I feel the same as
@OtisPB , and I'm a girl.
I once dated this one INFJ guy who would shower me with gifts from the beginning of our relationship. I knew that was his way of putting effort into things and showing his affection, but I didn't know what to make of it and it didn't really do much for me, because the gifts were so excessive and impersonal it seemed inappropriate to me (he was very wealthy, but we didn't know each other well yet at the time). It made me feel like I was some typical superficial girl who had to be bought and protected, and that told me that he didn't really understand who I was.
I'm now dating an INFP who is also very wealthy (compared to me lol...PS, I don't always date wealthy dudes! It's just a coincidence lol and I didn't know they were wealthy until after we dated for a significant amount of time). He does give me gifts on a regular basis (and I give him gifts on a regular basis in return of equal value), but it's different. We'd become very close before he got anything for me (we met online), and so when he gifted me it seemed more appropriate. On top of that, everything he gives me is heartfelt and genuine and has nothing to do with expensiveness and everything to do with little simple things he knows I love or things to remind me of our relationship, like teddy bears and music boxes. The fact that I can reciprocate makes me feel not awkward about it as well. I find it really cute how his face lights up whenever he knows I have a gift for him or whenever he finds out I cleaned some of his apartment for him or offer massages lol.
I really love quality time, like just going for long walks and talking about things together, or cuddling quietly. I love touch and I love giving massages, etc xD. It really is simple, intimate things like that which I value most.
