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ENFP males: what attracts you and most of all, what maintains your interest?

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(welcome the ladies as well, looking for the guys to answer this one (so few ENFP guys on the thread). Though I do look forward to your insights as well because I know they'll be just as wonderful!).

Question: what attracts the ENFP male and what maintains your interest in the long run?

An ENFP male confirmed feelings of romantic interest in me and told me tonight that he dreamt about his last day and town and this time he had dreamt he kissed me before he had left from (in reality, we only hugged). :blushed:

Also, what are you general thoughts on the ENFP male and ENFJ female compatibility? Witnessed IRL? The ENFP in question is a low introvert, with moderate N & F functions, and a low P. I am also a low E, with a high N, mid F, and mid to high J. I don't know how much of that really matters....

Thanks fellow ENFs!:happy:
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Initial attraction, if we're being brutally honest, is going to be physical appearance, obviously. Beyond that, to get me interested beyond pure sexuality, you have to show a level of enthusiasm and intelligence about something that is near, matches, or exceeds my own. It rarely matters what that is: sports, drama, games, food, fashion, whatever. I just need you to have curiosity and passion about something you love, and I want you to tell me about it! Mostly because I do the same thing and I'd feel guilty if I force you to sit through conversations about video games without having to sit through something similar (though, the difference might be that I'm actually interested in what you have to say, regardless of the subject matter).

To maintain my interest, you'd have to change it every now and then. Spontaneity is a huge turn-on for me. It doesn't have to be extravagant or fancy or any of that--it just has to be spur of the moment. Intimacy/Sex is a big thing, as well, and in the same sense, it should be spontaneous. None of this planned "romantic night" bullshit. We're watching a movie and rubbed each other the right way. Let's get to it. It's more fun that way! :)

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