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Hey I'm new to the site....
I joined mostly because I wanted to ask you ENFJs a question. I'm not sure if there's a similar thread so I apologize in advance if this is repetitive or if it's in the wrong place. =(
So I'm an INFP female in a relationship with an ENFJ male. I'm sure he wouldn't like me posting on a forum about this (please forgive me ;_
... but I just thought you could help.
So the main problem is we have great conversations together, but it's hard for him to say things about himself. I feel like he knows my entire life story without me even telling him half of it. He's just so darn perceptive and it drives me crazy (in a good way).
I know he likes me and he encourages my asking more questions because I'm curious, even if he may be somewhat reluctant in answering them.... but no matter what, he just won't talk to me about himself of his own accord. I feel like he's doing talking about himself FOR me, not TO me (although that sounds a bit romantic now that I step back and think about it). But is it always like pulling teeth to get an ENFJ to talk about themselves? I would feel bad if I was making him disclose information that makes him uncomfortable. Does it just take time? Should I stop asking questions? He makes me feel like I'm being selfish when I ask.
....Help? ;_;
So I'm an INFP female in a relationship with an ENFJ male. I'm sure he wouldn't like me posting on a forum about this (please forgive me ;_
So the main problem is we have great conversations together, but it's hard for him to say things about himself. I feel like he knows my entire life story without me even telling him half of it. He's just so darn perceptive and it drives me crazy (in a good way).
I know he likes me and he encourages my asking more questions because I'm curious, even if he may be somewhat reluctant in answering them.... but no matter what, he just won't talk to me about himself of his own accord. I feel like he's doing talking about himself FOR me, not TO me (although that sounds a bit romantic now that I step back and think about it). But is it always like pulling teeth to get an ENFJ to talk about themselves? I would feel bad if I was making him disclose information that makes him uncomfortable. Does it just take time? Should I stop asking questions? He makes me feel like I'm being selfish when I ask.
....Help? ;_;