
When he has this delayed emotional response, is it just that he wasn't thinking about it before and he remembered out of nowhere? Why is it he seems to fixate on me "breaking" what I told him rather than recognizing my reason (raining)? He also gets easily upset when he perceives something isn't fair, ie: "why is he wearing his new shirt to school and I'm not?" (while starting to cry). I explain, "because you wanted to wear yours yesterday, remember? So, yours is dirty today". Any tips on how I can ease his mind and explain to him that he is not being treated unfairly? Does this sound like something you might've done as a kid?
Anyway, I was wondering if any of you had a delayed emotional reaction to certain things as a child? For instance, my son will come to me crying saying "you said we would go to the park, but we didn't"...this could be several days later, so I remind him "honey, we couldn't go because it was raining, remember?" and he continues "but you said we would go to the park, and you didn't take us". This is so frustrating sometimes, but of course, I am patient and loving with him. I remember how difficult a time my sister had growing up with my Parents...they didn't understand her at all. I hope to avoid that as much as possible. I do ask my Sister for tips as well, but I just wondered what other ENFJ's had to say.
When he has this delayed emotional response, is it just that he wasn't thinking about it before and he remembered out of nowhere? Why is it he seems to fixate on me "breaking" what I told him rather than recognizing my reason (raining)? He also gets easily upset when he perceives something isn't fair, ie: "why is he wearing his new shirt to school and I'm not?" (while starting to cry). I explain, "because you wanted to wear yours yesterday, remember? So, yours is dirty today". Any tips on how I can ease his mind and explain to him that he is not being treated unfairly? Does this sound like something you might've done as a kid?