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Hi guys :) I'm a newbie to this whole personality cafe thing. Anyways, I wanted to verify the test(s) I took. So I took an Enneagram test and I for (in order) 4w5 7w8 9w8. And when I took it to test my type my top ones were 2, 7, 4, and 3. I also took some other tests to see if I really was an ENFP. The one I took on human metrics said I was an ENFP al three times I took it, but the ones provided on here said my type was an ENFJ/ESFJ but both times my second possible choice was an ENFP? I can relate to the descriptions of the ENFPs perfectly though. And ENFJ's are too organized and I'm not at all! :laughing: I mean I plan a lot but I don't always follow through. Anyways, I'm pretty sure I'm an ENFP because I test it like 80% of the time. I'm pretty funny and outgoing, but I can also be deep and passionate and intense emotionally. I daydream a lot. I'm also really romantic and get lonely. I am also pretty open and talkative but at times appear shy but really I'm not. I'm pretty empathetic when I grow up I relay want to help people. I'm a teenager.

ANYWAYS, I'm sorry that was so long this is my first thread. I'm wondering if you guys have any of these 'cons' that I seem to have. I'm wondering if these are for ENFP's or just me, personally. Do you:

-Get lonely at times
-Romantically intense
-Passionate
-Daydream a lot
-Overly sensitive
-Overly emotional
-Change moods often
-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside?
-Laugh a lot
-Over-think things
-Fearful of losing yourself
-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times?
-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot
-Want to make a change in the world?

These are my main things like I said. Anyways, can you relate? Do you think I am an ENFP? Thanks :)
 

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Yup, you're an ENFP alright ;-) welcome to the club of whack jobs and eternal childhood !

But never trust the tests. Enneagram is better figured out by looking up the various fixations, perC has some good references you can read through
 

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Hahah thanks! Yay! I'm so happy I'm an ENFP :) I am not that wacky haha but people used to call me weird all the time last year I've really changed though. The only thing I'd say though that goes against being an ENFP is I do tend to judge certain types of people, I mean I give everyone a chance but I really don't like the people who don't have a goal in life or the popular, shallow, mean teenage girls at my school but I'm not going to be mean to them or anything,

SORRY. I always overtype. I've been like on a quest to find myself these past few months and unravel who I really am, if that makes sense. And you, Hurricane, just made it 100X easier. Thanks!
 
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hmm ... test results. right, those things. I'm confident that I'm Ne dominant, but weather I'm a feeler or a thinker I do not know. I used to identify as ENTP until recently because, well, maybe it's conditioned as both my parents are engineers and thinkers. My sister is a psychologist and a thinker as well. so ....

-Get lonely at times

Even when I'm around others. Sometimes crowds help articulate my feeling of loneliness and I just have to disappear into the woods or walk down a quiet street to feel more at peace.

-Romantically intense

Hell yeah; I don't want to go there. It's kinda embarrassing.

-Passionate

Yes, and no. I have friends who claim I can be the most passionate person they know; but, that's only true if I'm interested in something. If I'm couped up, and only see the bitter ugliness in the world, I catch it like a disease. Then it's hard for me to be optimistic, caring or enthused about anything. I grow bitter and misanthropic until I see something that is truly wonderful and I have my spirits up again.

-Daydream a lot

Yes

-Overly sensitive

Yes; strange thing is, I do have thick skin. I do take things personally and, at the same time, I can be understanding of others and their situation and able to see their perspective. Just because I accept and tolerate something doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.

-Overly emotional

In comparison to?

-Change moods often

Can't answer; I do go through heavy depressive phases, and, when I'm around good company or doing something I love doing I can be extatic. I used to think I was bipolar until I stopped to think that it might be rational to feel how I feel given the circumstances of my life.

-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside?

Depends on who it is. Sometimes I fake happiness when I really want to rub someone's face in concrete. Other times its genuine. I try to avoid draining relationships and feel it's better to stay home and read. Speaking of which ...

-Laugh a lot

Depends. See mood.

-Over-think things

Yes. And once again, yes. Especially friendships and relationships

-Fearful of losing yourself

Sometimes I feel I already have and I need to find myself again.

-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times?

I can be the most insecure and the most confident guy ever. Depends on what it is; if it's a girl I really like, insecure. When I'm bashing away the keys at the piano, talking books or science, confident. Everything else, hit and miss depending on the day.

