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ENFJ's: Do you take things personally?

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Hi Everybody,

So I just became interested in this, and I think I'm an ENFJ. Reading up on my type I found a few things that really resonated with me:

"Their problems are usually due to their Extraverted Feeling function being so dominant that they are so strongly bound to what they see as objective values, that they cannot relate to the world except via the objects of their feeling."

Also a bit about "idealizing relationships" beyond any realistic expectation. Man, I do that WAY too much...

What do you all think, is this stuff that ENFJ's typically do?
I don't think I idealize my relationship. I just happen to have met a wonderful man who loves me for who I am. He said he was very attracted to my appearance the moment he laid his eyes on me, and my personality is what keeps him interested until now. He is a very sincere and loving man. We have been together for more than 10 years.

In relationships, effective communication and mutual respect are important.


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As for whether I take things personally or not, it depends. As a moderator for a professional site, when people personally attack others with the log-in name they normally use, I delete their threads without prior notice. When I delete their threads, they would try to verbally harass the moderator LOL They would call me all sorts of offensive names. It does not affect my emotions at all. However, when a member creates a different log-in name to maliciously attack another member (instead of using the log-in name that they normally use), I take it personally and immediately terminate the person's account. In this case, I would not just delete their thread(s). I hate people with malicious intents to hurt others. I get personal when I see this happen.

Many people think I am very easy going. I don't get mad often. I laugh all the time. Life is too short to get stressed out all the time. I am saying this because I had gone through much stress in my life in the past to realize that it is mostly perspective. When it comes to conflicts, I like the phrase "agree to disagree" very much :)

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