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Is that even possible?

From another perspective:
Only say "yea", nods, smile, chuckle but rarely says his/her views. Doesn't ask follow up questions. Doesn't comment a word or anything. <<Doesn't seem to encourage the person ?!

Not seem to be interested not disinterested.

Possibly From an ENFJ perspective(My Own Guess):
I don't know what to say, but the person seems to have a point, and I don't want to disagree with it. It's his passion to talk about design, though I know nothing about design but why not let him speak more? Maybe he will tell me his story about design~ *Then nods, smiles, "yea", sometimes chuckle too. (idk why is chuckle but they do this)

The subject is too complex. They start to talk about the philosophy of design... I don't know what to response but, maybe I should at least try to engage indeed, just to show some respect to the person.
Result - doesn't ask follow up questions but doesn't show any disinterest too.

How does that sound?
 

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1.) Just because you are a type doesn't mean you get special "exceptions" to poor social skills so...yes it's possible.

2.) How do you even know this person is ENFJ? For all I know you are typing on letters alone which is common amongst those new to the theory and known to be as accurate as predicting the winning lottery numbers!!!XD
 

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I'm one of these haha. I'm very nice and effusive, but I'm such a loudmouth. I can freak people out and really annoy them sometimes.
 

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Is that even possible?
More than possible. Skills are things you are constantly learning and practising, and socialising is no different.

For most of the time I was growing up (I'm only 20 now mind) I was horrendous at socialising, both because my ADD got in the way but also because I have an identical twin brother who I spent most of my time with so I didn't really grasp a lot of social conventions (an interesting aside is that autism incidence is 6 times higher in identical twins). Once I went to high school and stopped seeing him as much, within a few years my social skills had improved massively and since I've developed the kind of empathy abilities that we're 'meant' to have, even though I was nothing like that 10 years ago.

In terms of your specific situation, ENFJs can get in trouble when there's no obvious maxim for a decision or when we're a bit anxious. As long as you don't get the in the way of your own intuitions, just go with your gut feeling. Don't forget that making people happy isn't always the main consideration (although we do it so instinctively it's hard to keep a track on sometimes)
 
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