My mom is an ENFJ and we butt heads all the time. Mostly, we miscommunicate. I swear I try SO HARD to communicate clearly. It isn't laziness, it isn't manipulation, it's just that somehow, every time I do something for her, in her eyes I've f*cked it up. EVERYTHING I say is an assault to her character, EVERY mistake is a reason for her distrust, and each time she turns around the argument so that she's the victim and I feel worthless. I do everything I can to be who she needs me to be in these situations, and it is not enough. PLEASE help me with this. I'm afraid we will end up like her and my grandmother.