-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot

Everything is subjective.

-Want to make a change in the world?

Did, when I was younger. Now I hope to change myself so I don't become a bitter old man, and attract bitter old people who will in turn make my even more bitter and hateful to the planet. That would suck. Really suck. Ideally I'd like to have good friends, be self sufficient in a job which isn't personally degrading or degrading to other people, read my books and maybe when I feel better about everything, write something.

I'm in my 30s and ... nothing ... has ... changed. Oh, and verbosity and tangents are but subsets of Ne.
 
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-extreme in all senses

-dynamic: constantly changing. sometimes for the good of the group, other times this throws ff the group and i appear 2faced, indecisive, self-benefitting

- pseudo "bipolar" /"adhd"

- lack of follow through makes me appear bad with commitments

- too excited about things that i adapt my view on them, constantly change: my thesis, or my goal, or my business idea, etc. this goes with the lack of follow through, sure, but to me, it portrays my worst fear : NEVER BEING SATISFIED. too much of an obsessive perfectionist over everything that it makes me judge myself, those around me, and my accomplishments continually. constantly trying to improve myself and the lives of everyone around me. makes me appear restless and needy, somewhat entitled in some senses.

- controlling in a non-agressive, more persuasive way. if i have a suggestion, if you dont have a logical alternate, im going to convince you to do what i KNOW is going to help you! its not for me-- its for you! im sorry! but people know this, and they ask for the suggestions... so its sorda situational. i have been conditioned to teach and aid those around me in making life choices, sorry i now cant seem to stop doing so.

- fixate on something someone says, or an emotion they express. then, my intuition leads me to think they are upset with me or that they are doing something intentionally because of this factor. i think people are more passive than they are and it gets me into trouble and provokes arguments that, in hindsight, stem from my pseudo-insecurity (overly intuitive, assumptive mind).

- i interrupt people telling stories for backstory, details, etc.

-i cut people off mid statement or story to GUESS what they are going to say.... to assume what comes next. i try to finish sentences, naturally, to show i care and that my intuition is correct (totally analyzing my behavior, this is in no way something i plan to do each time i do it)

-obsessive and addicted to the smallest things (parmesan cheese, drum and bass, nicotine, editing photos, snap chat )

-too obsessed with analyzing peoples character and personality with them. i get upset when they dont care about understanding themselves and those around them as much as me

-i need to be in control, i need to be the one to determine the lack of plan. i need to be the driver so i can song-adhd and no one can say anything about it. i need to be in control so no one can be upset with my lack of an ability to get out of the car quickly and gather my belongings

-i lose everything. i put my keys down and 10 seconds later forget having done so.

- i push my body to its physical and emotional limits. by choice. i love the lifestyle. itl affect me in the long run without doubt

- very very fixated on my body

- crave deep connections with people

-procrastinator

- can be somewhat of a hypocrite because i change my stance on something i vocalize quite a bit, but forget to tell the group of this change (and to be honest, shouldn't have to/there is no appropriate time to do so). its just people sort of take in things i say and the after a month they say, wow you contradict yourself so damn much what is this.
 

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Just hopped over to the ENFP forum because apparently INTJ's fit perfectly with you guys. Hope you don't mind if I come and annoy you with an occasional post :wink:

A lot of these don't look like flaws at all to me.


- I assume lots of ppl get lonely
- God, I love passion (for an idea that is). people who are not passionate about ideas are a waste of time to know imo.
- I'm also over sensitive too. I guess it's weird, but it will help you bond better with partner/friends, which is really important for your own life
- INTJ's LOOOOVE spending enormous amounts of time in our own heads thinking. I wouldn't call it over-thinking though. It helps us understand concepts better, and is so way fun to figure things out and understand them deeply. If you guys are anything like that, I don't see it as a downside at all, and god it is INFINITELY better than idiots who don't spend any time on introspection and thought analysis.

You sound like you are just not yet seeing the upsides to alot of your personality traits. Alot of them look awesome if you ask me.
 

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Please note this is being written by an individual who is quite possibly nearing intoxication, therefore might be nonsensical and edited in the future for the sake of clarity.

-Get lonely at times
All the time. I can be in the middle of a group of friends and still feel lonely, because there are very few people I lower my guard too completely.

