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Ahem, this does not mean.......should I get an ENFP boyfriend or not:laughing:, but that I have one.
At least HE says that he is an ENFP. he has done A LOT of different tests and gotten many different results, like: ISFP, INFP, INFJ, ENFP and ENTP. those were all...... at first, he thought ISFP and then INFP but when he read the ENFP-profile on the bestfittype page, he said that this is more like him than any other desciption he has read (even though not everything fits him there)..... soooo...he has indentified with an ENFP. the thing is.......mmmmh.....I'm not sooo sure, since I know at least one ENFP who is ENFP for certain (beyong aaany doubt)....and she is quite different from him..... in that she is really more crazy. that's not meant in a negative way.....she is so outgoing, makes a lot of jokes and connetions which are really funny....rather similar to an interview of Robin Williams I have seen. My bf can be so really funny too, making similar jokes....but...don*t know how to put it.....he does not appear as constantly creative and crazy like the girl I know...... I know, there are interpersonal differences, since no idividuals of a type are alike, and the girl could be an extreme E and N while my bf could be a weak E and N.
....so...what was my question........ do you think ENFPs can be (or come across, or behave) rather quietly? I hope you know what I mean by this....since I am of couse aware of the fact that extraverts can be quiet and shy and all. My bf is an extravert for sure, getting energy and becoming quite animated in groups, but not so often in one-on-ones.
 
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Surely. ENFPs may be more common to be quiet as well, considering their need for alone time, moreso than nearly every other extroverted type. Is he quiet all of the time? Do you know his reasons for being quiet in the first place?
 

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No, he is not quiet all of the time. He can be very enthusiatic as well, especially when he talks about a new project he has started or is planning on starting :)....in general, he is very enthusiatic when talking about things he is interested in.
on the other hand, sometimes when he is quiet I don't know exactly why he is quiet..... we really respond to each other's moods, I think :)....that means, when I'm sad or in a bad mood, that rubs off on him and vice versa. this can be a situation that makes him quiet.
 
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Well, the way you describe him 'sounds' ENFP. I think it's just the point of asking him why he becomes quiet that would determine otherwise.
I'll ask him about it the next time I see him..... in how far do you think types differ concerning the reasons for beeing quiet? I know this is a very general question; I'm just interested in what you think.
I could think of reasons beeing connected to Fi (maybe not talking when they are being hurt), or considering myself a connection to introversion in general (I become very quiet when I feel uncomfortable with situations, or people around me, or when I think someone is not interested in what I have to say etc.)...
 
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Well, several ENFPs I know stay quiet for the sake of others, or if they do not honestly have a motivation to be enthusiastic. Other types, such as us INTJs, may stay quiet out of lack of interest, or not even realize we're quiet.
 

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I'm an ENFP and I'm not very quite or outgoing.
 

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Well, several ENFPs I know stay quiet for the sake of others, or if they do not honestly have a motivation to be enthusiastic. Other types, such as us INTJs, may stay quiet out of lack of interest, or not even realize we're quiet.
Is asked him, and he said that he gets quiet when he feels personally attacked, and also in this context he thinks things through before answering.....Mh..guess this rather sounds like Fi or something like that....I don't knwo..... I think, otherwise, that he also stays quiet when he is lacking a motivation to be enthusiastic. that's at least how I perceive him...
 
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That does sound like Fi, as you said, which would further lend evidence to his being an ENFP, or xxFP, at least. Do you have any other doubts concerning?
 

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That does sound like Fi, as you said, which would further lend evidence to his being an ENFP, or xxFP, at least. Do you have any other doubts concerning?
I think that's as far as I can get at the moment.....I'm leaning towards ENFP somehow. Considering that people of any type can differ in their individual ways........I don't know if I'll ever be 100% clear about his type, but maybe that's never possible with anyone.
Thank you a LOT for your help!
 
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