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so, here's the deal - most of my family think there must be something wrong with me, because i've got a "weird attitude" towards death. in my opinion, it's nothing to be sad about - since the person who dies either goes to heaven , if you believe in god, or just ceases existing, if you don't. therefore, in no way can death cause any more pain to any creature that dies, so sadness about the death is purely selfish, in my opinion. that said, i do feel sad about deaths - but only because of those that are still alive, because i know that most of them don't view death in this manner and that they can feel devastated by the loss of someone close to them, plus, there are, of course, some aspects that are quite pragmatically devastating - like when a caregiver dies, or the breadwinner dies, etc. the problem is, i can't really relate to this sadness in any other way than this - feeling sad for the living, not dead, so even though i manage to comfort people quite well, something "weird" often slips if i try to do that by conversation, so i prefer to do something instead - like take them out to some activities that they might enjoy, etc.
i was just wondering how others here felt about death, so that i could see if i am really odd like this, or do others relate in some way.
* i just thought that some of you might get the idea that i can feel like this only because i have never lost anyone very close to me, so i don't know the feeling or something, and i would like to clarify that even when my grandmother died (and she was in many ways closer to me than any of my family) all i felt was relief that there is no more chance that she might suffer, and my main concern was my father (son of hers) who seemed totally shattered. am i, umm, really kind of emotionless?
thanks in advance for your input, i would really appreciate you sharing your thoughts on the matter of death (and sorry if i make anyone uncomfortable with this topic in any way).
i was just wondering how others here felt about death, so that i could see if i am really odd like this, or do others relate in some way.
* i just thought that some of you might get the idea that i can feel like this only because i have never lost anyone very close to me, so i don't know the feeling or something, and i would like to clarify that even when my grandmother died (and she was in many ways closer to me than any of my family) all i felt was relief that there is no more chance that she might suffer, and my main concern was my father (son of hers) who seemed totally shattered. am i, umm, really kind of emotionless?
thanks in advance for your input, i would really appreciate you sharing your thoughts on the matter of death (and sorry if i make anyone uncomfortable with this topic in any way).