-Romantically intense
Yes and funnily enough it's something I don't completely hide. I'll randomly say incredibly intense idealistic and romantic statements in the middle of conversation, and simply pass it off as sarcasm.

-Passionate
Only about a few things. Suffering, inequity, misfortune and such often fuel my passion to help people and to bring forward change. I don't have many buttons that can be pushed, but when people are ignorant of the suffering and misfortune of others, seeing only their problems and no others, I can be pushed into an argument that I don't usually back down from. I have extreme sympathy for underdogs and the downtrodden, and almost always end up siding with the losers because of it.

-Daydream a lot
Yes, around a quarter of my day is daydreaming. Especially if I'm doing monotonous things I dislike.

-Overly sensitive
When I was younger this was true. As I grew older I began to realise that I am far more sensitive than most people, especially most men, and I slowly developed the understanding to notice that most people aren't actively trying to insult or hurt me. Learning this is important, because otherwise the bad sides of extreme sensitivity will outweigh the positives.

-Overly emotional
Yes. When I was younger I didn't have control over my emotions, and it showed very quickly that I was (and still am) an emotional roller coaster. As I've gotten older and developed my Fi, I've been able to turn my emotions inward, and quite often put on a mask if I'm feeling emotional and I don't want to reveal this weakness to people.

-Change moods often
Yep. Hourly, even. Crazy-fun-risk-taking-cheery-happy-clown mode one moment, quiet-deep-feeling-philosopher mode the next. Sometimes swords-drawn-revolutionary-for-a-new-cause mode rears it's head too; the primarily similarity between all my moods is that they're all focused on other people in some way, even if it's abstract.

-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside?
Strangely enough I usually separate the two. Being around people and being in contact with people typically makes me happy, even if my day has been bad. It's when I'm home alone that my inner melancholic side rises.

-Laugh a lot
Laugh and smile a lot. Almost all of my outward expressions of emotions are positive ones. And people can usually tell when I'm "angry" mode or "thoughtful" mode because I've gone quiet.

-Over-think things
Yes. I also tend to go over things in the past, continuously wondering what would have happened if X, or if Y. I also do this for the future, probably more so for the future. I wouldn't call it over thinking, but I'm always interested in the endless possibilities that arise in and from every situation.

-Fearful of losing yourself
I used to have this when I was younger. I don't now, I lost myself for a time and that demon is past me, I know who I am now and I'm not going down that path again. My greatest fear now is not making enough of an impact (on people and on the world at large) before what I have begun to think will be an early death.

-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times?
As with most facets of my personality (and many ENFP's, I am willing to bet); it sits at one extreme or the other. I can be extremely confident, especially if it's for another person, or being confident in another person. But I myself can be extremely insecure, and rely on the support of others to keep me confident.

-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot
Yes. And always ask people of their perspectives on almost everything, and try to see situations and things from a number of different perspectives; often leading to difficulty regarding what perspective, if it has to be just one, is the right one.

-Want to make a change in the world?
Yes. I don't know what change, but I want to make major impact on the world. That desire is second only to my desire to impact on people within the world.

Do you think I am an ENFP? Thanks :)
I do. And I wish I knew I was at your age.

- lack of follow through makes me appear bad with commitments
This I have too. Unless I develop a deep passion for whatever task I'm doing at the moment, it will usually fall to more attentive and stable people to finish the task I've started.

- controlling in a non-agressive, more persuasive way. if i have a suggestion, if you dont have a logical alternate, im going to convince you to do what i KNOW is going to help you! its not for me-- its for you! im sorry! but people know this, and they ask for the suggestions... so its sorda situational. i have been conditioned to teach and aid those around me in making life choices, sorry i now cant seem to stop doing so.
I have this also. If anything it's only given me a reputation for being (and I quote) "the silly guy who at random times spits out sage-like advice that you'd expect to hear from an experienced and knowledgeable grandpa".

- fixate on something someone says, or an emotion they express. then, my intuition leads me to think they are upset with me or that they are doing something intentionally because of this factor. i think people are more passive than they are and it gets me into trouble and provokes arguments that, in hindsight, stem from my pseudo-insecurity (overly intuitive, assumptive mind).
Used to do this. As I've gotten a bit older I've grown more accurate in my intuitive readings into people.

