Hi ISTJs,
I am a gay male ENFP, and in the last year I have struggled in coming out to my mom who is an ISTJ.
I have told her multiple times, but she tells me that I need to give girls a chance, and that the only reasons that I never had a girlfriend was because I was just never socially comfortable [I am very extroverted, have lots of friends, all of them are girls, I am very comfortable with them]. Finally, she tells me that, if I ever did have a relationship with another guy, she would always love me, but could never approve of me. Last time I tried to talk to her, she baked me cupcakes to show that she loved me and to bribe me to "go straight."
While it would be nice to find some way to truly come out to her. But, to me this is a big thing and not so simple. But, even the simple things in life I have a hard time communicating to her why I like things, or what I did the other day with my friends, or why I am majoring in my major. She gives me love, and yes, I need love from my mom. But, I am looking for understanding and wondering how to make this connection easier between us?
Please, any help would be much appreciated.
I am a gay male ENFP, and in the last year I have struggled in coming out to my mom who is an ISTJ.
I have told her multiple times, but she tells me that I need to give girls a chance, and that the only reasons that I never had a girlfriend was because I was just never socially comfortable [I am very extroverted, have lots of friends, all of them are girls, I am very comfortable with them]. Finally, she tells me that, if I ever did have a relationship with another guy, she would always love me, but could never approve of me. Last time I tried to talk to her, she baked me cupcakes to show that she loved me and to bribe me to "go straight."
While it would be nice to find some way to truly come out to her. But, to me this is a big thing and not so simple. But, even the simple things in life I have a hard time communicating to her why I like things, or what I did the other day with my friends, or why I am majoring in my major. She gives me love, and yes, I need love from my mom. But, I am looking for understanding and wondering how to make this connection easier between us?
Please, any help would be much appreciated.