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God, I love him so much. Sorry. But it's true; he's so beautiful, and the most wonderful person. Sometimes, though, I can't understand in the least why he'd be drawn to someone like me. I seem the opposite of his ideals!

Let me stick in a little vignette before I go.

So, he's brilliant. He coded a chess AI for fun, then a checkers one very recently. He's great at chess, and pretty much anything involving strategy. I'm always so impressed. He coded me a little java application and it's so lovely. He's a math whiz, too. As for me, I'm pretty bad at all that. The stuff I'm good at is music, filmmaking, storytelling, writing, literature things.... But he doesn't feel too much of a need for those. So whenever we play a game or something, he beats me every time. He's just... lord, he's Spock. And though I'm very good at what I do, I really just want to have comparable skill in something he's good at and thinks is important. Like... I just want one board game that he doesn't think is stupid (so, not Cranium) that I can beat him at. Because sometimes it feels like since our skills are in such totally different spheres, that mine aren't at all relevant and that he's just sort of better than me. He doesn't get this. And it probably is juvenile of me to want to be able to beat him at something... but at the same time, I just want to feel like I'm good at something he cares about. Does this make sense to anyone? (I'd really like an honest opinion on how this strikes any ISTJs.)
Okay, so I really need to say the following: you need to believe in your awesomeness! What I'm reading right here is insecurity speaking, that you're comparing your lack of strengths to his multitude strengths.
It's not true! He's not doing that, so why are you?!
He wouldn't be so head over heels for you if you didn't have boat-loads going for you!

I think you have to BELIEVE that you mean the world to him. I mean, the first paragraph talked about how he's IN LOVE WITH YOU. And he's never been in a relationship before, so obviously you're THE FIRST person that has ever seen how wonderful HE is.... If millions of others had been in relationships with him before you, then being that very first girl to unlock his potential wouldn't be such a special thing now, would it?

I get what you're saying though - I have a crush on Spock, too... have you seen Star Trek 2009?! OMG I almost DIED when I saw that Vulcan for the first time, so I know what you mean!
I love logical, stoic men! They make me feel like I've died and gone to heaven :)
 

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On another note, my father is an ISTJ.
The best way to approach an ISTJ is by speaking his language: LOGIC.
When you want to get him to do something, you need to make a case for it, present him with all the facts. If, say, you need to get him to make an effort to touch you or compliment you, do something like this: take a "5 love languages" test and print the results. The statistics showing if touch or words of affirmation - that's right, literal facts and numbers - can be presented to him as YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL NEEDS.
Also, doing type research on your type and his type would help, quoting data that says things like "ENFPs needing lots of affirmation" (which I have read several times).

In short, ISTJs respond to factually-based cases. So don't just be like, "I feel... sad.... :(" Present your needs like a lawyer-psychologist combo, and he will respond, I promise.
 
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