- i interrupt people telling stories for backstory, details, etc.

-i cut people off mid statement or story to GUESS what they are going to say.... to assume what comes next. i try to finish sentences, naturally, to show i care and that my intuition is correct (totally analyzing my behavior, this is in no way something i plan to do each time i do it)
Yes to both of these. Nothing to add.

-i need to be in control, i need to be the one to determine the lack of plan. i need to be the driver so i can song-adhd and no one can say anything about it. i need to be in control so no one can be upset with my lack of an ability to get out of the car quickly and gather my belongings
This is where we differ. I hate being in control. What I want is to be free and always have the option to escape if I need it. Honestly, one of the worst feelings for me is feeling like I have no escape from the current situation, regardless of what that actual situation is. Funnily enough, despite my love for freedom and my need to escape, I deep inside want somebody else to take control, somebody who has the patience, understanding and ability to do what I cannot; but somebody who can also do it with the same level of sensitivity and empathy that I have. Essentially it's a romantic ideal and sadly, she probably doesn't exist.

- i push my body to its physical and emotional limits. by choice. i love the lifestyle. itl affect me in the long run without doubt
I do this too, I just want to live it up. Sometimes, deep inside I feel that this is just my way of screaming out for help, but I often think that's just me overthinking things again. I genuinely like extremes and living in the unstable fast lane. I don't think ENFP's are built for longevity or stability.

- very very fixated on my body
Not so much my body, but my image. I'm probably more fixated on my appearance and how I present myself to people than 99% of men. I take great care to make sure I always stand out from the crowd, even if I'm in a work uniform that everybody else at a workplace would also wear, you'll be able to spot me because I lean right over the line of work uniform standards.

I mostly wear dark colours, especially blacks, and, ironically, tend to be both unkempt and extremely tidy at the same time (and I have no clue why I do this); for example: one day I'll iron my clothes and wear a black button up shirt and one of my nicer, expensive pairs of jeans, but also not shave or brush my hair that day. The next day I'll wear a decade old pair of faded, torn jeans and a band shirt. Then I'll proceed to shampoo, condition and straighten my hair, shave my beard and apply aftershave.

My concern about self-image stems from a need to be noticed by people (a part of my drive to impact on people I think) and to stand out from the crowd, never being seen to conform to the dull standards of the every man; even though I don't actually look down on people who conform.

- crave deep connections with people

- procrastinator
Both of these I do.

- can be somewhat of a hypocrite because i change my stance on something i vocalize quite a bit, but forget to tell the group of this change (and to be honest, shouldn't have to/there is no appropriate time to do so). its just people sort of take in things i say and the after a month they say, wow you contradict yourself so damn much what is this.
People say this of me, but it's usually because I don't have much of a filter between what pops into my head and what I say. However, it's usually only on topics or subjects that I don't have a great amount of feeling for. When I develop a passion for something my feelings regarding it tend to be set in stone.
 

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Get lonely at times
Yes. The worst is when you're surrounded by a group of laughing friends, but are empty and sad on the inside.
-Romantically intense
Well, I haven't had a boyfriend/girlfriend yet so I'm not so sure on that 'un. But I can imagine so. :p
-Passionate
Christ yes.
-Daydream a lot
Spend most of my time doing this.
-Overly sensitive
Outwardly, people think I don't give a fuck on certain things...however, I annoy myself with how sensitive I can be...and I'm sure it annoys others so if need be, I keep it to myself.
-Change moods often
I've found this to be true, recently. Not sure whether age or...
-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside?
Often, yes.
-Laugh a lot
mm hmm :)
-Over-think things
Always
-Fearful of losing yourself
Yeeep...
-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times?
Yeeeep...
-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot
I bore my friends to death, I'm sure. :)
-Want to make a change in the world?
YES.
@SarahSams - are you me? Am I you? :p
 

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-Get lonely at times - Yeh like always.
-Romantically intense-
At times when i find the right person which happens in fiction more than in the real world.:s
-Passionate -
Depends.
-Daydream a lot -
Always
-Overly sensitive -
About certain things
-Overly emotional -
Nah
-Change moods often -
Nah Im always half dead half alive
-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside?-
I hate human beings
-Laugh a lot -
Nope
-Over-think things -
Yeh
-Fearful of losing yourself-
I was lost to begin with. ha ha ha
-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times? -
Yeh but i think im bipolar
-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot -
Yep
-Want to make a change in the world? -
Lol As long as i am happy i really dont care


