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Had a very hard life from ages... 8 to 25 I guess.

From the age of about 14 I really started to lose that ENFP fire, except for occasional good moments, and never typed as an ENFP.

This all came to a head last week when I had a panic attack and went to hospital in an ambulance.

I talked to a few people who knew me when I was young, and in those rare good months when I let myself come out of my shell, then did some serious soul searching.

I typed as ENFP, but was doubtful until i read this post by @pinkrasputin (I have deleted irrelevant parts because it is pretty long) :

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ENFP men are fuzzy lumps of love. They have so much energy and they are high on life. I love their laughter and their insight.

You guys have a lot of class. It's true. You have a right to judge other's who treat their women like crap. You ruin women. But in a good way. If a woman has ever had the privilege of dating you, she can never go back into expecting anything less. You set a new standard on how women and people should be treated.

You are so open and tolerant of other types and preferences. Seriously, you can't stand close mindedness. You are down to earth and so real. You are so good to your friends. You lift them up and inspire. Even when I've been in my darkest spot and feel like shit, and ENFP man could tell me I was a worthy person and that I will continue to kick ass in my life. ENFP don't judge me for my mistakes. They just dust me off. They give me a soft place to land and then they tell me, "Go. Or I'll kick your ass myself! Knock em dead!"

When other's need support, they can "fall" into you. It feels like they haven't slept for years when they do. Do you realize the type of comfort you provide?

Even a shallow stranger, or a friends with benefit, will be treated with the utmost respect. You make the most out of everything. You want to affect people positively. You work so hard at knowing what a person will need. You hate doing things just "on the surface".

You worry about so and so treating so and so badly. It really affects your own heart. You have incredible empathy.

You hate hurting people, but you get fierce when someone has hurt someone you care about. You are incredibly loyal and fun to be around. You make a person feel welcomed. You also tend to have self deprecating humor. You are humble. Way too humble. And you often date beneath you and function lower than your abilities. This is because you are too humble. You could stand to have a bit more entitlement.

You are incredibly witty and clever. You are fair. You need love. You love being loved. But most importantly, you love to give love.

There is a strength in knowing what you believe in. Even if other's think it is wacky, you know why it's important to you. And you are like a lion protecting your values. You stand firm.

You fight for the underdog. You have a strong distaste for other men who use women. You treat people with respect and you can make anyone laugh when they are down.

You are big kids. You are dreamers. You examine people, and can truly see when someone is "bad". Most people are better for knowing you and grow from knowing you.

You have an inner dark side. There is an inner pain. You rarely share and will only show to those who are very special and trustworthy. You need to go inward at times. This is you being real with yourself. At that time, you are not concerned with others and what you project. You NEED to go inward at times and take care of yourself. This is to recuperate from giving SO much to others.

I could lay around with you and roll on the floor all day. We could watch cartoons, eat grilled cheese sandwiches, and blow on each other's bellies unexpectedly. And then we could all of a sudden get on our high horse and talk about how some stupid law passed and just denied a certain people their rights. Haters. We hate haters.

Haha. ENFP men are cute. So very cute. So squeezable. But there is a hard core.

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You are so rare. I don't care about statistics. You guys are RARE and the world is lucky to have you.




Reading that and realising that there are people who appreciate us ENFP men made me break down in tears of joy, and I still can't read it without getting misty. I have it bookmarked and read it whenever I get self doubts.

I'm not a huge fan of self intros, so I guess... ask away?
 

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Welcome to PerC :happy:
 

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Now I feel loved :proud:

I was beginning to think letting the ENFP guy wallow in loneliness was some kind of in joke... j/k... or am I?:ninja:
 

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Welcome to PerC.
Your username reminds me of @Paradox1987.
He's an ENFP type 2, as well. :laughing:
 

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Well.... the "oxic" ending comes from toxic... which we can be when we go wrong... as I did, for far too long.

And thanks :)
 

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@Paradoxic Hey. And welcome. You'll learn a lot of stuff here and hopefully have some fun |D Btw, I like your avatar. I used to use the same one a long time ago. Just seeing it was like a flash of "whooaaaaaaa...."... sorry, off topic. Anyway, enjoy.
Glad I'm not the only one who likes it:proud:
 

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Hi Paradoxic,

ENFP saying hello and welcome. Sorry to hear you had a crisis moment last week, but your avatar makes me think a phoenix rising from the ashes...and maybe you, too, shall be!

Don't be a stranger on the boards...there are always lots of conversations going on over at the ENFP forum. Join and in and have fun.
 

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welcome welcome!!
So happy you're here!!!
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@Laguna, without even clicking on your profile, from that one post it was pretty easy to tell what type you where hehe.
Funny- if I hadn't been so tired- I would have put some fun and colorful picture in my welcome post which really would have given it away. So even without that, you are quite intuitive. lol
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Congrats on de-lurking! It's always nice to have another ENFP around :)
 
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