a post I've written recently on the same topic in ENFJ forum
" I've been living with an ENFJ for more than 20 years and we've got 3 children.
What we share is high values of loyalty and honesty.
We both can't stand injustice.
We are both extremely sensitive to critiscism and discord.
We both like discovering new cultures, countries, civilizations ...
The main differences :
- she has exceptionnally good people skills ; 90% of our friends came from her intial acquaintance
- she gets personnel statisfaction from helping friends or fellows ; I'm rather on a therical world idealism ; needless to say she's much more efficient
- but she's sometimes naïve with people ; she trusts too much and can't see as easyly and quickly as I can their real personality ; when deceived, she's spiteful for life !
- she can't stay alone or even do something alone ; the act of doing "together" is much more important than the result
- she is much more pragmatic than me. I'm a little bit "head in the clouds" but her feet are on the ground
- she likes novels and fiction ; I'm rather essay (history, archeology, ethnology, etc ...)
....
Of course, it's our story and it would be hazardous to generalize. But for us, it works well. And sorry for my poor english - I'm a french guy."