P.S Im not an ENFP but i just wanted to talk to someone and had no one to talk to so i thought ill fill this up. :D
 

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I know I'm not an ENFP, but I can't believe how much of this I relate to as an INFJ.
-Get lonely at times (definitely. Even though I'm naturally an introvert and very independent, there are many times I just wished I could find someone who just got me and accepted me for all my strengths and flaws.)
-Romantically intense (Yes. When I love someone, I LOVE them. I can't explain it, but it is a very deep feeling that never goes away over the years.)
-Passionate (Definitely. Many people, especially extroverts, are surprised by my passion. I have known to be very opinionated and persuasive about my ideals. Many times I am able to get people to meet me at least half way.)
-Daydream a lot (If you let me, I'll do it all day. Love my Ni!!!).
-Overly sensitive (Definitely. I can be hurt rather easily. I can take things way too personally and have major difficulty forgiving people. I can easily shut people out if they hurt me.)
-Overly emotional (In public, I can hide my feelings very well to the point where nothing seems to bother me. In private though, everything comes out. Sometimes, even uncontrollably).
-Change moods often (It doesn't take much to make me happy. The flipside though is it doesn't take much to me upset or sad.)
-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside? (It depends. In a more extroverted mood, yes. I love people. In a more introverted, sad, and/or stressed/worried mood, it makes me more lonely and disconnected).
-Laugh a lot (When I'm around amusing people!)
-Over-think things (The Ni).
-Fearful of losing yourself (The Ni has helped me throughout my life in determining who I am without a lot of influence externally. However, the more in tune with my Ni, the more I feel I am losing my connection with others).
-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times? (YES!!! I am very confident in my work ability, academic ability, music ability, volunteer work, and surprisingly new situations. I am not confident in social situations (especially around people I like and or admire) and when I am around people I feel I need to compete with. INFJ's hate being competitive and feeling the need they have to compete).
-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot (Around people I trust.)
-Want to make a change in the world? (When I was a child, I wanted to be a cross between Hillary Clinton, Princess Diana, and Oprah. Yes, a typical INFJ. High expectations!).
 

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Haha, I d most of these things, thanks :)
 

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I know I'm not an ENFP, but I can't believe how much of this I relate to as an INFJ.
-Get lonely at times (definitely. Even though I'm naturally an introvert and very independent, there are many times I just wished I could find someone who just got me and accepted me for all my strengths and flaws.)
-Romantically intense (Yes. When I love someone, I LOVE them. I can't explain it, but it is a very deep feeling that never goes away over the years.)
-Passionate (Definitely. Many people, especially extroverts, are surprised by my passion. I have known to be very opinionated and persuasive about my ideals. Many times I am able to get people to meet me at least half way.)
-Daydream a lot (If you let me, I'll do it all day. Love my Ni!!!).
-Overly sensitive (Definitely. I can be hurt rather easily. I can take things way too personally and have major difficulty forgiving people. I can easily shut people out if they hurt me.)
-Overly emotional (In public, I can hide my feelings very well to the point where nothing seems to bother me. In private though, everything comes out. Sometimes, even uncontrollably).
-Change moods often (It doesn't take much to make me happy. The flipside though is it doesn't take much to me upset or sad.)
-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside? (It depends. In a more extroverted mood, yes. I love people. In a more introverted, sad, and/or stressed/worried mood, it makes me more lonely and disconnected).
-Laugh a lot (When I'm around amusing people!)
-Over-think things (The Ni).
-Fearful of losing yourself (The Ni has helped me throughout my life in determining who I am without a lot of influence externally. However, the more in tune with my Ni, the more I feel I am losing my connection with others).
-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times? (YES!!! I am very confident in my work ability, academic ability, music ability, volunteer work, and surprisingly new situations. I am not confident in social situations (especially around people I like and or admire) and when I am around people I feel I need to compete with. INFJ's hate being competitive and feeling the need they have to compete).
-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot (Around people I trust.)
-Want to make a change in the world? (When I was a child, I wanted to be a cross between Hillary Clinton, Princess Diana, and Oprah. Yes, a typical INFJ. High expectations!).[/QUOTE

thanks for answering :) I think all of us, as people, no matter what personality type we are, are similar in many ways,
 

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Just hopped over to the ENFP forum because apparently INTJ's fit perfectly with you guys. Hope you don't mind if I come and annoy you with an occasional post :wink:

A lot of these don't look like flaws at all to me.


