Yeah, this is pretty much how I act too. It takes A LOT to get me there, but if I crack I'll go into a tirade of drama and start spouting off - sometimes even stuff I don't even believe in an effort to get it off my chest and get back to normal. Come to think of it, the more unrealistic I can make the rant usually the faster I can calm down because I'll come to my senses faster about how ridiculous I'm being. I don't understand it, it's some subconscious self-defense mechanism I suppose.That's interesting. I dated and ENFP guy who would kind of snap at me out of nowhere (at least it seemed like nowhere to me) and I figured out it was because I'd hurt his feelings in some way. When he was angry he would have these explosions of emotion and all of this crazy stuff would spout out of his mouth. It was almost like he'd be possessed or something for a few minutes. I'd never know how much of what he said was stuff he meant, or just stuff that would come flying out because it's what he was feeling at the time. I've never seen anything quite like it.
What do you feel like after you've had one of these episodes? Have you ever gone past the point of no return with someone while angry?Yeah, this is pretty much how I act too. It takes A LOT to get me there, but if I crack I'll go into a tirade of drama and start spouting off - sometimes even stuff I don't even believe in an effort to get it off my chest and get back to normal. Come to think of it, the more unrealistic I can make the rant usually the faster I can calm down because I'll come to my senses faster about how ridiculous I'm being. I don't understand it, it's some subconscious self-defense mechanism I suppose.
It's adrenaline filled to say the least. I'm probably visibly shaking, not usually crying but sometimes yeah. So, immediately after there really is no feel to it; sort of numb, I suppose.What do you feel like after you've had one of these episodes? Have you ever gone past the point of no return with someone while angry?
Yeah, the last blow out I had with my ex went beyond where anybody else I'd known had taken things--like he just wanted to ruin me. It's hard to describe. Luckily the NT part of me knew that what he was saying was completely irraitonal but it was very surprising. It seemed so unlike him...Angry - I insult people. Big time. I'll just be yelling, and saying all kinds of crazy stuff. Then I'll fume for awhile, take a deep breath, and move on.
Defensive - I actually get very defensive very often... possibly because I live with an INTJ. I'm overly sensitive, in that I take every criticism sooooo personally. I think if I were in an environment with a type that's more typically understanding, I would be able to chill a lot more. I cry when I feel like someone is attacking me as a person.
Hurt - depends on the type of hurt. I usually get pissed off and shut down for a little while. If it's someone I've been in love with, and they leave, I fall apart. Crying, erratic, unpredictable for awhile... then it's like, when I come out of it, I morph into my shadow type so I can hide and build a tower around myself. When I'm hurt, I want protection, and if there's no one to protect me, then I will do it myself, and it will generally not be in a fun or positive way. :sad:
Yes snapping is an understatement, I have NEVER got violent with a woman, but I have wished upon them breast cancer....That's interesting. I dated and ENFP guy who would kind of snap at me out of nowhere (at least it seemed like nowhere to me) and I figured out it was because I'd hurt his feelings in some way. When he was angry he would have these explosions of emotion and all of this crazy stuff would spout out of his mouth. It was almost like he'd be possessed or something for a few minutes. I'd never know how much of what he said was stuff he meant, or just stuff that would come flying out because it's what he was feeling at the time. I've never seen anything quite like it.
I agree with you 110%. My best friend's an INTJ... but we've been friends for long enough so now he recognizes my "You're being a douchbag" look.Defensive - I actually get very defensive very often... possibly because I live with an INTJ. I'm overly sensitive, in that I take every criticism sooooo personally. I think if I were in an environment with a type that's more typically understanding, I would be able to chill a lot more.
I'm the same way! LOL:shocked:When I'm really mad or upset, I usually go on rants about how angry I am (though usually if it doesn't pertain to people around me.) I can be quite loud as I storm up and down.....rather dramatic really. :frustrating: Of course, I get it all out of my system and 5 minutes later, I'm okay.
If I'm Really upset at someone that I'm close with though, I get super quiet. I withdraw, and I'll usually just leave. As soon as I stop making noise, that's how you know somethings wrong. .....same thing goes for an injury. If I'm complaining about how much it hurts, then I'm fine. :laughing:
YES OHGOD JsdflksdfjkdfjdfljkKLSdfkjd and I really, really hate it. I'm uncomfortable around my roommates - they're partiers, into makeup and drinking, gossip constantly - because they're nothing like me. and they're creepy, they're not trustworthy, and I have to be constantly on my guard around them because I have live with them for the rest of the year and I need to them to have at least a neutral view of me. which sounds stupid and paranoid, blah blah blah, I know, but they really unsettle me.Do you often feel anxious around certain people? If so, why?
EXACTLY the sameI tend to get very defensive and refuse to admit that I'm wrong.
When I get really REALLY mad, I usually cry. If I'm really sad I'll just sit there in silence, but if I start raging--- the tears will pour out. It's quite embarrassing.