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okay, I like this INFP dude, he is pretty awesome, BUT he has the tendency to not respond for periods at a time, which is different from my Attentive personality. I just cant deal with a lack of communication.
I am usually hesitant about deciding how somebody internally feels about me if I am not receiving expression from the person. If contact dwindles between myself and another, I frequently doubt that our relation is positive; if the person matters enough to me, then Ill become overly consumed in trying to "solve the problem", and as a result tend to be quite overbearing.
and this particular guy matters to me.
we hang out in person, and its great! but we live so far from eachother that its difficult to hang out, so most of our interaction is done online, through facebook or email, and also through texting and calling,
now I dont know why he sends me mixed signals, he is very peculiar, some days he will be interested in all I do, wanting to talk all the time (which I dont mind) and wanting to hang out all the time, AND other times he wont respond to me at all. ill send him a text, which he wont address and a day later, ill get a text from him asking how my day was.
or He will write me a long message about why he is having such a bad day, and ill write an even longer message giving encouragement.. and its been a weeek and he hasnt responded to that, but during the week we have discussed other things.
so its like he is being selective with what he wants to discuss or express with me. which annoys me greatly, because when I ask a question, I expect it to be answered, or if we have a conversation, I expect the conversation to have closure,
I was wondering if this issue flows through all INFPs or is this a specific tendency of this individual.
if more information is needed, let me know...
I am usually hesitant about deciding how somebody internally feels about me if I am not receiving expression from the person. If contact dwindles between myself and another, I frequently doubt that our relation is positive; if the person matters enough to me, then Ill become overly consumed in trying to "solve the problem", and as a result tend to be quite overbearing.
and this particular guy matters to me.
we hang out in person, and its great! but we live so far from eachother that its difficult to hang out, so most of our interaction is done online, through facebook or email, and also through texting and calling,
now I dont know why he sends me mixed signals, he is very peculiar, some days he will be interested in all I do, wanting to talk all the time (which I dont mind) and wanting to hang out all the time, AND other times he wont respond to me at all. ill send him a text, which he wont address and a day later, ill get a text from him asking how my day was.
or He will write me a long message about why he is having such a bad day, and ill write an even longer message giving encouragement.. and its been a weeek and he hasnt responded to that, but during the week we have discussed other things.
so its like he is being selective with what he wants to discuss or express with me. which annoys me greatly, because when I ask a question, I expect it to be answered, or if we have a conversation, I expect the conversation to have closure,
I was wondering if this issue flows through all INFPs or is this a specific tendency of this individual.
if more information is needed, let me know...