- I assume lots of ppl get lonely
- God, I love passion (for an idea that is). people who are not passionate about ideas are a waste of time to know imo.
- I'm also over sensitive too. I guess it's weird, but it will help you bond better with partner/friends, which is really important for your own life
- INTJ's LOOOOVE spending enormous amounts of time in our own heads thinking. I wouldn't call it over-thinking though. It helps us understand concepts better, and is so way fun to figure things out and understand them deeply. If you guys are anything like that, I don't see it as a downside at all, and god it is INFINITELY better than idiots who don't spend any time on introspection and thought analysis.

You sound like you are just not yet seeing the upsides to alot of your personality traits. Alot of them look awesome if you ask me.
Thank you! :) INTJ ;) Hahah, we are all alike in many ways
 

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Please note this is being written by an individual who is quite possibly nearing intoxication, therefore might be nonsensical and edited in the future for the sake of clarity.



All the time. I can be in the middle of a group of friends and still feel lonely, because there are very few people I lower my guard too completely.



Yes and funnily enough it's something I don't completely hide. I'll randomly say incredibly intense idealistic and romantic statements in the middle of conversation, and simply pass it off as sarcasm.



Only about a few things. Suffering, inequity, misfortune and such often fuel my passion to help people and to bring forward change. I don't have many buttons that can be pushed, but when people are ignorant of the suffering and misfortune of others, seeing only their problems and no others, I can be pushed into an argument that I don't usually back down from. I have extreme sympathy for underdogs and the downtrodden, and almost always end up siding with the losers because of it.



Yes, around a quarter of my day is daydreaming. Especially if I'm doing monotonous things I dislike.



When I was younger this was true. As I grew older I began to realise that I am far more sensitive than most people, especially most men, and I slowly developed the understanding to notice that most people aren't actively trying to insult or hurt me. Learning this is important, because otherwise the bad sides of extreme sensitivity will outweigh the positives.



Yes. When I was younger I didn't have control over my emotions, and it showed very quickly that I was (and still am) an emotional roller coaster. As I've gotten older and developed my Fi, I've been able to turn my emotions inward, and quite often put on a mask if I'm feeling emotional and I don't want to reveal this weakness to people.



Yep. Hourly, even. Crazy-fun-risk-taking-cheery-happy-clown mode one moment, quiet-deep-feeling-philosopher mode the next. Sometimes swords-drawn-revolutionary-for-a-new-cause mode rears it's head too; the primarily similarity between all my moods is that they're all focused on other people in some way, even if it's abstract.



Strangely enough I usually separate the two. Being around people and being in contact with people typically makes me happy, even if my day has been bad. It's when I'm home alone that my inner melancholic side rises.



Laugh and smile a lot. Almost all of my outward expressions of emotions are positive ones. And people can usually tell when I'm "angry" mode or "thoughtful" mode because I've gone quiet.



Yes. I also tend to go over things in the past, continuously wondering what would have happened if X, or if Y. I also do this for the future, probably more so for the future. I wouldn't call it over thinking, but I'm always interested in the endless possibilities that arise in and from every situation.



I used to have this when I was younger. I don't now, I lost myself for a time and that demon is past me, I know who I am now and I'm not going down that path again. My greatest fear now is not making enough of an impact (on people and on the world at large) before what I have begun to think will be an early death.



As with most facets of my personality (and many ENFP's, I am willing to bet); it sits at one extreme or the other. I can be extremely confident, especially if it's for another person, or being confident in another person. But I myself can be extremely insecure, and rely on the support of others to keep me confident.



Yes. And always ask people of their perspectives on almost everything, and try to see situations and things from a number of different perspectives; often leading to difficulty regarding what perspective, if it has to be just one, is the right one.



Yes. I don't know what change, but I want to make major impact on the world. That desire is second only to my desire to impact on people within the world.



I do. And I wish I knew I was at your age.



