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ENFP dating....can you read minds?

I went on a few dates and hung out with a female ENFP about a month ago and we really hit it off well. Unfortunately she had to move for work so it didn't work out. But while we were hanging out, and especially in more intimate moments, it was like I could read her mind. I could read her every move and knew exactly what she was thinking and going to do before she did it. Maybe it was because we are both ENFPs and think alike. My intuition isn't very strong for an ENFP but it was like I was reading her mind. Anyone else had an experience like that with an ENFP or any other type?
 

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>.> We're good at reading people and we don't usually try to be anything but genuine. ENFPs are open books. ^_^ All the Ne is bound to make all sorts of connections - bet the conversation was jumping all over the place.
 

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I would love to experience something like this sometime. I'm pretty tired of being wrong all the time... Like with this last girl, I couldn't read her at all. We where on a date and she leaned in to me. I thought, "whoa, Could this be?" So I leaned in as well and letting my hearts instinct take control. With all the tender care in the world, I lifted my sandwich to her lips and not taking my eyes from hers. She pulled back with a confused half smile. I let her know it was ok and that I wasn't scared, that I was ready to share my sandwich with her. She looked very nervous. Then she took a quick bite. Something was wrong. I thought to myself "Something is wrong. I don't think she was ready for sandwich sharing." I just wish I was able to read her and know this. I could have told her, "Whoa, there! How abouts we take it easy, huh? Nice and slow like."

I guess it ate her up inside, because after that, she told me that this probably wasn't going work out. And she ran away, probably in hopes to figure herself out. I just Wish I was able to read her, to know that really deep down inside she wasn't ready. Grant it she thought she was ready, but I Should have known we where moving too fast. I should have know what was good for us. I should have left that damned sandwich on my plate. Curses!
 

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i had a friend who was gay and enfp. we probably would have made a great couple.
 

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I had a crazy intense relationship with an ENFx a few years ago. It was super intense and we vibed in a very deep N and F way...I hadn't been exposed to that type of energy before. His work options took him away and we tried to maintain a long distance relationship but it was doomed for failure. We are trying to be friends and he does return once a year to visit various family but I am finding it difficult to have had such an intense experience to just settle with being just friends...it's like we can't turn off the N thing and it's hard...we both have had different realtionships over the years since he's been gone.

Anyway - I would put my heart on the line again with another ENFP type.:blushed:

T-Rex - I completely understand about the N thing not working. It's difficult when I can't read people - I don't know what they're thinking or will react to so I find myself toning myself down.
 

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Woahh, found out. Yes, we're superhumans with psychic abilities.

But on serious note, yes, we (or at least I, as I can only speak for myself) are able to utilize our Ne to read people pretttty well, and I think it's true especially for the significant others we're trying to please, as ENFPs has the tendency to always strive to be the "best lover," even if it's not always truly genuine.

This is a double edged sword, I feel, because as helpful as this ability is in establishing a connection with others and being a good friend, partner, etc. we can also be manipulative because we can read them so well. I hope I'm not the only one when I say that I've had more than a few experiences in which I knew exactly how to act to make the others feel/think exactly the way I want them to, and used this knowledge to my advantage. Also, as good as we are with our Ne, we're not exactly Psychic yet-- which can sometimes make us convinced of the "fact" that is absolutely untrue, provoking unnecessary stress and strain on relationships.

tl;dr: We are good with "reading minds," and we can either use this for good or for bad.
 

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I can totally read other ENFP's and INFP's I'm with, as they can read me, it's not exactly telepathic usually, just a natural understanding of what makes the other tick.

I have had a few that went far beyond that though, really telepathic, even from distances we could feel what was going on with eachother. I tend to call these types my soulsisters/brothers. These kind of connections also tend to be instant connections for me, there's no need to get to know them first to know that's how the connection is going to be, I just know it when I meet them. Of course to get to the point where we feel eachother over long distances takes a bit longer to get to, but not that long. A few hours of conversation can even do it sometimes.
 

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Sure, with that ENFP guy, that happened from the begining, even though we weren´t in the same city. Even once, I dreamt he told me a secret, a few weeks later I told him about that dream and he said that night he was going to talk to me about it, and there was no way I could now that... yeah its that Ne, I love that:blushed:
 

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I've never had the pleasure of getting to know another ENFP, but I have very intense connections with the two INFPs that I talk to the most. With one, I can sometimes finish his sentences and know what he's about to say.
 

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Man I wish I had a relationship where I could read their mind. Often times it's like reading a book written in a different language...
 

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My friend, who's an ENFP, wanted to try out for drum major of our marching band. At the time, I was drum major, so I had to teach her. Though I didn't know it (I had no idea what her MBTI was yet.), I was teaching her exactly how she needed it, while everyone else just got left in the dust.

Needless to say, due to the connection we already innately had because of our mindsets--plus the fact that ENFPs are natural leaders, anyway--she got drum major the year after I did. :happy:
 

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That's not difficult to believe, WMD - every type has a different learning style, and the MBTI is how you take in and process information, so ENFPs have the same strengths and weaknesses when it comes to learning style.
>.> And I think ENFPs make good teachers because part of how we learn is explaining so that details set in.
 

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A value of mine is to NOT read minds. But I do have tons and tons of empathy.

EDITED to stay on topic.
 

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I can totally read other ENFP's and INFP's I'm with, as they can read me, it's not exactly telepathic usually, just a natural understanding of what makes the other tick.

I have had a few that went far beyond that though, really telepathic, even from distances we could feel what was going on with eachother. I tend to call these types my soulsisters/brothers. These kind of connections also tend to be instant connections for me, there's no need to get to know them first to know that's how the connection is going to be, I just know it when I meet them. Of course to get to the point where we feel eachother over long distances takes a bit longer to get to, but not that long. A few hours of conversation can even do it sometimes.
I have totally experienced that before, and it is intensely profound!
 

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:unsure:i am new here and also just found out im a enfp and am amazed at how right on it is with everything about myself, my life ect. also i have always been able to read people, those who i have a instant connection more so, Now im curious about everyones personality that i know.
 

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Haha! I do this all the time w/all types. Sometimes it freaks them out as I anticipate their needs, sexual and otherwise, often before they even realize what they want. As ENFPs we're intuitive and people-pleasing w/crazy amounts of empathy. So that probably explains why.
I, too, want to experience that... and I agree with the empathy/ intuitive parts..... We are just TOO tuned to everything around us, hence the reason it seems like mindreading.

going to my corner to wish and pray for someone to be "in tune" with.... sigh
 
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