Do I ever relate. I'm constantly finding new acquaintances and connecting with people for a short time...like, for the duration of a class. My friendships are sometimes distant, sometimes good. I don't understand why I have this problem and it bothers me so much that sometimes I get anxiety about it. From this board, I've learned that it's a bit typical for our type. We have a talent for relating to pretty much anybody...but we long for deeper connections and feel like outsiders.I seem to only make aquaintences, i have distant friendships. What is wrong with this picture? I met an INFJ the other day and we just clicked about poetry. Does this meen INFJs are a good type? What is the perfect friend/relationship type for an ENFP?
Speaking as an INFJ - with all the ENFP's I have known, there is a bit of a childlike quality. Everything's fascinating, you jump from topic to topic like mad.. you come up with the most crazy stories. It can be almost hypnotic - and something just makes it feel like everything's going to be alright. It can actually be quite healing. I feel I can take off my armor for a while, relax, and have a bit of fun.I think it's the other way around. Or possibly both?
IDK but it's funny how why we click...why is that?
Holy hell!! I don't think I could have said that better myself!! I've recently met someone who is INFJ and we hit it off straight away, like we just spoke for 6 hours non-stop, the whole day went by before we were ejected by Starbucks at closing time. She seems pretty prone to intensely moody moments, and yet she loves the way I can blabber on and on. It helps that she likes poetry and poets too though, as it makes life easier for me haha. When we hit common ground, those sub-conversations are actually magnificent, and I think she finds the ENFP enthusiasm and the constant ideas about what would be fun and how possibilities are genuinely endless in our heads quite endearing, whilst I find her ability to stay grounded so admirable, because when the flights of fancy take us, not only does conversation roll off into a hundred little tangents, our ability to fully concentrate on one thing goes with it... :wink:
We sometimes need protecting and you sometimes need that little bit of sparkle that we bring into your lives.roud:
- In my experience you love to talk about things you feel passionatly about which suits us just fine.
- We love to love people and someone that can love us back even with distance makes us swoon.
- You can be moody but our love sees right through your moods.
- And we both love to flirt.
I have an awesome ISTP friend. He's got, by far, the greatest sense of humour of anyone I know. I find it can be tricky finding a conversation-starter with him, but he trusts me enough to talk about just about anything, which is flattering given his public persona of being the military tough guy.Also, for some reason I think an ISTP would go well with an ENFP, have any of you guys had any encounters with an ISTP?