This I have too. Unless I develop a deep passion for whatever task I'm doing at the moment, it will usually fall to more attentive and stable people to finish the task I've started.



I have this also. If anything it's only given me a reputation for being (and I quote) "the silly guy who at random times spits out sage-like advice that you'd expect to hear from an experienced and knowledgeable grandpa".



Used to do this. As I've gotten a bit older I've grown more accurate in my intuitive readings into people.



Yes to both of these. Nothing to add.



This is where we differ. I hate being in control. What I want is to be free and always have the option to escape if I need it. Honestly, one of the worst feelings for me is feeling like I have no escape from the current situation, regardless of what that actual situation is. Funnily enough, despite my love for freedom and my need to escape, I deep inside want somebody else to take control, somebody who has the patience, understanding and ability to do what I cannot; but somebody who can also do it with the same level of sensitivity and empathy that I have. Essentially it's a romantic ideal and sadly, she probably doesn't exist.



I do this too, I just want to live it up. Sometimes, deep inside I feel that this is just my way of screaming out for help, but I often think that's just me overthinking things again. I genuinely like extremes and living in the unstable fast lane. I don't think ENFP's are built for longevity or stability.



Not so much my body, but my image. I'm probably more fixated on my appearance and how I present myself to people than 99% of men. I take great care to make sure I always stand out from the crowd, even if I'm in a work uniform that everybody else at a workplace would also wear, you'll be able to spot me because I lean right over the line of work uniform standards.

I mostly wear dark colours, especially blacks, and, ironically, tend to be both unkempt and extremely tidy at the same time (and I have no clue why I do this); for example: one day I'll iron my clothes and wear a black button up shirt and one of my nicer, expensive pairs of jeans, but also not shave or brush my hair that day. The next day I'll wear a decade old pair of faded, torn jeans and a band shirt. Then I'll proceed to shampoo, condition and straighten my hair, shave my beard and apply aftershave.

My concern about self-image stems from a need to be noticed by people (a part of my drive to impact on people I think) and to stand out from the crowd, never being seen to conform to the dull standards of the every man; even though I don't actually look down on people who conform.



Both of these I do.



People say this of me, but it's usually because I don't have much of a filter between what pops into my head and what I say. However, it's usually only on topics or subjects that I don't have a great amount of feeling for. When I develop a passion for something my feelings regarding it tend to be set in stone.
WOOOOWW HOW LONG DID THAT TAKE YOU?! Thanks I really appreciate long answers, :) I am an ENFP. I'm pretty sure of myself now. It's weird, sometimes I feel like such a good person that I feel conceited, so I Remind myself about these things, when I say change in the world, I mean people. I plan on becoming a doctor and talking to all my patients and inspiring them to be more compassionate and do good, sort of like paying it forward. "I save your life, imagine what you can do for someone else." And starting my own organization with a co-founder so I can control and be out on the field. And also settling down with said-dream-guy xD. And starting a family. I am strong in faith as well so I hope the plan can work. World peace is an exaggeration, I hate wars but they cannot be stopped, I just want us to help pick each other up and genuinely like each other again. A lot of people in the world have the same goal as me. This is my passion and I hope it always will be. People are suffering, and it's not fair. And then there are the a**holes up there in the media who are doing nothing. Anyways, thanks for the great answer. :)
 

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Thanks for all the great answers it means a lot to me :)
 

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-Get lonely at times => Yes, because brain is telling me I gotta talk to folks and learn new things.
-Romantically intense => Yes, because being romantically lukewarm is not nearly as fun.
-Passionate => Yes. Wait, there is an alternative to being passionate?
-Daydream a lot => Yes. Impossible to shut down.
-Overly sensitive => Yes. Not getting email response = this person hates my gut.
-Overly emotional => Yes.
-Change moods often => Yes.
-Happy around people, but mood is neutral/different inside? => Yes.
-Laugh a lot => On a good day, yes.
-Over-think things => Eye: "Look, this is the reality." Brain: "I don't believe you." Eye: "You have no choice." Brain: "I can make up things." Eye: "..."
-Fearful of losing yourself => Yes.
-Insecure at some times, but pretty confident at other times? => Yes.
-Talk about your perspective on the world a lot => Used to do it a lot, but I realized that it's impossible to convert anyone to your views.
-Want to make a change in the world? => Definitely not! :wink:
 
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